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buzzbee24
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The SleapEasy Solution Vs. No-Cry Solution. Thoughts? Experience?
buzzbee24
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I posted recently about self soothing, sttn and all that jazz...well, in the last 2 days, I have managed to read both Sleapeasy and No-Cry solutions. DH took the lead over Adam duties for the weekend to allow me to do some research( Can you tell DH is tired and ready for us to sleep train as well? Lol)
Anyway, while I ideally like the theory of approach in the No-Cry method (and I honestly don't think I can handle CIO) I feel like the Sleepeasy may be more practical and yield faster results? The interval check-ins proposed in Sleepeasy may help with my anxiety about any form of CIO. Maybe I just have to resign to the possibility that any sleep training or new skill, like self soothing, will result in some crying out of frustration, but I can try to sooth through comforting words? The "no touch" aspect of Sleepeasy might be extremely difficult for me to follow through with (that natural mommy instinct). IDK. I am at a loss as to which direction to take this, but I know I need consistency with either training.And somethings gotta give with our current situation.
Any of you out there have any experience with either or both approaches? Success? Difficulties? Suggestions?
My next read is Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. Anyone have thoughts on that book? I sampled the first 100 pages of it in Google books and seems to deal with more the science of sleep( which is extremely important to understand)...Again, IDK what to do, but I'm trying...*sigh*
Any advice or sharing is greatly appreciated. TIA!
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Re: The SleapEasy Solution Vs. No-Cry Solution. Thoughts? Experience?
Healthy Sleep Habits is awesome and you're right, reading it helps you understand why it is critical from a health standpoint to develop good sleep habits but if you cannot deal with CIO, you may find it tough. Honestly, if you are going to be sucessful with sleep training (or really sleep teaching in my opinion) there will be SOME tears. Especially those first few days.
You really have to keep your eye on the big picture though and know that while it is hard to ST during those days/weeks, teaching your baby good sleep habits really helps them out in the long run. We used HSH with DD1 but she was naturally a good sleeper so it was not hard. DS (3 mos) is harder so I will likely do a more Ferber/Sleepeasy approach with him.
I think Sleepeasy is probably the best for you based on what you've said but nothing will work unless you are committed to it and CONSISTENT. If you pick a course, stick with it. Give it a solid 5 days. Otherwise if you shift course midway I think it sends baby mixed signals and confuses them, which is even less fair.
HSH does deal a lot with the science in the beginning, but I consider it a must read. As you get deeper into the book, it covers just about everything. Very informative.
We have decided on the Sleepeasy method, but I keep putting off starting because I have so much anxiety over the CIO. I gave it a "test run" one night last week and let LO cry for his initial bedtime only, and did the 5-10-15 min check-ins and it was extremely hard to not touch him or stay longer than 30 seconds. I feel like the check-ins made him cry harder and longer so you really have to toughen your skin and be prepared for that scenario if that happens. That night, LO cried for about 45 minutes intermittently, with various "degrees" of distress....most of the time it was more of an attention seeking "yell" rather than actual crying. You have to keep in mind that the check-ins are designed more for the parents peace of mind, and that if the baby is showing signs of calming that they aren't necessary (and like I said can make it worse sometimes)
I also have a lot of anxiety over starting because I have to also do the night time weaning, as LO is up pretty much every hour to eat.. I would like to keep a 3:00 feeding but phase the other ones out. It just seems so complicated to sit there and time your feeding sessions when you're half asleep. I'm really stressed out over it but I know things will probably be so much better once I get it over with.
I have also been experimenting with not running to get him right away after I get him down for a nap and he wakes after 10 minutes. On several occasions he sang himself back to sleep, sometimes more than once during a nap period. So I think he is already starting to practice his soothing skills which gives me hope than when we do begin the actual training, he will already have a small amount of practice and his crying won't be that bad.
Anyways, I have looked into the No-Cry and the Sleep Lady Shuffle, but I feel like those methods are more of a tease to the baby and the whole process is more prolonged. We chose Sleepeasy, b/c like the book says, it usually produces results the fastest with a minimal amount of crying. I know that there are others that may disagree, but that's just me personal opinion, and I also know that it doesn't work for everyone, but we want to be able to say we tried.
Let me know if you decide on Sleepeasy. Maybe we could do it together and help each other along the way! Maybe having another mommy do it with me will give me the push I need to get started. I know it's nerve wracking! GL!