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How do you deal with feeling inadequate over everything you should be doing?
I am sure this is compounded by pregnancy hormones, but does anyone feel like everyone has it figured out except for you? Lately I just feel like life is this giant to do list, even stuff that should be fun like sex with DH, going to the park with my son, and even gym time (normally my stress release time). I have been sitting here on the couch for over an hour surfing the bump trying to get up the gumption to finish the laundry. I have done next to nothing to get ready for this baby, my parents keep asking when I will come up to visit, and I still have to complete one more continuing education activity for my work, I feel like I am hardly getting the day to day done. I am constantly moving from one thing to the next, but it all seems like work. Anyone else feel like they are never quite doing enough as a wife, mother professional, and most of all for yourself.
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Re: How do you deal with feeling inadequate over everything you should be doing?
Yes I do, especially today when my kid's were acting like they were upset at me all day. I go to school full time and I am preparing to take my nursing entrance exam this week. So I have been out of the house almost all last week and my kids definitely noticed. I struggle with trying to balance being a good student with being a wife and mother. It's hard and most days I feel like I am not doing enough.
But then I try to cut myself some slack, which is what you should do. We don't have super powers, we can't possibly do everything. And the laundry will still be there tomorrow!
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i mean, to an extent. i try to prioritize so that the most important things are meeting my standards, but let the rest kind of go on the back burner. as long as i do that, i don't feel inadequate - it's the best i can do.
i'm accepting the fact that i can't do everything for now and paying people to handle some of it (painting, remodeling, take out lol) while i get through this busy period in my life.. preparing to sell, buy and move, beginning my master's degree, working part time+, being an involved and attentive parent. crazy! as long as the important things are covered, i'm not going to let myself feel inadequate.
Thanks. I needed to hear that there isn't some big secret out there to doing it all that I am missing :-).
Bottom line, cut yourself some slack. No one has it all together.
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
Constantly. I worked until DD was 18 months old and always felt over-stressed, over-stretched, and like my house and life were a mess.
I started SAH back in June and thought I'd be super mom. Crafts, projects, long walks to the park, etc.
Instead, DD now watched Mickey every day while I drink my coffee and cruise the internet, and I often wonder if she was better off at daycare. I keep thinking that her life will suck when baby 2 arrives and I'm even less attentive. I taught elementary school, for heaven's sake! Shouldn't I be one of those play at home super moms? Guess not!