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What's your opinion?

Andie_83Andie_83 member
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I was lurking on the Baby Showers board tonight (bc I've heard it's quite the crazy place to be) and I was reading a thread about whether it's tacky to ask for a gift. I'm by no means trying to offend anyone, I'm just bored at work and I'm curious as to what everyone else thinks! Smile 

For me, I like to ask people if there's something they'd prefer for a gift (whether it be for xmas, a bday, a shower). Because to me, when someone buys me something, of course it's thoughtful, and I appreciate that they took the time to spend their hard earned money on me, but I feel terrible if it's something that I can't/won't use and it will just end up in a drawer forgotten or in the trash. So, I feel like that person spent time and money on me for practically nothing. An example would be an outfit that DH's great great aunt bought for Z at my baby shower. The outfit was absolutely hideous. If she were ever to visit, I would put it on Z, but it's not something that I would've had her in every day. 

I guess I just hate when people feel forced to buy me something just because they're invited to a party. I'm sure they have much better things to spend their money on than on me.

What do all think?

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  • rlmanningrlmanning member
    I prefer to know what people want/need. When shopping for gifts I generally ask what someone would like and I ALWAYS provide a gift receipt. This way if they do t like it or won't use it they can return it and get what they want. I would rather my gift be returned if the receiver will not use it. Just my opinion. :

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  • Andie_83Andie_83 member
    I'm definitely big on gift receipts too, I don't want someone to feel forced to keep something I bought them just because I bought it for them. Sometimes I think I'm too much of a people-pleaser maybe. I just want everyone to be happy LOL
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  • SunidazeSunidaze member

     ovI much prefer people give me guidance with a registry when I am inviting to aer shower or wedding or whatever.  And too, I much prefer people follow a registry I have created rather than coming up with a gift idea on their own.  We received items for our wedding that we did not register for and gift receipts were even included and guess what?  DH felt guilty about returning the items so we are stuck with them, taking up space in a storage unit.  I mean hideous (think wine glass set a la The Sopranos...gold rims and all).  And I when people shop from a registry...I really wish the would have the registry changed to reflect that the item was bought...rather than going somewhere else, getting it and you end up with 5 of something because someone (multiple someones) didn't want to be bothered with that little detail, leaving the recipient to do all the returning, running around.

    Okay.  Vent over.

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    imagerlmanning:
    I prefer to know what people want/need. When shopping for gifts I generally ask what someone would like and I ALWAYS provide a gift receipt. This way if they do t like it or won't use it they can return it and get what they want. I would rather my gift be returned if the receiver will not use it. Just my opinion. :


    Same here. I also like gift cards. That way the person can get whatever they want.
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  • march2008march2008 member

    I do prefer when someone has a gift registry and I did have a gift registry for our wedding showers and baby showers. However, some of the neatest gifts that I received were things that I did not registry for - like a handmade quilt that one of my best friend's made for me. So, I do think surprise gifts can be very fun, but probably only from someone that knows you very well! :) 

    I also agree that gift receipts are great, especially when someone doesn't have a registry!!! I much rather someone return my gift and buy something that they need/want than throw out what I bought them! 

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  • CarlaAndJamesCarlaAndJames member
    Of course everyone would prefer to get exactly what they would pick out for themselves and registries are ideal. I do think in general a lot of people (not saying anyone here!) have a sense of entitlement about gifts now though. That "ugh, so annoying that they bought me something I hate!" attitude is so backwards to me. No one HAD to buy me a gift so even if it's not what I would have preferred, I'm flattered that they cared enough about me to spend time and money trying to bless me. 
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