Would you be mad?

jjetwedding · October 2012

Fil came into town yesterday and I also had a routine 38 week check up that day. I insisted DH spend that part of the day with his dad since it was in the middle of the day. It was the usual hearing the baby's heartbeat, measuring tummy, weight check which omg I've gained 52 lbs!! We are Big and beautiful ladies!!! started at 125 lbs and now am 177lbs, and urine sample appt. We had went out for Thai food for lunch and FIL insisted that we all just go to my doc appt. since it was right afterwards. Dh and I had discussed prior that they should really go spend some time together but FIL kept insisting on taking me to the appt. So off we went to the hospital where my OB practice is located. We are sitting there waiting and she calls me back and I just get up to go. My DH stays in the waiting room. I can hear FIL asking DH is he is going to go with me as im walking towards the door. While I'm sitting there waiting in the room for the doc, I myself am wondering why DH is not there too? I mean, it is a routine appt, it was a spontaneous decision due to FIL but shouldn't he have wanted to come? It's his baby too! I didn't get mad because DH has come to ALOT of medical appts starting at the RE reproductive endo and all the ultrasounds. I've let it go because There is no doubt DH is super excited and has been supportive every step of the way. My appt was short and sweet and we were on our way. We even walked my FIL to the entrance of the Maternal Ward so be got a better understanding of where to come when our baby decides to make her appearance! Anyway I wanted to hear how you would have handled that situation? Would you have assumed your DH would go back with you or would it have been enough that DH was waiting for you? I mean, realistically DH is usually at work but took a day off to spend with his dad so he wasn't supposed to be there. I have a lot of free time to think about everything since I'm not working now and just ready any day now to have our baby.

Mrs&Dr2b · October 2012

I don't think I would have been mad. My guess is that he wasn't certain where he was supposed to be with FIL there. It seems like a simple miscommunication. I wouldn't worry.

SummerOH · October 2012

I wouldn't be mad at all. I actually prefer DH to NOT be at those routine appointments. It's kind of weird for me. The whole weight check, urine sample, etc. He's in the medical field so I know it's NBD to him but I'd feel weird carrying around a cup of pee in front of him. Plus, I'd want him to take that time to catch up with my FIL.

Randa&Jerm · October 2012

I would have expected him to just wait with FIL in the waiting room. Unless of course you would have wanted FIL to come in too. It would have been awkward to me to just have DH come in with me and leave FIL in the waiting room by himself I guess. But like PP said it was a miscommunication of where you would have wanted DH to be, with you or in the waiting room with FIL. I would not be mad in the slightest.

rockinmommy · October 2012

Mrs&Dr2b:
I don't think I would have been mad. My guess is that he wasn't certain where he was supposed to be with FIL there. It seems like a simple miscommunication. I wouldn't worry.

this...I wouldn't have been mad.

myskyegirl · October 2012

I read this really thinking you were going to say that when you were called in your fil got up and walked in with you. That I would have been mad at, but in this case since as you said you told your hubby that it was a routine appt and he normally doesn't go to those appts, plus it was your fil that insisted that you all go, I wouldn't be angry that hubby didn't go in.

Bambina54 · October 2012

You insisted that he spend time with his father and then you get upset when he waits with him at the appointment he wouldn't have attended in the first place? Women really are crazy. Myself included.

IEtoLA · October 2012

prncebride:
I read this really thinking you were going to say that when you were called in your fil got up and walked in with you.nbsp; That I would have been mad at, but in this case since as you said you told your hubby that it was a routine appt and he normally doesn't go to those appts, plus it was your fil that insisted that you all go, I wouldn't be angry that hubby didn't go in.

. This! The entire time you were telling him he should hang out with your FIL. You would have been fine had they not actually gone with you right?

rnbeth477 · October 2012

prncebride:
I read this really thinking you were going to say that when you were called in your fil got up and walked in with you.nbsp; That I would have been mad at, but in this case since as you said you told your hubby that it was a routine appt and he normally doesn't go to those appts, plus it was your fil that insisted that you all go, I wouldn't be angry that hubby didn't go in.

Lol! I was thinking this exact thing and imagining my fil following me into the exam room. I would be mortified!

But, I agree with the ladies. I would not be mad. I'd feel bad leaving fil in waiting room alone while DH came into room with me. I think he did the right thing.

contreras04 · October 2012

Mrs&Dr2b:
I don't think I would have been mad. My guess is that he wasn't certain where he was supposed to be with FIL there. It seems like a simple miscommunication. I wouldn't worry.

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[Deleted User] · October 2012

You are overreacting. Your DH probably didn't want to leave his dad sitting in the waiting room just so he could sit with you for a routine appointment. If you wanted him in the room, you should have said something when they called you back.

Also, grammar, spelling, punctuation and paragraphs are all your friends. It was very hard to muddle through your tl;dr post to get to the point.

hcbrowne · October 2012

Lol...

I think he was just doing what you had insisted he do; spend time with his FIL. If anything needed serious attention he could have always been asked to go back there with you. Definitely overreacting.

AnotherPreggo · October 2012

I would have expected my DH to do exactly what yours did-- stay in the waiting room with FIL. Like you said, it was just a routine visit.

brooke&ryan&baby · October 2012

I would try not to think too much into it. I am usually the one telling DH not to take off from work to come,although he always wants to. I'm sure he just thought he'd keep his dad company while you were in there.

Tiffany0416 · October 2012

I would not be mad. If FIL wasn't there I am sure your DH would have gone back with you. He just didn't want to be rude and leave his father alone in the waiting room.

nealbl · October 2012

My guess is you were pushing for him to be with FIL during your appt so even though you all went to the doctor together he was still in the mind frame that he should be with his Dad. I wouldn't have given it a second thought.

Stillharbor · October 2012

Nah, I wouldn't the mad. Usually I'm in and out so fast there's no point. Urine sample, measurement, weight, BP, etc...OB asks how I'm doing (I'm fine.) He's always there for ultrasounds.

mrsneau · October 2012

my DH comes to every appointment with me, he never waits in the waiting room or anything. kinda weird your FIL insisted on going, I probably would've done the same thing.

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