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possessive over care taker

ohitsalexohitsalex member
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Hello parents'

I'm a first time mom with a 11 month old, who is well spoiled by me 90 of the time. I don't realize it, but it's always brought to my attention.

Today I walked into his daycare and I could even get Hi in without "oh alex, something needs to happen with Caleb, let's give it a couple weeks and see what happens...he's so possessive over me. I can't walk away from him without crying his lungs out, he wants to be with me every second. Look into 1 on 1 care for him."

I love his daycare its small and perfect for him. I'm worried I won't be able to break him of this comfort/need he thinks is normal for everyone to give him.

Suggestions, please.
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Re: possessive over care taker

  • sportsmommasportsmomma member
    I wouldn't be pleased if my daycare, who I give hundreds of dollars a week to care for my child, was suggesting I needed to change care because DS was, well, acting like a baby and getting attached. I think that's pretty normal, especially at this age where separation anxiety, teething, growth spurts and viruses are so common. All of these will lead a child to be more clingy.

    If you're truly concerned speak with your pedi, but sounds fairly common to me.
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  • janinekrausejaninekrause member
    Seriously? Find a new daycare.  Kids go through phases where they are clingy and get attached. My daycare woman has 1-2 helpers depending on the day- ranging from 4-8 kids. Sometimes she has 2 kids on her lap, sometimes 3 :) she does put babies down to tend to other kids and they cry for a few minutes which I am fine with. But she juggles them fine and there are plenty who are very needy.
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  • twocents6708twocents6708 member
    Ditto previous posters. I would be more concerned if your child demonstrated no attachment to his caregiver. It is an important part of child development for an infant to be attached to his caregivers including child care providers to an extent. And separation anxiety is normal. I would be questioning my providers knowledge and qualifications if they are not understanding of this.
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  • diana.filipidiana.filipi member
    hmm, I'll be devils advocate.  She is being honest with you and is letting you know that she isn't comfortable with the level of attention your LO needs compared to her other charges.  I asked a mom once to find other care for a kiddo that was more than I was up for.  Would you rather she not be honest with you about it?
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