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Pregnant after 35
it's pretty clear now...going to be a single mom...
So...talked to the biological father of my baby again tonight...we have hardly spoken since I told him on Thursday and I do not think we are in any way together anymore...and he continues to be completely against this and to make me feel bad about it...even going so far as to tell me I would be ruining three lives should I go through with the pregnancy. I told him that I was not going to make him be involved if he did not want to. I just want him to not be such a jerk. Plus, he may move back to Ireland within the year. So, I can now see I will be a single mom...until/unless I eventually find Mr. Right...which, for my baby's sake, I hope will happen.
For now, I will try not to stress too much...haha...and try to just be excited about the process and the lil pea inside of me. I have a bunch of other life stressed going on simultaneously, but I am trying my best not to freak out.
As I have said before, I am so grateful to have my family and friends' support...as well as the support of all of you here- it is amazing to be supported by so many folks here who I have never met...thank you so much for being so kind.
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Re: it's pretty clear now...going to be a single mom...
My cousin had a baby when she was in her early 20s-- she was still in college, I remember-- and the dad bailed on her (even though it was his idea for her to get pregnant) and I have to say, she managed to not only finish her degree, but go on to get her master's and now she's wrapping up her PhD. She owns her own house, has a garden, and fosters dogs for a local rescue. She really has her sh!t together and her son is one of the most generous, warm, sensitive, well-adjusted young guys I know. And he's a helluva hockey player to boot!
You can do this and you will thrive on it! Hang in there! ((hugs))
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Just to second what danieleandwayne said, I know alot of single momma's, and it for sure isn't always easy, but they each have raised wonderful children and achieved success on their own.
I'm sorry your going through this, you have a little miracle growing right now, and honestly your better off being by yourself and being fully invested than being with a half or not at all invested dad..
Me 41 DH 46 Not actively ttc, surprise BFP on 1/6/11! 4/1/11 m/c our sunshine at 16wks after complications from CVS test. TTC #2 **5th cycle 12/6/11 BFP! Missed m/c at 9 weeks 1/21/12, trisomy 14. Two Chemical PG 3/12&7/12
** BFP 8/16/12 beta #1 148! beta#2 407 beta #3 4000 u/s 9.10 1 lovely hb 126, Baby Boy is due 04/28/13!!
I was thinking about you last night, Donegal, and hoping that things were going better. I see they are not.
Your ex-boyfriend is really showing his true colors--he's a selfish, self-centered turdface. Anyone who would actually have the GALL to say "you'd be ruining three lives if you go through with this pregnancy" deserves a good slap in the face. I'd tell him, "Fine, if you don't want to be involved, don't be, but don't you EVER turn up down the road saying you've had a change of heart and want to be involved in your baby's life, because I WILL tell you to go f*** yourself. If you walk away now, that's it, you are DONE." I don't know this guy from a hole in the wall and I still want to throttle him. 
As others have said, it won't be easy, but you are going to get something amazing out of this--a wonderful child to love and be loved by. And your family and friends (your real friends, at least) are going to stand with you and help you. You are strong and you can do this. I think you will look back ten years from now and say, "It was worth it." I'm just sorry your ex-bf is too much of an a** to see what an incredible opportunity he is missing.
Over-40 parents...what we lack in vigor, we make up for with cunning.
Wow. What an a-hole!
I was telling my husband about your situation the other night and he was utterly disgusted. Didn't understand how someone can claim to be a man, yet ignore his responsibilities.
You are going to be fine on your own. After those comments he doesn't deserve to have you anyway!
Thank you, Everyone...*HUGSHUGSHUGS*
I am eternally grateful for your support and to hear positive stories about other single moms. You are right- jerkface does not deserve me and my little sweet pea! I
What I think is important is that you only have people in your life who love and respect you and your baby and treat you the way you deserve. You will be awesome!
That news really stinks - being a single mom is NOT easy (I did it with my first two), but I have definitely been rewarded so many times over for the sacrifices I made while I was one. ENJOY as much as you can of your time expecting your little miracle. What a blessing children are.
Prayers that the other things will also sort themselves out, and you will be amazingly blessed.