Watching hoards.. mom says she never wanted boys..

LadyNikon · October 2012

So I am watching hoarders and this mom just said " I never wanted boys..". Well she ended up with 5 kids FOUR of which are boys. Her son ( who is probably in his early 20's) over heard her. I wanted to scream at the TV lol. I have had my mom tell me she wish I was never born so to hear another mom say that about her kids.. wow.

Bambina54 · October 2012

Ugh. How do people not realize how devasting it is to hear something like that, regardless of how old you are when you hear it?! I can't imagine even feeling that way toward my children though. So sad.

sschwege · October 2012

So awful! I remember seeing this show on TLC about women who were on a mission to have girls. Some used fertility treatments to ensure a girl. Others just crossed their fingers. I remember there was one woman who had 6 boys and they followed her into the u/s room where she found out she was having her 7th boy. She just sobbed and sobbed. How sad for the boys to see that on TV and know how their mom felt! Plus imagine how their classmates at school might react! There was another woman who said she would never marry her long time boyfriend unless he 'gave her' a girl. They had a few boys, maybe 3 and decided to undergo fertility to get a girl. They ended up with twin girls and after they were born they got married. Just crazy!

Chocodoxies · October 2012

I just do not understand true "gender disappointment". I get thinking you were having a boy/girl and being a little taken aback to find that you are having the other, but to truly be sad/angry/depressed over it just confuses me. Isn't the 50/50 shot expected? Isn't a healthy baby better than an unhealthy boy/girl?

LadyNikon · October 2012

I remember wanting a boy when I was pregnant with DD. Then I found out she was a girl. I was a like.. oh well and moved on. I can't image her being anything other than she is. She will have her perfectly polished finger nails and play in rocks and dirt just like any boy. LOL. She will just do it with fairy wings and a crown. She loves dump trucks, race cars and doll babies. She will play with anyone.

ilenegrace · October 2012

My BIL's mom was like this... she only had 2 boys and never wanted boys and everyone knows this including her sons. She apparently had such bad PPD after her second son was born she took off and left both kids for a couple weeks. Both her sons are grown in their 40's and she is an alcoholic now and claims having boys ruined her life.

RissKay · October 2012

It's just ridiculous. I mean, we were *hoping* for a girl, because we were mostly terrified of having a boy because we have NO idea how to do boys!! (I have 2 younger sisters, he has one.) This in NO way meant that we were disappointed to have a boy... we love him SO much already and cannot WAIT for him to be here!

dpraseutsinh · October 2012

that's horrible! DH and i wanted children SO bad, i couldn't even imagine anyone saying things like that to their own children. i understand there are people out there that didn't want children, but ended up getting pregnant and loving their kids anyway. but c'mon, to actually still feel like that even after carrying them, raising them, you don't love them one bit!? people are ridiculous. i've loved my LO since i saw that positive on a stick!

HAFranklin · October 2012

I have a friend who is recently pg with #4. They have 3 boys. When announcing the pregnancy, she told everyone "And if we end up with another boy, we'll have to move on to a gender selection specialist for the next one, because I can NOT handle anymore blue, trucks or sports!" You know, because having a penis is the factor that determines an interest in those things. :::eye roll:::

3GirlsMama · October 2012

We are expecting our 4th and have 3 girls already...everyone who finds this out immediately expects that we are desperately wanting a little boy...and DH kind of is, and actually the little girls do too...is it odd that I'm much more comfortable with the idea of having another girl? LOL - I don't know what to do with all those boy parts when it comes to diaper changes! And, for the record, I will be happy with either boy or girl!

shutupanddance07 · October 2012

I used to work in a daycare center. I had a parent tell me, with her nearly 5 year old daughter standing next to her, and her 3 year old in her arms, that she hates being a mom, that she sees none of those rewards people talks about, and she picks up extra shifts at work whenever possible so she doesn't have to be around her kids. And that I should be so glad I'm having a boy because girls are just whiny brats. Um... WHAT??? I mean, I get that you're tired of fighting with your daughter about what she wears to school, but come on now... they can hear you.

I love my son and he isn't even here yet. I can't imagine even THINKING some of the things she said...

BrittanyDoesDerby · October 2012

shutupanddance07:
I used to work in a daycare center. I had a parent tell me, with her nearly 5 year old daughter standing next to her, and her 3 year old in her arms, that she hates being a mom, that she sees none of those rewards people talks about, and she picks up extra shifts at work whenever possible so she doesn't have to be around her kids. And that I should be so glad I'm having a boy because girls are just whiny brats. Um... WHAT??? I mean, I get that you're tired of fighting with your daughter about what she wears to school, but come on now... they can hear you.

That's really flucking awful.

ChynaDholl · October 2012

With how I grew up, hearing things from my mother and how she treated me vs. my brothers, I never wanted boys either because I was always fearful that I would treat them the way she would treated me. When I found out I was having a boy with my DS, I started crying because I thought all I knew was to be a horrible mother to boys. The day after my ultrasound, my pregnancy was just more personal to me and I fell in love with my son and couldn't imagine a mother treating her child the way they do just because of the sex (my mother included because she never wanted a girl). I do, however, still have issues with getting close to boys outside of my own. I can accept them but it takes longer and a conscious effort for me to actually have any kind of emotions toward them.

magnoliablossom00 · October 2012

My MIL talks ALL the time about how she and FIL "prayed and prayed" to NOT have a little girl. Well, they have dh and guess what? a daughter, also! I always want to say, "b*tch, you know I have TWO girls, so wtf are you trying to say to me? And secondly, you HAVE a daughter!!!" It must really hurt her feelings, but whatever- SIL is a real pill anyway. Ha.

mejane123 · October 2012

magnoliablossom00:
My MIL talks ALL the time about how she and FIL "prayed and prayed" to NOT have a little girl. Well, they have dh and guess what? a daughter, also! I always want to say, "b*tch, you know I have TWO girls, so wtf are you trying to say to me? And secondly, you HAVE a daughter!!!" It must really hurt her feelings, but whatever- SIL is a real pill anyway. Ha.

I wonder if that has anything to do with the fact that you MIL very clearly wanted all boys and doesn't seem to be shy about letting everyone know??

I swear, people jinx themselves when they have their hearts set on one sex. I worked with 4 sisters, and guess what dad wanted? Yep, all boys. This seems to happen more often than not. I have a feeling we're going to end up with all one or the other because DH has been saying forever he wants one of each.

And it REALLY irks my nerves when someone who basically keeps doing trial and error ends up with SEVEN children and still has the gall to complain about not getting exactly what they wanted seven babies ago. Seriously???!! People try for years before being able to get pregnant, and so many just give up after awhile because it seems so hopeless. If you desperately want a girl so badly and are going to treat your sons like $hit because they don't have vaginas, pony up the money for gender selection fertility treatment right from the start.

Someone posted an article on here not long ago about a woman who found out, after all boys, that her third or fourth (I forget) was also a boy. She was desperate to have a girl, and when she found this out, she went into massive depression, curled in the fetal position for weeks, crying because she was so upset. They actually considered abortion because it wasn't a girl and were so heartbroken. For their next kid, they went through TWO rounds of gender selection fertility treatment (the first round failed), and they finally got their little girl. It must be nice to have all the ability to pay for fertility treatment that is so selfish. I feel terrible for the sons because it's very clear mom (and possibly dad, they didn't really get into that) never wanted them. And to put it all out there on the internet or TV for the world to see is just cruel.

I don't mean to sound so b!tchy, but this topic has always bothered me to no end. And don't even get me started on those "designer babies" that have come about in recent years.

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