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August 2012 Moms
Manda-Kay
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Is my pedi crazy?
Manda-Kay
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Samuel had his 2 month appt on Friday and pedi said it was time for...
Starting to let him cry for a couple min before picking him up. I can kind of understand this. He's a very fussy baby and she wants him to learn how to self soothe which I thought he was too young for.
Told us he was manipulating us into being held all the time. Everything I read said you can't spoil a baby until after 3 months.
Transition him to his crib. I read I can keep him in my room until 6 months to prevent SIDS. I started putting him in his crib for some naps and in his RnP in his room at night with me on the floor.
She also said to put him to bed drowsy do he won't get used to falling asleep in my arms. I get this but it sounds like sleep training that I thought he was too young for.
Am I naive as a FTM and need to lay off the parenting books or is my pedi nuts?
Starting to let him cry for a couple min before picking him up. I can kind of understand this. He's a very fussy baby and she wants him to learn how to self soothe which I thought he was too young for.
Told us he was manipulating us into being held all the time. Everything I read said you can't spoil a baby until after 3 months.
Transition him to his crib. I read I can keep him in my room until 6 months to prevent SIDS. I started putting him in his crib for some naps and in his RnP in his room at night with me on the floor.
She also said to put him to bed drowsy do he won't get used to falling asleep in my arms. I get this but it sounds like sleep training that I thought he was too young for.
Am I naive as a FTM and need to lay off the parenting books or is my pedi nuts?
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Re: Is my pedi crazy?
1} I definitely agree under 3 months is to young to self soothe. But I get why she said it. The only reason Amir cries and doesnt immediately get picked up is if I'm busy. Wouldnt consider that baby training though.
2) I'm waiting till 5.5-6 months. Or if wanting to really transition keeping the crib in the room for safe measure. But that's my STM's opinion.
3) I didnt know that was sleep training. I only started hearing the term when I joined the bump but makes complete sense to start. I do this to Amir because I learned from Nene not to let her become dependent on my to go to sleep.
I never read a parenting book. I just relied on other mom's experience, my own baby sitting experience and early childhood teaching. I would go with your gut in the end that's all that matters.
Granted, if she's crying and I need to pee, I'll go pee. Not saying I'll neglect everything else. But I have no intention of arbitrarily deciding that all of a sudden I am spoiling my child by holding her when she cries for me.
In terms of the crib, she's still in the RnP because I'm scared of her rolling onto her stomach in the crib. I'm sure I'll get over it. But her crib is in our room, we have a one bedroom apartment, and once she is MUCH older we'll feel comfortable letting her on our bed. We just have a very soft pillow top mattress so it wouldn't be safe now. So, the "need" to transition to the crib is relative and has different meanings. If a pedi told me to get her in her crib to get her out of our room, I'd ask if that was a subtle offer to rent us a more expensive apartment!
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I am keeping mine in the room with me until we're beyond the SIDS age risk and until she STTN.
I do try to put her down while drowsy and still awake so that she doesn't rely on me to fall asleep. I work FT and have an older child. As much as I love her snuggles, it can't work like that in my house.
And a 2 month old can't manipulate. Give me a break.
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well.... it depends on your parenting style.
Personally, i didn't let ds#1 CIO until 17 months old. I go with the philiosophy "do what feels right for you and your baby". I didn't want to let ds#1 cry until he was older...so that's what I did. There is nothing wrong if you want to do it sooner or later.
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He cannot be out down unless he is out. He will sometimes nurse to sleep which I prefer. Sometimes he has to be rocked or bounced.
What works for your family is the right way to go. Your ped should stick to medicine unless asked for parenting advice.
Hmmm....
I let Sergio fuss for maybe two minutes before picking him up because usually I'm doing something because he has been asleep and that's the only time I ever have to clean/shower/get ready for work. But, I would never let him scream or anything like that.
You cannot spoil a newborn. There is so much literature on this. If my pediatrician said that, I would consider switching. If the pediatrician doesn't know the AAP's position on something or hasn't done their research before recommending something, that's irresponsible and not to be dramatic, but I want an informed doctor in charge of my son's health.
Again, AAP says 6 months. I know the AAP isn't God or anything, but there's a reason for their guidelines. Tons of research and medical experience go into those guidelines. He's staying in our room until at least 4 months.
Do what you feel is right for Samuel. You're his mom. You spend every waking moment with him. His pediatrician sees him for fifteen minutes every couple of weeks.
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