too early to let them "cry it out?"

gobigblue · December 2008

usually our 10 wk old DD does a great job about going to sleep on her own, but that wasn't the case 2 nights ago. we let her cry it out and she fell asleep after 10 mins. tonight it's going on 20 mins. is she too young for us to do this? a part of me says yes and another part says no.

Parks2Be · December 2008

Yes. Too young in my opinion.

OUMedBride · December 2008

...and here come the flames.

jamie4duke · December 2008

Yes...10 weeks is way too young. The stress from crying can cause major problems later on with security.

habsoilers · December 2008

Yes! Too young!

crazynervous · December 2008

I am a total advocate of cio and I think it is too young. some say 12 wks but i think that is too early also

love.love · December 2008

in my opinion that's really terrible. please for your poor little babe, go pick them up!

*AnastasiaBeaverhousen* · December 2008

waaaay too young. Babies cannot self-soothe until around 6 months and CIO advocates generally don't recommend starting until this time. Right now she needs to learn that you will be there if she cries. She is still adjusting to being out of the womb and needs to learn that people will respond to her. Please do not let her cry it out. Please.

bellpeppers · December 2008

may i suggest the book "babywise"?

love.love · December 2008

bellpeppers:
may i suggest the book "babywise"?

or may I suggest reading anything about CIO?! even a simple google search!

DMD3443 · December 2008

Yes, too young.

LittleMamaB · December 2008

I think anything before 6 months is too young for actually CIO. Even the most hardcore CIOers say not before 4 months. Yes, 2 months is too young to cry for twenty minutes and not be consoled.

BabyCakes3 · December 2008

My pedi said 6 months minimum. Right now, if she's crying then she needs something. They are just trying to get used to the world right now.

ridesbuttons · December 2008

We used the 10 minute rule at that age. After being put down to sleep for the night, we waited 10 minutes before going in. Most of the time DS would be fast asleep long before the 10 minutes was up. If he wasn't, he got a cuddle and a rock and was laid back down for up to 5 minutes. If he didn't go to sleep on his own in that time, we would pick him up and hold and rock him to sleep.

By 4 months he was sleeping 8pm - 5am solid, getting up to eat at 5am and going back to sleep until 8am.

Every kid is different and you will get all kinds of different opinions on this matter. I say trust your gut and do what works for you and your DD.

linzpinz14 · December 2008

Go get your DD! And hold her and tell her you love her! Jeez- it makes me sick to my stomach to think about my helpless little DD crying for me and getting no response. I don't know how you are doing it. She is wayyyyy too young.

SuperCuteBenz · December 2008

Way, way, way too young.

PMJacobsen · December 2008

yes. even ppl who are ok with CIO don't suggest it until 6 months.

hav2run · December 2008

No, no, no...don't do that. Your baby is way too young. All that will accomplish is making your child insecure and distrusting. Baby needs you to soothe away any needs. WAY too young to self soothe. And how your heart will hurt listening to those sobs. I would certainly wait on CIO. Go to your baby when you are needed for the time being. It is great for bonding.

ilovemygirls · December 2008

I am a mom who is very pro-CIO if it comes to that- however, your baby is MUCH too young to even consider that. Maybe she's going through a growth spurt, or just needs to be held- whatever, you need to attend to her needs at this young age. Sleep training is for later....much later...

laurenFaith · December 2008

This girl has enough posts to know that she shouldn't let her newborn CIO.?

I call MUD.....?

ridesbuttons · December 2008

laurenFaith:

This girl has enough posts to know that she shouldn't let her newborn CIO.

I call MUD.....

Read the original post. Her DD has been a good sleeper until 2 nights ago. She's simply asking for opinions.

hav2run · December 2008

I am not convinced it is MUD. I have seen enough of these posts with babies who are way too young to CIO on here to make me think it is a real question. I think too many people get "the book" as a shower gift and truly do not know what a disservice they are doing to their baby by following that method at a young age.

Where is Hippy tonight? She is the bumpie with the final word(s) on CIO.

skoorbnibor · December 2008

at that age they are not so much crying it out, as they are giving up. Think of it that way.... would you feel bad if she gave up hoping you would come in and soothe her?

She is too little... Some babies can self soothe earlier than 6 months, but no baby can do it at 10 weeks.