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37, unmarried, unemployed-UPDATE...blahhh

Donegal37Donegal37
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So...told the guy I've been seeing a little while ago. He totally freaked out and is not happy about it AT ALL. Worse reaction than I had anticipated. Hoping that he will possibly come around over time but right now I feel like he hates me.

At least my mom, stepdad and the few good friends I have told are being very supportive...but very upset about this nonetheless. They all are trying to convince me that everything will be okay...and I would like to believe them...it just stinks that he had such a negative reaction. Crying

I might drown my sorrows in a cheese pizza. Haha.

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Re: 37, unmarried, unemployed-UPDATE...blahhh

  • danuli8danuli8 member

    "I might drown my sorrows in a cheese pizza. Haha."

    Pizza Mmm, pizza. At least you'll be getting your calcium... I am so sorry the father is being a giant ass. Maybe he is just in shock and will come around in a few weeks. I'm glad your family and friends are supporting you. There's no hug icon, so {{{{Donegal}}}} here you go.

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  • Donegal37Donegal37

    Just placed the order for pizza...lol...

    Thank you for the HUG...it is truly appreciated...and *BIG HUG* back!

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  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member

    I don't know your fella, but I'm going to be positive and think that he's just in shock and needs some time to digest it all. I hope he comes around, sooner rather than later.

    Enjoy your pizza and give your guy a little space. And maybe give yourself a massage-- you certainly could use some pampering!

    ((hugs))

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  • kat1221kat1221 member

    So sorry he is acting that way.  I'm sure he doesn't hate you...he's probably confused and scared.  It's a lot to take in...even for a couple that has been together for a long time.  I actually got pregnant 4 months into my relationship with my husband.  At first he was really weird and I wasn't sure he would come around but he did.  It was tough but we got through it and have been married for 5 years and have #2 on the way in Feb.

    It is so great that you have the support of your family and friends.  I wish you the best! 

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  • mama2manymama2many member
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    One does not simply begin hating someone they truly love, just because they get pregnant. They may not be ready for a baby. They may not want a baby. They may end the relationship in an attempt to get their way. But, hate? No.

    I am sorry you are going through this rough time. Hopefully, he will either come around, or he will get a move on so you can have your baby without the drama of an unwilling partner.

    (((HUGS))) 

    All of this - and another BIG hug. I hope he'll come around to being at the least, supportive. If not, you'll get your little one without all the drama of trying to co-parent with someone who isn't on the same page with you.

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  • Donegal37Donegal37

    Thank you everyone...for your kind posts...unfortunately, I do not think that he loves me...and, we have only been dating casually since April so it's not a long-term relationship situation. I am hoping he will have a change of heart once he gets over the shock, but after our conversation yesterday am definitely preparing myself to be a single mother...definitely grateful to have a supportive family and true blue friends, as well as all of you here who lift my spirits- thank you.

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  • txcyclisttxcyclist member

    I'm sorry he reacted that way. That doesn't help at all. I can tell I was in the same situation 10 years ago (at the age of 28) and sadly my son's bio dad never came around and has never seen his son. But 6 years ago I met an amazing man who totally accepted my son and actually adopted him this year after we were married.

    All this to say that it will be ok. Lean on your friends and family and know that you can do this. It will be hard at times but very rewarding. Hopefully he will come around and be an active parent but either way you will get through this...

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    it will be ok. Lean on your friends and family and know that you can do this. It will be hard at times but very rewarding. Hopefully he will come around and be an active parent but either way you will get through this...

    ((Hugs)) 

    This is spot on.

    Trust me once you hold your little one in your arms nothing else will matter.  The love you feel for the baby will fill your life tenfold. 

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  • kriska1976kriska1976

    I had a friend who ended up in the exact same situation as you and when she told her BF he didn't respond well either.  Unfortunately, he never came around, but she made it through.  She ended up being a single mom for many years, but she is now married to an amazing man who accepts her child as his own.

    I hope he comes around and ends up being a great father, but if not, know you have support all around you.  People who you never thought would support you will.

    Good luck with everything! 

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    Keep your head up doll .. Be a strong woman you have a little blessing on the way!! Stay strong!!
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  • Donegal37Donegal37

    Thank you for your messages...they definitely help to make me feel more positive about my situation :-)

    *HUGS!*

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  • takeru92takeru92
    imageDonegal37:

    So...told the guy I've been seeing a little while ago. He totally freaked out and is not happy about it AT ALL. Worse reaction than I had anticipated. Hoping that he will possibly come around over time but right now I feel like he hates me.

    At least my mom, stepdad and the few good friends I have told are being very supportive...but very upset about this nonetheless. They all are trying to convince me that everything will be okay...and I would like to believe them...it just stinks that he had such a negative reaction. Crying

    I might drown my sorrows in a cheese pizza. Haha.

     

    Cheer up! Things will get better I'm sure! 

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