Looks like single mommyhood for me

exc1tedforbaby1 · October 2012

Looks like single mommyhood for me

Yup. Caught him cheating. Had a really sneaking suspicion for months. Since I was pregnant. He won't admit it. He totally trashed me, but the most hurtful part was telling her what an awful lazy mom I am. He's going to see the awfully spiteful side when he sees the repercussions since everything from our cell phones to his car is in my name. :]

Crossingfingers · October 2012

I'm so sorry to hear that; I won't trash your dh but it is cruel to betray another person in that way. I hope things work out in the best way for you.

exc1tedforbaby1 · October 2012

Thanks ladies. I'm not going to trash him too badly. I don't think it's totally sunk in yet. Thank god we weren't married yet so it's a little easier of a break. The girl was really nice. We both had the sheets pulled over our eyes and she told me everything. Wish I just knew when he was going to grow up. He's now 28, with two kids with two women. With no place to go. We were staying with my parents. And obviously won't have a car or phone soon. And I got him a job working at a prison with my cousin and uncle. They won't get him fired, otherwise how would I get child support. But they will make it quite awkward.

jesslinnn · October 2012

Wow, I don't know what to say except I'm so sorry! Stay strong lady.

bigbootyjudi · October 2012

You're a better person than me. I'd make his life absolute hell. Cheating is bad enough, but cheating on your girlfriend right after she birthed your child? I'd have his ass handed to him.

Sorry he ended up being such a twat. Thankfully, you have your parents to help you out if needed.

Bemyselfandi · October 2012

Oh my this is terrible. Good luck dear.

valeriej6 · October 2012

I'm so sorry to hear this. What a jerk for taking it to the next level and saying you're a bad mom! Uncalled for. Best of luck to you.

trying4babyhunter · October 2012

anbeck4:
You're a better person than me. I'd make his life absolute hell. Cheating is bad enough, but cheating on your girlfriend right after she birthed your child? I'd have his ass handed to him.

Sorry he ended up being such a twat. Thankfully, you have your parents to help you out if needed.

This.

exc1tedforbaby1 · October 2012

AB2K10:
anbeck4:
You're a better person than me. I'd make his life absolute hell. Cheating is bad enough, but cheating on your girlfriend right after she birthed your child? I'd have his ass handed to him.

Sorry he ended up being such a twat. Thankfully, you have your parents to help you out if needed.

This.

Then i probably should add that it started while I was still pregnant. WINNER!

chefnicole22 · October 2012

I'm so sorry you're going through this! I hope everything works out ok for you, and like PPs have said, I'd make his life hell! Just be careful with texts/emails though. Good luck.

Cbarajas08 · October 2012

I am so sorry. Better to find out now than later on. Focus on your precious LO and continue to be a great Mommy! Hugs

poppyseed1017 · October 2012

What a total fcking azzhole! I'm so sorry : You don't deserve that. Be kind to yourself...and take his azz DOWN, girl.

SpruceGrouse · October 2012

Sorry you are going through this. Good luck with moving on.

ashleigha894 · October 2012

Call your phone company and see if you can get a transcript of all texts and phone calls on his phone so you have them for court. Also get this girl to help you write up a timeline, when they got together etc. Next get a lawyer, you can usually get them through the county, and make sure to make a custody agreement.

I have several friends going through this right now and it is tough, not only for the parents (mom in your case) but for the kids too. Hopefully you can get the worst of it worked out before DS is old enough to remember anything.

Good luck and remember we are all here for you.

klmcguire · October 2012

I am so sorry to hear this

. Your a great mommy and definitely don't need him in your life!! Keep your head held high and remember we are always here for you!

latnprincess · October 2012

What a loser! So sorry to hear!

Mrs_Bennett · October 2012

So sorry to hear this! Hope everything works out for you and your DS!

mmdailey · October 2012

I know how it feels to be cheated on and I wouldn't wish that kind of pain on anyone. I'm so sorry it happened to you. I'm also glad the girl is on your side now. At least one of them isn't a liar.

rp-chicago-mom · October 2012

What a great role model for your child! So sorry you have to go through this! I can't believe there are men low enough to do that to a new mother. Keep your head high and like pp said keep all records... Get the most child support you can!

Daniellekrista · October 2012

Glad you aren't married yet so he can't have his car and shizz. Good luck.

Nikko Blue · October 2012

I'm so sorry.

halvorsonl00 · October 2012

Who does that!? What a jerk. Good for you for moving on and not putting up with his shiz. Take the car and phone, but careful how nasty you get, especially in emails/texts, like a pp said. That can come back to haunt you. GL. You know what's best for you and baby.

gollywollypog · October 2012

Oh no. So sorry this is happening,. Sad

jessalynn521 · October 2012

I am sorry to hear that. It really is lower than just breaking thing off with a woman in my opinion. Just take care of you and your baby and everything will work itself out

Tula214 · October 2012

I'm so sorry to hear that. Thankfully you found out before you got married, or it'd be so much harder legally. You seem like a very strong woman, and you must have plenty of support from your family as well. GL, and as pp said, be careful what you text to him. I've seen that ruin things for some women.

ChibiMommy · October 2012

AB2K10:
anbeck4:
You're a better person than me. I'd make his life absolute hell. Cheating is bad enough, but cheating on your girlfriend right after she birthed your child? I'd have his ass handed to him. Sorry he ended up being such a twat. Thankfully, you have your parents to help you out if needed.
This.

Exactly,and go you for having the strength to realize it wasn't the other women's fault. ::big hugs: Check out the single parents board I bet they will have good advice for you.

hooslisa · October 2012

i have not read any of the above responses, my unsolicited advice is this:

call a lawyer ASAP. even if you don't end up getting a divorce, you need to protect yourself.

remove his access from any accounts that are primarily yours.

check out this website, it has some really great tips and to dos. https://deltabravo.net/cms/plugins/content/content.php?content.4

PROTECT YOURSELF

hooslisa · October 2012

hooslisa:

i have not read any of the above responses, my unsolicited advice is this:

call a lawyer ASAP. even if you don't end up getting a divorce, you need to protect yourself.

remove his access from any accounts that are primarily yours.

check out this website, it has some really great tips and to dos. https://deltabravo.net/cms/plugins/content/content.php?content.4

PROTECT YOURSELF

okay, i just started scanning through and realized you aren't married. still, if you have joint accounts, remove him.

i would still contact an attorney asap because there will be things to sort out with having a child together.

that website above still has great steps.... check it out.

babyike · October 2012

Ditto PPs, so sorry you're having to deal with this at all but especially right now with a newborn (((HUGS))) and hopefully the ins and outs of the break-up go smoothly from here on out.

And obviously get all things baby-related legally documented (regarding custody, visitation, etc) Yes And take his a.s.s. to the cleaners on the child custody payments.