No friends after having baby

amyksunday · September 2012

Hi all... not sure if anyone has this problem, but all the people I hung out with pre-pregnancy and during have all disappeared on me. My boyfriend is very entertaining and listens to what I did with the baby all day, but I am tired of not having someone to talk to during the day when it's just me and my son.

Wondering where I should start looking into making mommy friends? Mommy and me classes say babies should be 6 months and my LO is two months. HELP!! I am on the verge of pulling out my hair without adult conversation in my life.

Nikko Blue · September 2012

Your hospital may have some support groups that you can join (and bring baby). Mine has a BFing group, a PP support group, and an educational-type group (they talk about different baby-related topics each week).

LeanneOfHonour · September 2012

Having this problem a bit as well. We're young (23 and 24), and most of our friends aren't in a baby-making mindset yet, so I get the feeling they don't know what to do with a new mom and baby. Our only friends with kids live out of town. At my church, we have a moms group, and even a newborn mums group! It starts up oct 2nd, super excited for that. Other than out of churches, you can often find 'mom and tot' fitness groups, groups out of a hospital, get together with people from your prenatal class (if you took one), post-natal yoga/mommy and me yoga classes, etc. Hope you find something! If not, Hang out with us more, bumpies are great.

latnprincess · September 2012

Yeah I lost some friends after my first child. Its like people think that since you're a mom, you can't do anything anymore. I second finding a family friendly church. All our friends now are from church and they all have kids.

merricksmom · September 2012

This is why I Bump. A lot. The only good friend I have that has children lives a couple hours away and we both work. Tough to meet up. I miss hanging out with the girls. One of my best friends who lives out of state was coming back to our hometown last weekend and was supposed to come visit us. She ended up being "overscheduled" and wasn't able to come. Part of me was relieved. I was tired and not in the mood to entertain. The other part of me was hurt. Especially when I saw her tagged in a FB post going out to brunch with people she has seen every time she comes back home. Oh well. She's single and lives alone. I guess hanging ouit with a mom and kids doesn't sound like much fun. I love my family but I am starting to get pretty lonely for friends.

halvorsonl00 · September 2012

This happened to me after my first. I reconnected with a friend I hadn't talked to in over 5 years, and she had a daughter a little older than mine. My BFF I met when our girls were about 6 months old. We met at work. AND that is the extent of my friends. Its hard when you are at a different point in life than your friends, but I agree with pp, find a sort of group with parents who have kids around lo's age. I know in my area they have ECFE classes that go as young as newborns if the church thing isn't for you.

amyksunday · September 2012

To be perfectly honest.... I'm glad to hear I'm not alone!! Thank you ladies... this interaction is making me feel better. Bumpies really do make you feel normal and not alone!

SpruceGrouse · September 2012

Since we moved in January I have not made any friends yet, I am going to do baby group things when I am a bit more confident.

CGorgz · September 2012

We moved in March and it was hard meeting people while I was pregnant so now it's nearly impossible. I think sometimes the YMCA has groups that meet. But definite yes with the hospital, they usually sponsor tons of groups

charmedgrl517 · September 2012

Yes, it's just friends or relatives that don't have babies but some that do haven't even bothered with us. I have 1 or 2 close friends that I have seen a good bit plus my mom and grandma visit a good bit.

TravelSnob · September 2012

Mommy and me is making you wait 6 months? That's so stupid! I started going to the program here after a month. I only waited that long because dh was off work. it's the best way to meet people.

What about daytime family swim? Does the library have a program? Goodluck!

JulieBean767 · September 2012

Our hospital has a new moms support group. I went with DS1 and met my best friends today. We get together about three times a week with the kids. It just makes the fall busy with birthday parties since all the babies were born within weeks of each other.

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