January 2013 Moms
MRSVELA07
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One week bonding time with baby!
MRSVELA07
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So I've finalized my tentative maternity leave plan! I'll be taking 5.5 months off then hubby will take 3 months off after I go back to work. However the time I'm really looking forward to is the uninterrupted 7 day bonding time hubby and I will have after our baby boy is born. I have a list of freezer friendly foods to make for hubby and I before LO gets here and while I'm breast feeding or resting hubby will help out around the house. My mom understands and respects our wishes however my MIL doesn't seem to be on board, which I'm not worried about but what are your plans after your little one arrives?
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Re: One week bonding time with baby!
DH is taking two weeks and my mom will come over for 10 days at some point after that (we live overseas).
Wish I had done the one week bonding time with our first. Too many people popping in at odd hours to see the baby. It was exhausting.
My MIL will be more than welcomed to come over after hubby goes back to work however she's proved she has issues with boundaries. I don't like inexpected guests and she has the idea that I'm going to be at her house when she wants to see the baby. Now I will go over there for visits however I feel more comfortable being at home. My mom understands all of this. We'll see!
DH gets one week off with the ability to go to half days for the next week which we will do if I end up having a c-section.
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Sounds like you and DH have some great time with baby to look forward too. I love your idea of making freezer meals before baby arrives. DH and I talked just about buying a deep freezer just so we have extra storage to be able to do prepared meals.
As for my leave, I'll take 8 to 10 weeks and I've hoarded vacation and sick leave for a few years so most of my leave will be paid by using my leave. DH earns very little leave so the week or two that he takes off will be unpaid. We want him to take off that time though so we can bond as a family and enjoy our new little girl. I'm very excited about that time.
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I'm jealous!
DH isn't getting any time off, so it's just gonna be me, and 18 month old, and a newborn alone for 10 or more hours everyday!
You're taking 5.5 months off!?! Oh! I am so jealous!
I'll be taking 14 weeks, because I get two bonding weeks. I'm not sure I'll take them all together, but whatever.
It sounds like a really neat time you have planned with your newborn. I'm glad that your mother is being respectful of your wishes.
Playing devil's advocate, I know how excited my MIL is about the baby. I can't imagine asking her to wait 7-8 days before meeting her grandchild.
We'll have 2 days at the hospital and the grandparents are more than welcomed too see the baby then. Its just 7 days...they'll have years to see their grandbaby!
I get 2 weeks off from work for paternity leave.
So what we plan on doing is staying at home by ourselves the first week to try to get into a routine, our family bonding time, etc.
Then start allowing people to come over starting the second week.
We are planning to implement a "Don't call us, we'll call you" policy. And people will have a set amount of time they can be there, unless we ask them to stay longer- you must bring food haha, and helping us doesn't constitute monopolizing baby time. Helping us means actually, you know, helping us with house chores as well.
When my cousin had his kid, his entire immediately family kept coming over to "help" aka, hold the baby. I hate when people come over for baby time under the guise of "help". If you want to come over and just hold the baby- then say so. That way we are all on the same page and have the same expectations, you know?
Planning on taking my full 12 weeks of maternity here. Will not return to work, instead will be doing some in home babysitting for 3-4 children.
My SO works 14 days on and off and cannot take any time off except to maybe come home for the birth if he is away. Bummed about that but we both have wonderful family and my parents are 2 miles down the street so my Mother will actually be taking some "grandparents vacation" time to help me out if SO is at work.
I am bummed that SO may miss out on the first couple weeks but it will be nice when he gets to come home for 14 days at a time with nothing else to do but bond with LO. We will get our fair share of family time!
That makes sense, I was reading as though you would start that as soon as the baby is there.