s/o bringing babies to showers

monishabansal · October 2012

Reading the post below I noticed that many posters said if the infant was invited their name would be listed on the invite. While this is totally true for wedding invites, I would say most shower invites I have received are evites. Is this true for y'all too, or is this an anomaly with my friends/family?

[Deleted User] · October 2012

I have never recieved an evite for anything.

blush64 · October 2012

In my family we still send out real invitations. We usually won't include the name of an infant on the invitation but they are invited, for some reason it's just known because it has always been that way. Attending a shower for someone other than family I would just follow what's on the invitation. Baby showers include the children as well for us. Some prefer not to bring their children but that's left to them. Bridal showers go either way but usually children are invited.

mben1119 · October 2012

I have never received a shower invite that wasn't on paper and either hand delivered or mailed to me.

monishabansal · October 2012

Not related to babies being there, but maybe I've just been to more informal showers. Fwiw, of the three I had (yes, I feel very lucky) one was friends/family (evite), one was thrown by my office (paper invite), and one by DH's office (Outlook meeting request).

maiatene · October 2012

I have received it all - FB (which I despise bc it screams lazy), e-vite (hate this too bc I rarely check email and feels impersonal) and traditional invite via USPS (LOVES THIS bc I hv a physical reminder and seems the most thought out).

I bellieve if you go the non-traditional route then you should expect kids at your event. If you send out traditional paper invites and address them only to the parents (Mr & Mrs Smith) it implies no children. If the invitation is addressed to Mr & Mrs Smith and Family, or if its specified that it will be a casual event then kids can come. Some people even send the child(ren) separate invites, but I think thats more apt to happen at weddings.

Personally (not judging anyone) I dont get why you have to bring your child to everything you are invited, especially adult functions like weddings and baby showers. I personally would welcome the chance to relax and unwind with other adults and would enjoy a few hours not having to worry abt watching or entertaining my child. The world wont end if you leave the child with a sitter for a few hours if you can afford it...

MelleTX · October 2012

99% of the invitations I receive are paper in the mail. I do get tons of evites, but they are more for girls' night, jewelry parties, adult birthday celebrations, or informal get-togethers - the kind where you sign up to bring food or drink items. I did an evite for a bridal shower once because it was impromptu and very small.

Children were not officially invited to my first shower, but were there. Although I assume this is because they were the children of two of the hostesses - one was at her house and the other traveled to be there. Children were not invited to my upcoming shower and knowing the crowd will not be there

I think this is half follow the rules that children will be listed on the invites if invited and half know your audience. For family parties, I would go with what you know people usually do. For non-family events, if they aren't on the invite, they aren't invited.

mhickey426 · October 2012

I have never received an evite for things like this. I have received reminder or save the date type evites but a formal invite always followed. Kids/infants are not invited unless the invite is addressed with the child/infants name or says "and Family"

tiffmatt · October 2012

Does the evite have an area to show who it is to (other than an email address)? I've only sent and received paper invites, and while the invitation does not indicate who is invited the envelope certainly does. When I gave my sister the guest list I specifically included which children were invited (those for guests coming in from out of town) and they were listed on the envelope. That being said, we were still prepared to have other children attend if their parents wanted/needed to bring them, however none of the local guests with kids made it out.

An evite could lead to a lot of ambiguity as they may not actually address who is invited. When in doubt though, contact the host as they didn't allow a way to tell from the evite.

monishabansal · October 2012

tiffmatt:
Does the evite have an area to show who it is to (other than an email address)?

It doesn't, which is why I started wondering. Of the two showers I have coming up, one I got an evite for but wouldn't bring DD anyway, and the other I'm hosting and so my daughter will be home, though DH will be taking care of her.

Helenahhandbasket · October 2012

Lurker...but wanted to chime in.

I got an invitation to my cousin's baby shower this past August. The invite was addressed to me only, not my DD (who is 8 mo now, but was about 6 mo at the time). I didn't bring her. To me not on invite means not invited.

Also, I have never rec's an evite for a shower. In my circle evites are reserved for very casual get- togethers.

Allycat11 · October 2012

The only evites I have ever received have been for direct sales parties (Pure Romance, Tastefully Simple, etc...) and parties in college. Every shower invite I have ever received has been a formal, paper invite in the mail. Also, in my family we would list everyone invited on the envelope.

laurakaz13 · October 2012

I've received Evites for showers before. I've received them for everything but weddings. I actually don't mind at all.

rhubarb123 · October 2012

I have only received e-vites for very casual things like girlfriend get-togethers, etc. I have gotten "save the dates" via internet but then got a paper invite. We host an annual BBQ every year and I send out paper invites for that (about 50 of them).

I prefer to get a paper invite so I have a "reminder" either on the fridge or in my "to do box" along with bills. lol

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