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Do you ever feel resentful?

Mrs.KernMrs.Kern
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I don't know if I'm the only one.  But do you ever start feeling resentful towards your husband?  I love my husband to no end, we just past out 4 year anniversary.  This week is Ovualtion week.  I tell him and he says OK and is on board.  But we work different shift.  He works mornings and I work Swing shift.  So When I ask him about BD, he says we will soon.  But then when I tell him OK I guess no baby again this month, he sounds like he is put out and says fine wake me up.  When he does that I don't want too.  I know he is not cheating, but it sucks that he is put out during with week sometimes. 

 

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Re: Do you ever feel resentful?

  • MrsDiff22MrsDiff22 member

    during O week my dh says he feels so much pressure from me...It doesnt matter what I do he always feels it and I find that irritating

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  • aj1028aj1028

    I totally sympathize with you! DH works at night (10p - 6a) so we have bd time very sporatically - with usually me initiated. I have stopped telling him where I am in my cycle... I find it's less pressure on him!

    As for being resentful, I am mad at myself for being so resentful towards all pregnant people lately! Especially my friends. And then that makes me feel bad too! I just want to stop making myself feel bad!!!!

    I'm sorry though.... ((Hugs))

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  • HisKathyHisKathy
    it is so hard to BD when you work different shifts...I know since I work 2nd shift and DH works first.  Last month worked well because I O'd on Saturday (not well enough since I didn't get KU).  It's difficult to get the timing right and still be in the mood.  Sometimes you just have to find something that works to get you in the mood at the time you need to be and hope he does the same.  It's easy to be resentful when we work our butts off taking temps every morning, peeing on OPKs and all that other crap and all he has to do is "get the job done".  What we've started to do is just try to shake things up during sex week so we have something to look forward to.  New position/new location  something to make it less of a job and more fun.  Good luck!
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  • jamie.LOVES.markjamie.LOVES.mark
    That does seem like it would be tough with different shifts. I can understand. Maybe spice it up and do things differently..sneek in quickies when at all possible! Good luck..hope it gets better!
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  • aj1028aj1028
    Lots of blow jobs... usually that takes the pressure off and turns a no into a yes.
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  • eas15905eas15905

    imageaj1028:
    Lots of blow jobs... usually that takes the pressure off and turns a no into a yes.

     

    No joke!  If all else fails....

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  • Mrs.KernMrs.Kern
    Thank you all I love this board and I love knowing that I'm not alone.  My DH is one of the spoiled ones he gets a blow job every time we have sex.  So I guess I will have to pull out the lingerie
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