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Not really discipline, but...

Lady*Lady*
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DS is 11 months and has taken to hitting things - including the dog, us (esp on our faces) and the daycare teachers and other kids.  I know this is a stage and when he does it, we take his hand and say "no hit, be gentle" and then rub his hand on our faces (or the dog) gently. He SEEMS to get it because right after he'll be gentle for a few seconds, then back to hitting. I also know (or suspect) that he doesn't understand that he's being hard when he hits - that coordination just isn't there yet.

All those parenting books tell me that I should use the word "no" sparingly. So how do you phrase something like this? Or deal with something like this?  Isn't saying "we don't hit" basically the same thing as the word "no" in a child's mind? Or something like DC getting into things that he shouldn't - i.e. pulling on the curtains. It's not really discipline...DS can't really understand the concept of a discipline method like time out yet. (Or at least, I don't think he can). 

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Re: Not really discipline, but...

  • babystella08babystella08
    I am going throught this right now too. But I find that DH and I use the word "No" alot and I hate it. Someone told me distraction works, like moving them on to the next thing, but in the case where they hit that is hard.... Sorry I am not more help.
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  • Mrs.tlcSMrs.tlcS member

    It's hard, but you replace the behavior you don't want "no hitting" with the behavior you do want "be gentle"  Try to catch him before he starts with the hitting, and remind him... "easy, gentle"  This is what we're trying to do w/ our (almost) 6 mo old and the cat.  

    GL.

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