Mary ?

joyfullyfound · September 2012

Hi ladies!

My grandmother recently passed away, and even though we aren't TTC yet, DH and I have been discussing using her name as a MN in the future.

Here's the problem: Her name was Mary and our last name is 2 syllables, starting with an M. We love Mary but wouldn't use it as a FN.

I think ____ Mary Monet (not our real LN) sounds a little silly... do you? What are some possible ideas on making it work? MIL's name is Mary Anne, so anything that sounds like that is a no go

kayjay10 · September 2012

I love it in the mn spot. After the newborn stage, it's rare to say the whole name anyway. Plus there are so many first names that would sound great with Mary as the mn. Personally I wouldn't have a problem with it in the fn spot either.

Charlotte Mary

Caroline Mary

Carys Mary

Lauren Mary

Harper Mary

Juliet Mary

Lila Mary

Olivia Mary

Katherine (Kate) Mary

led2009 · September 2012

Joy2611:
I don't think it sounds silly. I'd actually use it as a first name without hesitation (Mary Monet? Sure!). I love Mary. People love to ignore it, though.

I agree. Love Mary and would use it as a first name even with a M last name. It's also not super popular.

Worcbride · September 2012

sorry if this has been said but I didnt read the PPs--at some point in her life I'm sure she'll get married and have a different last name. There arent many people who use their middle name on a regular basis anyways. I would use it. It has meaning for you and it's a great name

526SadieSadie · September 2012

I like Mary. In the middle name spot anything goes.

eyris · September 2012

Worcbride:
something to consider--and I didnt read the other posts so sorry if someone has already said this--she will probably get married some time in her life and change her last name. I grew up with a friend named Ste.phanie St.arr--I always liked how it sounded. The name means something to you and I bet it sounds nice with your last name :-)

Along these same lines, my name was Stephanie Ste....

I'm married now so my last name is different, but I had no problem with a little alliteration in my name. I'd say go for it.

kayjay10 · September 2012

Joy2611:

Worcbride:
sorry if this has been said but I didnt read the PPs--at some point in her life I'm sure she'll get married and have a different last name. There arent many people who use their middle name on a regular basis anyways. I would use it. It has meaning for you and it's a great name

This argument always makes me so sad. My parents specifically couldn't pick two names they loved because they rhymed with my father's last name. They actually spent time going through names that sounded great with our last name and put a lot of thought into it. Saying "Oh, she'll just change it anyway!" cheapens the whole thing for female children.

I also chose not to change my name, which is a decision I felt really strongly about. My sister chose to drop her middle name and move her maiden name to that spot. I also know men who have changed their names following marriage (to her name or a new name entirely).

Don't just assume what your child will and won't do in the future.

Agreed. Or she may never marry. It's still important to focus on a great name up until a woman may change her name if she marries. Aside from this, Mary is a great name, whether in the fn or mn spot and will sound great with an "M" last name.

joyfullyfound · September 2012

Cool, you guys! Thanks for the feedback... that makes me feel a lot better

kacelle · September 2012

I love, love, love Mary, but if you're concerned about how it sounds with your LN, maybe consider Marian, Marianne, or Marilyn? I think an extra syllable would help with the double Ms.

lindseybell3 · September 2012

Our girl name is Mary even though our last name is 2 syllable and starts with an M. I don't think it sounds silly, unless your name rhymes with Mary or something??

moonglow_84 · September 2012

I think it's perfectly fine. No one is ever going to call her by her middle name. FIL fn and ln both start with S and no one thinks it sounds weird.

magsugar13 · September 2012

i think it sounds very nice

JLGY · September 2012

I think it sounds fine as a middle name with a last name like yours. I wouldn't hesitate at all.

abbieaggie · September 2012

We are in the same boat, my grandmother passed earlier this year,right before we found out we were expecting and her name is Mary. I want to use it as a fn or mn and our last name is a McM name.

FWIW I dropped my middle name and use my maiden name as mn now. Thought of not changing it at all, but once I figured we would have kids, I wanted us all to have the same last name. We grew up with a stepfather so our mom and dad (he basically raised us - but they didn't have the money to change our last names) had different last name. I know its more common now for people to have different last names, but it was annoying and embarrassing to explain growing up.

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