I should not have done this!

Tas03 · October 2012

So my best friend had KH & I over to dinner yesterday along with 1 other couple. Anyway, the girls separated from the guys to have a little 'girl time' as the guys was watching football.

The other girl just had a baby & was giving me different 'motherly' advice. Anyhow, they convinced me to watch a birth video. Indifferent Now I'm terrify out of my mind for my baby's delivery . I'm so afraid of needles, i was considering on having a natural birth.

Ladies if it's your a FTM please think before watching birthing videos.

mrsweeber · October 2012

Oh, I've already decided that I want to get a shirt that says, "I do not want to hear or see your horror stories". I'm not sure what it is about pregnancy that people REALLY want to share anything and everything that went wrong with theirs....uninvited.

Licia&Wayne · October 2012

Babies have the worst exit strategies. Now that you've watched a birth video, I'll encourage you to watch something like 2 girls, 1 cup or the Pain Olympics to recognize there is way worse stuff out there. NOBODY GOOGLE THOSE AT WORK.

Tas03 · October 2012

Worst exit strategies i agree. but im not watching 2 girls 1 cup. That's just gross!

Sarai28 · October 2012

I think many moms would agree that their childbirth experience was not that bad! I hated getting the iv, but once I had my epidural (which was not painful) my labor and birth were not bad at all, and actually a wonderful experience! You're going to hear all sorts of stories, but just try to brush them off and know that everyone's experience is different- and that some people tend to exaggerate a bit too! Not that some women don't have more difficult experiences, but that doesn't mean you will! You will be just fine!

Anne Mommy · October 2012

I heard so many horror stories. It's crazy! Honestly the worse part of my labor/delivery was them paging the wrong on call doctor and the stupid nurse telling me that I really wasn't in pain. (now it's more funny than anything else)

FWIW, you will have the cheap seats for the delivery. You aren't going to see anything gross looking. I could see the top of the doctor's head and my knees. That's it. I didn't even get to see DS until he was wrapped up in a blanket and not all covered in stuff.

KristyVit · October 2012

I watched baby story once when I was 6 weeks and the sounds coming out of that woman was enough to turn me off birthing videos. shudderrrrrrrr.

Licia&Wayne · October 2012

Anne Mommy:

I heard so many horror stories. It's crazy! Honestly the worse part of my labor/delivery was them paging the wrong on call doctor and the stupid nurse telling me that I really wasn't in pain. (now it's more funny than anything else)

FWIW, you will have the cheap seats for the delivery. You aren't going to see anything gross looking. I could see the top of the doctor's head and my knees. That's it. I didn't even get to see DS until he was wrapped up in a blanket and not all covered in stuff.

Womp womp. But I'm paying for the box where beer and hot dogs are served. Rip off.

TMWarren85 · October 2012

Honestly, compared to the contractions, the epidural was a welcomed walk in the park! When you're in the moment it doesn't matter- and I'm not talking about the "beautiful amazing I'm going to be a mom moment" I mean the literal laboring process, nurses everywhere, excitement of the whole situation... When I was at my childbirth class they told me it was hospital policy to not allow husbands in the room while the epidural was administered and I thought about finding a new hospital (meaning a new OB) at 32 weeks because I thought that was ridiculous, and then the time came and I didn't know if he was there or not... Granted my pregnancy felt long, and I gained a lot of weight so I was exhausted and on bed rest, but I look back and would rather go through L&D than be pregnant again... Which btw I am really enjoying my pregnancy this time. And who knows, you may not get a chance- when I was in L&D, I was all comfy on my epidural and ready to push but they had me wait a bit because a woman came in 9cm dilated and didn't have time to get an epidural... You're body can handle it, I promise!!! Just be surprised, and don't let your husband watch those movies!!!

raiderette1987 · October 2012

Believe me I haven't even had to watch a video I'm terrified all the time if I think about this. I'm having a pretty rough pregnancy and if that's any prediction on how my delivery is going to go I'm not excited! Good Luck! No more videos! Women who are already moms sometimes like to be almost mean to those of us first timers.

Lindzb3 · October 2012

Just like Anne mommy said, you're not going to see anything unless you have a mirror ( some do). With my first the the dr came in too late to give me the epidural so that one was drug free my second I had one. With this one I'm going with the flow, painful, but look what you get in the end!!

Carrie2375 · October 2012

Sarai28:
I think many moms would agree that their childbirth experience was not that bad! I hated getting the iv, but once I had my epidural (which was not painful) my labor and birth were not bad at all, and actually a wonderful experience! You're going to hear all sorts of stories, but just try to brush them off and know that everyone's experience is different- and that some people tend to exaggerate a bit too! Not that some women don't have more difficult experiences, but that doesn't mean you will! You will be just fine!

OK this is the best post I have read so far ! First let me share that I have needle phobia (therapy for freaking years trying to get over it), and when I had surgery to correct my fertility issues I had to have an IV. Thankfully my Dr.s office warned the hospital and they had a can of cold spray they use to numb my arm. I barely felt the IV. Ask for it. Its used for sports injuries to help with pain on the field.

Now on to why this is the best post ever, no one has ever said to me that the epidural was not painful. I have hope. Thank you. BTW all the poking and prodding during this pregnancy have helped me deal with my needle issues and I am 99.9% better. But the thought of one in my back makes be break out in sweat. Thanks again!

iwanaboy · October 2012

i agree! after the epidural it wasn't bad......felt pretty much nothing. I read somewhere the more you think about it and fear it the worse it will be because you want to try and control it. Sure its good to have a plan (though I never did....) but don't be afraid to go with the flow and deviate from the plan based on how labor is going.

Abeja1226 · October 2012

I saw live birth this weekend (I'm a nursing student). It was terrible...and I've already been through it. Just a note to anyone: if they offer you a mirror, don't take it! Trust me you do NOT want to see what is going on down there lol. This girl was pooping all over the place and I immediately texted DH and made him tell me if I did that, he said no, thank god.

Edit: I agree, the IV and epidural didn't hurt at all. My epi went in too late though so I never got relief (I was already transitioning as they were putting it in and was pushing about 15 minutes later). The worst part of labor for me were the contractions...the pushing did not hurt at all. I think I was in extra pain though because I was advancing SO fast (was at the hospital at 3cm and within 2 hours had the baby).

Annelea · October 2012

When I first found out i was pregnant i downloaded a few books on my Kindle, OMG, these women made pregnancy and child birth sound like the worst thing ever! I finally quit reading them and deleted them. I know Pregnancy can be miserable at times, but there are also days when i feel awesome and love being pregnant! their experiences are nothing like mine! as far as labor and delivery, i know its not going to be a cake walk! but it has to be done and hearing everyones horror stories are not worth the worry and stress. besides some women can be drama queens!

markhamgurl · October 2012

I'm pretty sure 99.9% of moms-to-be feel the same way about labour and delivery - utter terror! I watched a childbirth video in my 9th grade sex-ed class that seriously damaged me for life, and I thought afterwards that I'd NEVER have kids of my own. But I figured living in fear of something wasn't a great way to live, and figured that if other people can do it, so can I.

I also have a needle phobia, and had an absolute MELTDOWN shortly after we found out we were pregnant, when I read in one of our pregnancy books that I'd have to get multiple blood tests done as well as a glucose tolerance test. Nobody informed me of that beforehand!? I've since been for two now and was much less stressed the second time than the first time.

I think with anything, it gets easier the more you're exposed to it and/or experience it. So I'm feeling a little more confident about my ability to get this baby out (but 100% AGREE that babies have the worst exit strategies!). Obviously for some people (like us), we're better-off not knowing the gruesome details, so if someone tries to tell you their horror story, stop them right away!

I plan on going into this as well-informed as I can tolerate being, trust my doctors, and just hope for the best. That, and to try and remain focused on the lovely end result which will be our baby

smurf605 · October 2012

I was always terrified of labor. I suggested to my DH (only partially in jest) that we adopt. I gave birth to DS vaginally and afterwards I told my DH that "I could do this again, it wasn't nearly as bad as all of the stories I hear." My DH said, "Women tend to hate each other, that is why you hear all of those stories." This certainly gave me a laugh.

I didn't feel the epidural either. I was so focused on keeping still through the contractions that I didn't even notice the needle go in. Since it is in your back, you don't ever see the needle either.

wittyschaffy · October 2012

I guess I'm a weirdo because I think that the whole process of birth is beautiful (yes even the pooping and blood). I think that a lot of women get a little freaked in labor. I also don't think that it HAS to be that way. Don't let other people's horror stories scare you out of something that you want.

lynn3yb00 · October 2012

On the needle subject- I'm horrified by needles (to the point when I was 17, when my sister & I were at the Dr's for my sister's shots, the Dr pointed the needle at me and said I was gonna get a shot and I fainted). I take DH to my OB appts (incase they draw blood) and have a conversation with him while I look away from the needle. I still feel it and get dizzy when I do, but I don't faint anymore. You may be able to work with the needle if you distract yourself.

I'm with PP on you not seeing anything. I'm a FTM, but I don't know any woman who has been flexible enough to see everything while she was in labor (and if there is, congratulations to her).

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