Putting Diapers on Registry

Heissenbuttel04 · October 2012

My DH and I created a registry already (yes, I know it's early but Target had a coupon for a $20 gift card when you start one so we added a few basic things so we could get it. We ended up finding a rocker-sleeper that we both liked on clearance for 19.95 so with the gift card we got it free! Def worth it) I was reading the list on the bump about essentials for your registry and diapers was one of the items on there. I was wondering is this tacky to put on your list?? I thought that people would just purchase some for the shower and give as a gift even if they were not on the registry. However, I have been to 3 showers in the past 6 months and those girls didn't get a single pack of diapers! I was hoping to get a good supply of them at my shower but now I'm thinking it won't happen. I friend of mine was telling me that she went to a shower and in the invitation it stated if you brought a pack of diapers (not wrapped) to the shower you would get a chance to enter in to win an item (gift certificate to a nice restraunt or something or that measure) would this be a better way to go??

watermellens · October 2012

Diaper raffles at showers are typically frowned upon (on the bump). I'm not a huge fan.

I think some people put diapers on their registry, but only a few packs. A lot of moms don't know if their child will have a sensitivity to a certain brand, so might just do the diaper shopping themselves. Also, your friends might be cloth diapering and didn't put any disposables on there.

SmoothieQueen · October 2012

i registered for diapers, but not for the enter recommended bunch, just a few boxes to help out with the first few months... two newborn, two size 1, and four size 2.

sucrets4 · October 2012

I think it's weird/tacky. You have no idea what kind of diapers will work on your kid and everyone knows you will need them.

I can see registering for cloth, though.

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Eyre2 · October 2012

watermellens:

Diaper raffles at showers are typically frowned upon (on the bump). I'm not a huge fan.

Why exactly are they frowned upon? I dont mean to sound rude but I thought it was a great idea and so did my shower planners....so im curious...

kellyrn9956 · October 2012

Eyre2:
watermellens:

Diaper raffles at showers are typically frowned upon (on the bump). I'm not a huge fan.

Why exactly are they frowned upon? I dont mean to sound rude but I thought it was a great idea and so did my shower planners....so im curious...

The last time that I went to a shower that had one of these, I was totally annoyed. Not only did I have to get a gift, but then had to spend the money to buy a pack of diapers. Those things are NOT cheap. And yeah, i guess I had a choice to buy them or not, but felt that I would look terrible not bringing a pack.

It's like the whole "bring a book instead of a card" idea. A card I can get for $2. A book...not so much.

iwanaboy · October 2012

I think it depends on your family friends etc. each family and person has a different view. that said my family does not think it is tacky to register for diapers. We also have alot of CD people in our family. So they are looking for if you will CD or do disposables. My family is really practical and will buy you diapers no matter what for the baby shower. and they will buy you more as the "welcome home" gifts when they come visit at the hospital. I say register for what you want, you might get that practical person that would like to give you the diapers you registered for as a shower gift.

toriwc · October 2012

I didn't have a shower or register (and won't this time), but I see nothing wrong with registering for diapers. However, you may not end up liking the brand you chose, so that would be a drawback to receiving boxes and boxes of them. Unless your guests are good about gift receipts.

I also think diaper raffles are incredibly tacky. It feels like an admission fee to me. I've never seen it done in my circle, thankfully.

wittyschaffy · October 2012

I have no issue with people registering for diapers. It is a baby necessity just as much as, if not more, than bottles, blankets, sleepers, etc. Plus, if nobody buys them, use your completion discount to get your first of many cases cheaper.

As for diaper raffles, not a fan. I'm already buying the gift I can afford and don't appreciate bring told to bring something else. I don't participate in them. Ever.

LuvlieMommy · October 2012

Let's think logically...an average family spends 4,000 a year on diapers so why wouldn't you want them on your registry? Anything is a huge help! It's not tacky AT ALL. And every mother has their choice of diaper brands which is why you put that particular brand on your registry and if someone gets you the brand you don't want to use its VERY simple to walk into Walmart and exchange them. I say put them on your registry. Why not?

Lariah14 · October 2012

sucrets4:
I think it's weird/tacky. You have no idea what kind of diapers will work on your kid and everyone knows you will need them.
I can see registering for cloth, though.

this. And diaper raffles are super tacky.

sucrets4 · October 2012

LuvlieMommy:
Let's think logically...an average family spends 4,000 a year on diapers so why wouldn't you want them on your registry? Anything is a huge help! It's not tacky AT ALL. And every mother has their choice of diaper brands which is why you put that particular brand on your registry and if someone gets you the brand you don't want to use its VERY simple to walk into Walmart and exchange them. I say put them on your registry. Why not?

But you could *think* you prefer a certain brand now only to find that they don't fit your LO well.

Personally, I think registering for sposies is as tacky as registering for gift cards. I get that it's a personal thing, though. I eyeroll people who put them on their registry, but assume that they got bamboozled by the store since they encourage tons of tacky things. It doesn't affect me because I won't buy them anyway, I'd much rather get other reusable things.

MommaAJ · October 2012

I am just registering 1-2 smaller packs of size 1 Pampers Swaddlers and some size 2. This is my third baby and I have loved the Swaddlers for the first few weeks (or as long as I could afford them!). Once they are a little bigger I usually switch to a store brand, but it's been awhile, so I will need to really try those out to see which works best, so not putting those on the list. However, there is no harm in having diapers on the registry. They are expensive, and even if you end up with too many of a certain size, there should be no problem exchanging them. A registry is a wish list, so go for it.

watermellens · October 2012

LuvlieMommy:
Let's think logically...an average family spends 4,000 a year on diapers so why wouldn't you want them on your registry? Anything is a huge help! It's not tacky AT ALL. And every mother has their choice of diaper brands which is why you put that particular brand on your registry and if someone gets you the brand you don't want to use its VERY simple to walk into Walmart and exchange them. I say put them on your registry. Why not?

I don't think it's tacky to put on your registry but I think it's tacky to have a diaper raffle.

Licia&Wayne · October 2012

I sideeye diaper raffles just because I don't like the idea at all that 1 gift you give is apparently more desired than all the others. And diapers? C'mon. I don't know what kind of diapers will work for you and your child. I don't like being told what to bring. I'm giving you a gift. I'm even going to give you a receipt, so if you hate it or don't need it, you can return it. What more do you want of me?!

Oh. Diapers, too. Yeah. No.

I went to a baby shower once that did a straight up money raffle, where you bought a ticket and the money was going to be used to purchase diapers. Yeah right. You can use all that money you're not spending on the stuff I bought you to buy your own diapers.

Licia&Wayne · October 2012

Also, yeah, if you want to put some on the registry, go for it. With any luck they'll be ones that will work for you. That way if people want to buy you diapers, they can choose to and have an idea of the kinds you want.

CageyMack · October 2012

You know what? If you don't think it is tacky and you think your family and friends wouldn't either, put 'em on the registry. No one HAS to buy you anything; if you put lots of variety on your registry, people will buy what they like. Those that think it is tacky will not and those who think you are being uber-practical might! And hopefully your good people have enough grace and good enough manners to never let on if they did feel it is tacky. Because that kind of trash is the worst kind of tacky.

If you want to do a raffle, do that, too. Make it awesome, like for a bottle of great wine or Jack Daniels, if you're into that kind of thing! Heck, make it an "all parties invited and say if guys want to enter to win a "sports basket" to bring some diapers! Who cares, right? It is a party to enjoy, not something to stress over.

I really get tired of judgement. To each their own, you know? And you know what? My opinion doesn't matter. I'm not your family, I'm not your bestie and who really cares? I care about starving children and trying to make my own baby healthy, not your registry choices, because, let's be real, a registry is a moment to support someone we love. Hopefully your friends and family won't use it as a chance to judge you.

That said, you asked for opinions and everyone has been great in sharing them. Don't think I'm getting after girls who think is is tacky; I'm just offering another perspective (that maybe our opinions don't matter as much as her family and friends) and hoping to support the OP in her choices.

I also think that if you get some stuff you don't need/don't like, you may well be able to exchange it for credit for diapers.

Go with your gut, girl. Hugs!

benmel31 · October 2012

I see no problem registering for diapers.

Diapers and something else (an outfit, toy, books) are actually one of my favorite shower gifts to give. You know they will be needed.

Abeja1226 · October 2012

We did a diaper raffle at my shower (after I saw my cousin do one) and it was a HUGE sucess. We had a few different prizes (gift baskets, gift certificates, etc) and one big prize (A really nice gift basket with all these goodies in it). No one complained, and I ended up with THREE months worth of diapers, and I used every single package. It was amazing not having to buy diapers for 3 months.

Some people brought big packages, some people brought small packages that are for sale for less than $9, so really it's not a big deal in terms of people spending extra money. The people who didn't want to do the raffle just didn't bring diapers and that was fine too. Don't worry about what people tell you on the bump, your the one who could potentially save hundreds of dollars by doing this and if you don't think your friends and family will mind, then do it!

KMac570 · October 2012

wittyschaffy:
I have no issue with people registering for diapers. It is a baby necessity just as much as, if not more, than bottles, blankets, sleepers, etc. Plus, if nobody buys them, use your completion discount to get your first of many cases cheaper. As for diaper raffles, not a fan. I'm already buying the gift I can afford and don't appreciate bring told to bring something else. I don't participate in them. Ever.

i agree with this!

LiteraryFoodie · October 2012

I will register for cloth diapers, but if I was using disposable diapers I wouldn't register for them.

If you do register for them, I'd maybe just do one or two pack as a way to give guests and idea of what you'd like, I wouldn't register for a ton.

As a guest at baby showers, I really, *really* dislike diaper raffles and find them rude and tacky. Not that I'm necessarily against disposable diapers, but I'm certainly not for them, and I really didn't want to spend my money on something I don't really support (and diapers aren't cheap!). However, it would be really awkward (and some say "inconsiderate") to be the one person who didn't bring a package of diapers for the raffle. I got guilted into buying diapers for a recent baby shower and it still bugs me. Please don't put your guests through that.

jglenn4 · October 2012

I've never seen diapers on a registry before but, hey, it's your shower. So no judgment here.

I personally wouldn't do it for a a variety of reasons but the main one being, as other posters have said, you don't know what brand/type will work best for your baby. That only comes through trial and error.

Although I am not a fan of REQUESTING gift cards, some registries have an option that states you are WILLING to accept gift cards so that might be the way to go if you ultimately decide NOT to put diapers on your registry.

Finally, if someone asks you specifically what you want (especially family), tell them. I'd feel much more comfortable telling my parents, in laws, or even close friends that is what we need vs. acquaintances.

Lariah14 · October 2012

MommaAJ:
I am just registering 1-2 smaller packs of size 1 Pampers Swaddlers and some size 2. This is my third baby and I have loved the Swaddlers for the first few weeks (or as long as I could afford them!). Once they are a little bigger I usually switch to a store brand, but it's been awhile, so I will need to really try those out to see which works best, so not putting those on the list. However, there is no harm in having diapers on the registry. They are expensive, and even if you end up with too many of a certain size, there should be no problem exchanging them. A registry is a wish list, so go for it.

I think most people consider registering for subsequent babies as really tacky. Unless there's like a 15+ year gap and it's a different marriage.

watermellens · October 2012

daylights1:
LuvlieMommy:
Let's think logically...an average family spends 4,000 a year on diapers so why wouldn't you want them on your registry? Anything is a huge help! It's not tacky AT ALL. And every mother has their choice of diaper brands which is why you put that particular brand on your registry and if someone gets you the brand you don't want to use its VERY simple to walk into Walmart and exchange them. I say put them on your registry. Why not?
Diapers are expensive but $4,000 a year?! Um, where did you get that math? $1,000 maybe (with wipes) but certainly not $4,000/year.
I think it is fine to have a few types on your registry. Some people like to buy practical gifts. I think the raffle is a bad idea though. Don't ask for a gift and then diapers...

ditto! between couponing, swagbucks and really great sales, I probably spend about $400 a year on diapers

emisi · October 2012

I don't see a problem with registering for diapers as long as you don't go overboard asking for a dozen packs. It'll let people who would get you diapers anyway know what brand you'd prefer.

I am registering for diapers, but we're CDing, so it's a bit different.

kateryna72 · October 2012

I have a few friends who have had babies recently, and they have all registered for diapers. However, they have all registered for only one package of diapers (usually newborn size) until they can figure out what works best for the baby. I don't think that's tacky at all. A lot of people have put laundry detergent on the registry too, and I think that falls under the same sort of utilitarian category. My plan is to put as much stuff as possible on the registry, because I know that most stores offer 20% off coupons to complete the registry.

Also, we will be cloth diapering. Do people think it's tacky to throw one or two cloth diapers onto the registry? I'm kind of torn on it, but I'm almost considering doing it just so that people will know not to buy us any disposables.

Sarai28 · October 2012

Put them on your registry if you want, but don't expect a ton. People definitely like to buy more of the cute or personal gifts. I also don't like the idea of a raffle, as it just seems like asking for a second gift. People might not be able to afford a second item and feel bad.

Lindzb3 · October 2012

It is your registry, if you want them on there go for it! Registries are for what you want/need.

MommaAJ · October 2012

Lariah14:
MommaAJ:
I am just registering 1-2 smaller packs of size 1 Pampers Swaddlers and some size 2. This is my third baby and I have loved the Swaddlers for the first few weeks (or as long as I could afford them!). Once they are a little bigger I usually switch to a store brand, but it's been awhile, so I will need to really try those out to see which works best, so not putting those on the list. However, there is no harm in having diapers on the registry. They are expensive, and even if you end up with too many of a certain size, there should be no problem exchanging them. A registry is a wish list, so go for it.

I think most people consider registering for subsequent babies as really tacky. Unless there's like a 15+ year gap and it's a different marriage.

What's with the judgement on here?! Everyone thinks everything is tacky I guess. Just so you know, since I'm tacky for having a registry, it was done so at the request of my family who live out of state and would like to get gifts for the baby. We have NO baby items left from my kids (all donated, was that tacky too?), there is a 5 year age gap, we thought we were done (oh! another tacky move! unplanned baby...) And my husbnd's family here have already said they would like to buy things also, and instead of being TACKY and saying "yeah, go buy me a box of Avent bottles", they can look at the registry and decide for themselves what they would like to gift.

Apparently I will never be writing any books on the proper etiquette of pregnancy related matters. But I certainly won't ever be a snarky judgemental woman either.

To the original poster - register for diapers. And have a diaper raffle. Enjoy this. Gifts are gifts - people give what they want to give. That's how it works.

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wittyschaffy · October 2012

MommaAJ:
What's with the judgement on here?! Everyone thinks everything is tacky I guess. Just so you know, since I'm tacky for having a registry, it was done so at the request of my family who live out of state and would like to get gifts for the baby. We have NO baby items left from my kids (all donated, was that tacky too?), there is a 5 year age gap, we thought we were done (oh! another tacky move! unplanned baby...) And my husbnd's family here have already said they would like to buy things also, and instead of being TACKY and saying "yeah, go buy me a box of Avent bottles", they can look at the registry and decide for themselves what they would like to gift.
Apparently I will never be writing any books on the proper etiquette of pregnancy related matters. But I certainly won't ever be a snarky judgemental woman either.

I actually think that people were being nice - OP asked for an opinion and she got them (which seem to be overwhelmingly against diaper raffles).

You on the other hand, seem to have gotten your hackles raised for nothing. Take a breather - sensitive much?? (and I'm not being snarky at all) I too would give the side eye to a 2nd + time mom registering for baby gear. You obviously have your reasons for doing so and if you aren't having another shower, you get a little less side eye from me, but it certainly isn't standard operating procedure. I get that tail ender babies happen - I have an uncle who is only 7 years older than me - but I personally feel that registering again is tacky. You obviously don't. No biggie, but don't be surprised or offended if people in your life DO find it tacky.

Licia&Wayne · October 2012

MommaAJ, do you want some witch hazel for that butthurt?

It's cool, bro. You seem to be a proponent for do whatever you want. So take off your pants and get to registering.

...sorry, if I got to do whatever I wanted, pants would be the first thing to go.

kewltif · October 2012

LuvlieMommy:
Let's think logically...an average family spends 4,000 a year on diapers so why wouldn't you want them on your registry? Anything is a huge help! It's not tacky AT ALL. And every mother has their choice of diaper brands which is why you put that particular brand on your registry and if someone gets you the brand you don't want to use its VERY simple to walk into Walmart and exchange them. I say put them on your registry. Why not?

I was curious about this stat, so I went back on Amazon and added up all the diapers I purchased in my daughter's first year and it came out to $565. A few family members bought me diapers in the beginning, so even if I round up, the cost of diapering my child for a year was $700 + the cost of wipes. It's actually a lower dollar figure than people think. That's about $60 a month.

I think it's fine to register for diapers if you want to, but there are SO MANY OTHER baby things you need that I wouldn't bother.

MommaAJ · October 2012

Licia&Wayne:
MommaAJ, do you want some witch hazel for that butthurt? It's cool, bro. You seem to be a proponent for do whatever you want. So take off your pants and get to registering. ...sorry, if I got to do whatever I wanted, pants would be the first thing to go.

Funny you should say that, especially since my ass does hurt from this damn anal fissure I have.

I AM sensitive, not used to dealing with judgemental snarky women.

And I never said I was having a baby shower. A registry exists for those who need it to bless us with a gift for the baby. Damn, ladies. See ya! This board is not for me.

Licia&Wayne · October 2012

Ouch! I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.

Honestly, you seem in a tizzy about nothing. Someone commented, you, albeit defensively, explained. It's cool.

LuvlieMommy · October 2012

Sister in law is a sales and marketing manager for PG and this stat come directly from them. Considering if you only have one child then maybe not so much. But newborn to age one I would definitely say you spend so much more than 400 in a year unless your child just doesn't poop or urinate but twice a day.

jglenn4 · October 2012

Wow! I'm shocked at how passionate people are with their opinions about diapers on registries, diaper raffles and etiquette. It's not that serious.

Long gone are the days of Emily Post being the arbiter of good etiquette. As times change, so do the "rules" of etiquette. Oh, and once you start factoring in other demographics such as culture, age, location, income, etc., forget it.

I say live and let live. If you have an opinion on something maybe it's wise to think about how to express it in a way that might not be offensive to the people reading it (which I recognize is hard when doing so over the internet). A little tact goes a long way.

Congrats to all and enjoy your pregnancy! I know a lot of women who would love to be in our shoes.

drewiekc · October 2012

Oh lawd. Ridiculous drama aside....

No, I dont think it's tacky to register for diapers. And I dont think it's necessarily tacky to have a diaper raffle at your shower. Just depends on your circle and what's the norm. FWIW though, I would not put a ton of diapers on your registry for the simple fact that not all brands work for all babies. Weird, but true. You dont want to get a ton of Pampers, only to find out that your kid pees right through them and Huggies work better. A couple packs of NB and a couple packs of size 1 will be just fine.

er32585 · October 2012

For those who do receive diapers that they do not like or can not exchange, please keep in mind women/children shelters are always in need of baby care items. DONATE!!

caladpi02 · October 2012

I have never heard of people registering for diapers. I think it sounds bizarre, particularly in light of all the other items you can put on a registry.
A diaper raffle makes me shudder. Most of the showers I have been to are brunch or lunch events with maybe some prizes, scented candles or sachets, for the winners of the 2 or so games.
Registering for diapers is a bit too real for a ladies lunch, as their function is to deal with pee and poop. I would never do it and probably forward a registry with it to friends for a laugh.

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