taking care of 3 kiddos is hard

navyandviolet · October 2012

i am exhausted from trying to meet the needs of 3 young children. baby isn't getting held and cuddled enough, DS 1 is teething and feeling a bit neglected as well, and DD challenging personality is really exaggerated right now as she is proccessing the new changes. on top of that i have a horrible unending neck pain that at first i thought was a pulled muscle from labor, but now i am begginning to think it is a spinal headache. i fear the treatment of that so i havent called the doc yet. just got ds 1 down to a nap, dd is watching a movie , thank you netflix streaming, and i am feeding the newbie for the 18th time today. this is a minor vent because we are hanging in there but man the next few months are going to age me.

sorry about the typing, got a baby in arms.

queenie521 · October 2012

Oh, I'm so nervous about this. Just want to say good luck and hang in there!

Starry Again · October 2012

My mom (3 kids) says each additional kid makes things exponentially harder. Like you expect #2 to be twice as much work but it is more like 4 times.

Hopefully you get into a routine soon!

jenn2714 · October 2012

I'm so sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. Hang in there, it will get better!

jessicaskyy · October 2012

I'm so dreading this, too. I want baby to stay in for as long as possible! It'll get better.

LetsBeNice · October 2012

I hope things get better. I am totally dreading this, too. My kids look about the same age as yours. DS1 will be 5 in November, and he is the one w/the challenging personality, too! DS2 will be 2 in February and he's more laid back, but he is going to be totally jealous when baby comes!! My only saving grace is that the older 2 will be spending some time at daycare, since we have to pay to hold our spot anyway.

navyandviolet · October 2012

LetsBeNice:
I hope things get better. I am totally dreading this, too. My kids look about the same age as yours. DS1 will be 5 in November, and he is the one w/the challenging personality, too! DS2 will be 2 in February and he's more laid back, but he is going to be totally jealous when baby comes!! My only saving grace is that the older 2 will be spending some time at daycare, since we have to pay to hold our spot anyway.

Wow they really are the same ages. Well it's been an exiting ride thus far. GL to you. Mommy guilt has hit me hard today, I just wish I could be a better mom to all of them right now. There just isn't enough of me to go around.

pinitbaby · October 2012

Aww sorry to hear you're frustrated Its definitely not easy but like pp's said, try to get a routine down and that can help cut out most of the stress. This is baby no.4 for me, I was nervous to bring home no.2 because you really don't know how to handle it and if there's enough love to go around..with no.3, we brought him home and he jjust became part of the family lol However this time round is a little different, my oldest who is 13, went to live with his dad and thats going well but I miss him dearly. So I have my 10yr old dd and 7yr old ds...its been a while since theres been a baby in the house. My dd is ecstatic but ds is still weary My plan is to stick on routine and keep on as much as a schedule as we're on now. It will change a lil bit because of nursing and such but my dd-though I don't want her to feel responsible for her brother, is willing to help and talks about it all the time.

I believe your children are much younger than mine but try not to stress mama Don't think about the house or the laundry, just do what you can. Those kids happy faces are more important and so are mommy's hugs and attention

elfchique · October 2012

That sounds just like my spinal. Don't be afraid to call your OB. They prescribed me firocet sp. And it made a huge difference. Ingredients are Tylenol, oxycodone, and caffeine. Lie completely flat and see if it improves. If it does, call your OB pronto. No need to suffer.

CrazyLife3 · October 2012

It is hard, you need to just get through it. Get a babysitter or mothers helper to come in for a few hours at a time if you can. These first 3 months are the hardest and then it will begin to get easier day by day. When I brought my third home I think my kids were 4, almost 2 and newborn. I can't even remember any more it was all a blur! That is the reason we waited until now to have our fourth! They will be 8, 5, 3 and newborn. I honestly hated it when people told me "Enjoy it, its the best time of your life" That annoyed the hell out of me because it was physically and emotionally the most demanding and hard thing I have ever done. Just take it day by day, hour by hour, and minute by minute if you have to!