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Repost...help with daughter sleeping in our bed...

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I just posted this on another board but thought that this one may be the one to post on!!!!

I know, I know...its our fault!!  Ever since she turned 2, she creeps into our room at around 12 or so and climbs into bed.  Sometimes we wake up, other times she is like a ninja.  If i do wake up, I usually try the 'ole "honey, you need to sleep in your bed" but then give in because she and our youngest share a room....if I put her in there, she will scream and wake up the baby.  Now with another one on the way, we need to break this habit!!  We only live in a 2 bedroom for now (not moving until 2 months after we have the newest), and even when we do move she will most likely not get her own room.  Anyone been through this??  You always hear "well, they won't be teenagers and sleeping in your bed"...but who wants to wait that long?!?!?!?

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Re: Repost...help with daughter sleeping in our bed...

  • Angela814Angela814 member

    Did I respond already on the other board? Or was that another similar post?

    DD1 started sleeping with us as an infant because it was the only way to get her to sleep. Eventually we ended up putting her in her crib at bedtime, but she'd end up in bed with us by the middle of the night. Once she was in a twin bed, she would just get out and climb into our bed when she first woke up. We tried a bunch of things to discourage her - a reward chart, a new nightlight, a cool new bed tent, etc. Nothing worked. I read the No Cry Sleep Solution for toddlers when she was around 3 years old. Basically what I got out of it was that her wanting to sleep with us was completely normal. Our sleep wasn't being disturbed; her sleep wasn't being disturbed. So we just went with it. I think what had been bothering me most was what other people thought about it and not how I actually felt.

    DD1 was 4 years old when DD2 was born. Because we also bed shared with DD2, DD1 could no longer sleep in our bed. We have a couch in our room, so we fixed it up with a pillow and blankets and told her she was welcome to sleep there, but she couldn't sleep in our bed. That worked for about a year until she suddenly started STTN. I don't know if she was just ready at 5 or what happened, but that was pretty much the end of all bedtime and sleep battles with her.

    Now, DD2 still wakes up between 12-2 to come into our bed. I don't anticipate her being ready to sleep all night in her crib for a while yet. She will have to share a room with her older sister, so maybe just being in the room with someone else will help. IDK. I guess we'll figure things out when we get there. Otherwise DH can be in charge of taking her back to her room every time, since I will be waking up every couple hours with a newborn.

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  • bliss611bliss611 member
    if it's not disturbing your sleep or hers, I'd go with it. If it is bothering you (like when our LO was in our bed, he'd kick us and not let us sleep well), try putting a sleep mat or small mattress or something in your room where she can sleep. This worked for a friend of ours. The daughter felt better being in their room but wouldn't disrupt their sleep when she came in.
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