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jinnymb
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Not sure if I should be annoyed with this?
jinnymb
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I know this shouldn't bother me AT all, but I'm kind of annoyed.
I've been contacting possible Doulas and decided not to use one woman. No negative reasons, just decided was too pricey. I had also told her my back story that I have given birth twice, the second med-free etc... I was just looking for some extra support, didn't really need the whole package.
I emailed her to let her know and thank her for her time, and let her know I would pass her name around to anyone inquiring.
She writes back thank you etc... If I need anything let her know. OKay that's cool.
She replies a second time after we were done with our pleasantries saying "Just some unsolicited advice (I can't help myself). The hospital you are delivering at, has a high c-section rate and is not mom friendly, just thought you should know."
Would this annoy you? I know it sounds silly, but I already explained that I delivered there twice and once med-free, I didn't have any problem with the particular hospital. I could understand if this was my first baby you know. What do you think the point of throwing that in at the end was?
Natural M/c 12/13/08 at 8w5d
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Re: Not sure if I should be annoyed with this?
And that was the one you decided not to use? Yeah, that would annoy me. If she was the doula I was using, the suggestion might not have bothered me, but being that you eliminated her as an option, she would be equal to peanut gallery to me.
Oh yeah if I hired her then I would see the purpose. DH said she did it to "get in my head" lol.
I would hope she was just being helpful.
Natural M/c 12/13/08 at 8w5d
I see how it could annoy you, but I interpret her as genuinely just trying to be helpful.
I also wouldn't be shocked if she didn't really recall all of your details of already having birthed there, and so that's why she decided to share her knowledge/opinion.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
...baby #3 is here...
I actually had a doula (who I was only initially contacting via email) reply back that she strongly urged me to reconsider where I was delivering because she felt it was a busy place and they left mothers laboring in the halls and it really affected their outcomes. This did really bother me because we hadn't even spoken yet in person, I told her I had already delivered there med-free, and I just didn't need any more seeds of doubt. I'm sure it wasn't meant in a "get in your head" kind of way, but it did bother me nonetheless.
Thanks ladies!! I would hope it wasn't a scare tactic, that is kind of how I took it at first. She probably didn't remember all the details which is why I would assume she would throw it in there?
Either way I think I just had cold feet about doing this all again but after all the research etc... and talking it out I think we should be good to go again!!
DH is really against hiring a Doula, he feels like he can do it, no need. Thanks for all the support here, it has really helped me get my confidence back!!
Natural M/c 12/13/08 at 8w5d