Politics... Not quite what you think

JaysonandKristin · October 2012

Is your house divided?

Jay and I have always agreed on political issues, Presidential candidates, spending budgets, etc.

This election, we are finding ourselves at opposite ends of the spectrum. I'm having a hard time with it. I understand that we're not the same people, but I am worried that he's evolving into his father.

We were up half the night last night talking about it. We still don't agree. I think that he's being childish and short-sighted and he thinks I'm an idealist who needs to get a grip on reality. Either way, we're at a stalemate; we are still registered under the same Party and I don't foresee that changing.

So, are you and DH/SO the samesies? ;P

Do you find yourselves agreeing on politicians? What about financial policies? How about social issues?

Do you think a marriage is doomed if you can't agree on politics?

MMS88 · October 2012

Last election we did not agree but this year we do. We don't really talk politics to avoid fighting in this household.

JaysonandKristin · October 2012

MMS88:
Last election we did not agree but this year we do. We don't really talk politics to avoid fighting in this household.

Is that bad? I mean, shouldn't we be able to discuss anything with our spouses? I mean, I know it keeps the peace, but should I just let it go?

I'm not trying to convince him to change. I'm trying to get him to acknowledge that there are more issues going on here than just where his dollar goes.

Duffgurl · October 2012

So, are you and DH/SO the samesies? I think we both have our views but do tend to agree on politics.

Do you find yourselves agreeing on politicians? Yes What about financial policies? I think we both have great views but they are not always the same views. Again for the most part we tend to agree. How about social issues? See previous answer.

Do you think a marriage is doomed if you can't agree on politics? No I don?t think a relationship should be based off of politics?So it shouldn?t matter but in same cases it does.

MrsCase1 · October 2012

I know a few couples who belong to different political parties. Like a pp said, it's all about avoiding the topic when together, lol.

CootieQueen170 · October 2012

We have similar ideas, but my SO tends to be more conservative, we have different backgrounds so we see the world a little differently. For the most part we agree, but every once in a while he says something that will completely blow my mind lol.

missjessica482 · October 2012

MrsSkull1107:
When election day arrives, I get jealous that DH gets to go out and do his part (although in our state, the decision is already made and it doesn't matter which direction you vote!).

I live in a state like that also..... SC.

I hate that about the US. its like,the only people's votes that matter are those that live in swing states... frustrating.

although i learned the ins and outs of the electoral college when i was in high school, i never understood WHY the popular vote isnt what elects the president. and i have researched it in the past, and the "reasons" still dont make sense to me. the biggest argument of WHY we have it is that it protects smaller states.... i dont know how that can be though because they are saying that if, for example; RI has less citizens than CA then CA would have more weight regarding who wins.... and thats why they use electoral college HOWEVER RI now only gets 4 votes while CA gets 55.... so CA (NO MATTER WHAT) still will have more weight on the election..... so thats why i just dont get it

im going to stop there before i get to political lol as i am new here and dont want to seem crazy!!!!!

StefandTodd · October 2012

My aunt and uncle have been married more than 20 years and they disagree on politics pretty openly. They're both wealthy lawyers who grew up in fairly liberal households, and my aunt is a Democrat, her H a Republican. I think it can work for people, but you have to be able to see both sides and recognize that neither is right or wrong...really, they're both so wrong they might as well both be right.

I'm pretty passionate and outspoken and opinionated...I know myself and know it would be very hard for ME to be married to someone who voted differently than me, but only if it were an indication of a different set of core values than me...I tend to vote more based on social issues, but can understand a vote more based on fiscal issues...but if my own husband cared more about fiscal issues than social ones, that would be hard for me. I personally want my H to share those priorities with me, but I don't think all people require that in a marriage. And if my H's priorities shifted with time, I'd probably have to (try to) figure out how to accept that b/c I married him for better or worse

Fortunately, we have pretty much always agreed. And I think my husband's loving devotion to Jon Stewart will always keep him in my camp, heh Politics would be soooooooo boring without Comedy Central Political Satire!! :P

Jennikd3 · October 2012

We tend to agree politically. DH is a tad (okay, a lot) more adamant about his opinions than I am. I try to keep my facebook wall free of political opinions and I sometimes have to remind him and delete his posts.

If I don't agree with something I roll my eyes and move on, DH has to TELL you why you're wrong. LOL

I think that if at some point in our marriage we disagree it wouldn't likely be a dealbreaker, if only because i try to avoid confrontational conversations as much as possible.

BnchaNums · October 2012

Dh is completely politically apathetic. He didn't even vote in the last presidential election. It caused some tension you could say. Socially we definitely agree and he's passionate about those things (thank god), but fiscally we differ. He sometimes likes to discuss it, but I do not. It makes me way too upset. I doubt he'll vote in the coming election, so I guess that's better than voting blindly.....