April 2013 Moms
tondraluv
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Need advice
tondraluv
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One of my co workers lost his baby due to a detached placenta at birth two months ago. Needless to say he is still morning. I was trying to wait until after his child's memorial two weeks ago to tell him that I am pregnant but I still feel like its never the right time. I'm starting to get a small bump and this m/s never let's up so I feel like I need to tell him sooner than later because its getting obvious. I don't want him to find out through someone else and am trying to be as sensitive as possible to his feelings. So how do I tell him?
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Re: Need advice
Hmmm well I would do it privately for sure and just tell him slowly. You def want him to hear if from you rather then someone else. So the sooner the better.
Good luck!
Just be sensitive and tell him that with all he has been through you were trying to wait but you don't want him to hear from anyone else, that your pregnant. Keep it simple and he may surprise you. Good luck, that is a tough one.
Yea I'm horrible too and I also don't deal with loss well. I was going to email him to give him time to absorb it but that doesn't feel right.
I was going to say maybe you could send him a note (but I'm not sure I would choose an e-mail, probably handwritten) letting him know so that he can process it alone and come to you when he's ready. Then he doesn't need to be trying to congratulate you right away while he's dealing with his own feelings of loss and hearing the news for the first time?
That's a tough position, just whatever you decide, know he might not handle it great right away and it doesn't mean he isn't happy for you or anything, just that he needs to process.