Advice on winning SO over to AP?

Byebye120 · October 2012

Hey everyone, really hoping someone can help me figure his out...Im a a huge advocate for AP, co-sleeping, baby-wearing, EBF, homebirth, etc...totally crunchy lol but my chid's father is not exactly taking to the idea. He is pro-CIO, pro-spankiing for one thing and I guess it could be said he has a somewhat rougher temperament and a little less sympathy for when our 6 month old son starts resisting naps/bedtime. He tends to get pretty frustrated and a few times he's put our son to sleep I've had to take over because he would sit by his crib and let him cry way too long before finally giving him his binky so our son would "wear himself out"...He's a great dad in a lot of ways, very affectionate and playful but is of the mind that we're spoiling our son by always holding him or wearing him or not letting him cry. I bought Dr. Sears Baby book but I'd honestly have to shove that in his face if I really wanted him to read it. Any similar experiences or advice? At this point Im handling the sleep part bc I just dont feel comfortable with him doing it his way.

ncbelle · October 2012

Sorry you are dealing with this as I think it's really tough when parents don't see eye to eye on parenting decisions - whatever they may be.

Honestly, I think that you need to find some time for a sit down where the two of you have an honest heart to heart discussion about parenting philosophy. You've got another 18 years of co-parenting ahead - best to get on the same page now. I wouldn't make it confrontational - but be honest about the way you feel and why. I think you both have to hear each other out and be willing to read any books the other feels supports his/her point of view.

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