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September 2012 Moms
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Thursday Pity Party
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Yesterday my catheter was removed; ended up with another emergency apptmt to put one back in. This is the fourth time maybe fifth? Hospital stay is fuzzy this has happened. Sucks!
I'm also really worried about DH. He was pretty upset last night, saying that he hasn't felt happy since the baby's first day, he wants our regular life back, doesn't want to have to play "nurse" to me, and he thinks BFing is terrible. This is all very out of character for him, so I suggested a trip to a psychologist to process things. I think he has the dad version of postpartum depression, and it's really worrisome. :
Yesterday my catheter was removed; ended up with another emergency apptmt to put one back in. This is the fourth time maybe fifth? Hospital stay is fuzzy this has happened. Sucks!
I'm also really worried about DH. He was pretty upset last night, saying that he hasn't felt happy since the baby's first day, he wants our regular life back, doesn't want to have to play "nurse" to me, and he thinks BFing is terrible. This is all very out of character for him, so I suggested a trip to a psychologist to process things. I think he has the dad version of postpartum depression, and it's really worrisome. :
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Re: Thursday Pity Party
My pity party is that for the past two nights, I have totally just gone to bed with J on my chest. He's only 14 days old so I don't think I'm doing any irreparable damage, but It still feels like A giant mommy fail!
My pity party is my insomnia lately. I've been waking up every morning at 4am and can't fall back asleep no matter what I try. My mind races about everything that's about to happen and how much life is about to change. I'm excited but I'd love to get some sleep before this baby comes!
I felt like that too until the pediatrician told me to sleep with him on my chest. He wasn't sleeping any other way and neither were we, so it made sense. I felt way better after the pediatrician mentioned it, though.
Anyway, this is my really long way of saying you're not alone and I know how you feel.
~The Bumpie formerly known as SpartyMom2B~
My pity party is that I'm considering giving up on breastfeeding and trying to just supplement the formula with whatever milk I can pump.
Because B's delivery was as traumatic as it was, I didn't even attempt to nurse until nearly 24 hours later. We had latching problems in the hospital, which continued at home.
He was starving hungry and my milk hadnt come in yet, so we started giving formula Monday. I haven't gotten him to really latch since then except once, and it was before my milk came in. It was also only for maybe 5 min.
I also have to wake him for most feedings, and he goes from zero to hungry in about 3 seconds. He figured out he doesn't have to work as hard for a bottle!
The thought of trying to battle with him to get him to even latch, much less nurse, is exhausting and anxiety provoking :[ I feel like I cry about this all the time and it makes the adjustment even worse.
It just upsets me because two of the things I was looking forward to about giving birth and having a newborn didn't happen. I had a crash c section under general anesthesia, so I didn't get to meet him right when he was born, and now I feel like I can't breastfeed.
My mom paid for an LC to come yesterday, and when she left I felt more defeated than ever. The stuff she suggested sounds great, but DH goes back to work Monday and I can barely handle things now with his help trying to breastfeed. Adding all of these extra steps hasn't worked and I can't do it in my own next week.
Just tell me I'm not crazy... I don't know if I can keep doing it. I want what's best for DS, but I don't think that means a really overwhelmed mom
You poor thing! It sounds like a horrendous recovery. I wonder how often a dad version of postpartum depression happens? I bet more than we think. I hope he takes you up on your suggestion. Take care of yourselves!
I don't have anything to complain about today except the starting of a cold.
My pity party is not even the fact that I'm 10days over due. Its that I'm scheduled to be induced today but have to wait for the hospital to call. They would have called yesterday if they had a bed this morning. No call. The worst part is feeling like its never going to happen. I'm not even anxious. Or showing signs of spontaneous labour. I'm giving up on meeting my babe. I'll just send DH to work and clean the house one more time.
Edit: Sorry about punctuation. On my phone
Mom to boy H - born September, 2012 and girl Z - born 2005. Wife to Gorgeous George. Slave to the man.
Aww! GL on your recovery and I do hope that YH seeks help!
My pity party is DH has had some sort of cold the past week so he won't hold the baby and with 2 older kids to take care of as well, I'm starting to get irritated. I know I shouldn't but I'm feeling like a single mom again except now I have a newborn added in the mix!
No pity for me--I just want to offer hugs to you guys!
I hope the struggling Hs and BFing difficulties get better!
((hugs))
DH gets annoyed because I dont nap enough during the day so I'm cranky at night. I'm annoyed that he never helps unless I ask him to do something. He also thinks I should exclusively pump. We had a long talk on Tuesday about our frustrations and it helped. Keep talking to him and reminding him that this is a very short phase. GL
hugs to you all
sweetie- try a different LC if you didn't have good luck yesterday. there is a saying on the BF board "don't give up on a bad day". If you think you really want to give breastfeeding a shot then ditch the bottles and get baby to breast. but overall remember that a happy mom= a happy baby. good luck
you all can guess what my pity party is: I'm still pregnant. and I know I really have nothing to complain about, I'm barely past my due date (according to my 1st u/s my due date was yesterday but the dr decided she didn't like that date for some reason). I've been having contractions 10-20 mins apart for the past 2 freaking weeks. I'm already at least 4cm dilated (as of last week). I have tried EVERY. SINGLE. OWT induction method, at least twice. nothing is working. I'm so frustrated with my body.
My ute feels like it's about to burst open, and the only thing that makes it feel better is sitting or sleeping, which is the opposite of what I should be doing to get this baby out.
Thursday Confession: I don't even care anymore. I'm not comfortable, so if sleeping makes me feel better, so be it. I'm tired of trying to get baby to come out.
Emilia Antoinette
10.03.12 at 41w5d
Hugs to you...I'm sorry your H is having a hard time with the change.
My Pity party is that DH seems to be very stand offish this time around. I think he has held Alivia maybe 8 times since we have been home from the hospital, and even then it's only because I have asked him to hold her so I can go pee or help DS with something. Oh and DS has had a cold and just wiped snot on my face...fantastic!
I am a firm believer that happy mom = happy baby. Do what works best for you.
Both my boys have had bad latches. This time, it helps to pump for a couple minutes before putting him on the boob. This gets my nipple more ready for him and the milk already coming out. This is really helpful when I am too full for him to get a good grip.
Aww. Well at least he communicates his issues. Some men are awful about that!
My pity party is that my due date and my birthday are tomorrow and I'm tired of being pregnant. I'm tired of being constipated, getting up every 30 minutes to pee (no exaggeration), my left arm always aching when I'm trying to go back to sleep for 20 minutes before getting up to pee again, huge hemorrhoids, swelling, blah, blah, blah! I am confident I will get more sleep when this baby is actually outside the womb. I have 2 kids already so I can say that. :-)
My pity party is that I have had draining sinuses for the past few weeks. I finally broke down Tuesday and went to the doc after four nights of feeling like I am breathing through a straw while I try to sleep. Yay me, have a sinuse infection. I have to wait to take my meds until betime because they knock me out and asking DH to watch LO so I can take a nap is like asking our cat to watch him.
I told DH last night that I need him to watch LO because I neeed a nap and shower. He said he would, then once I got out of the shower DH was playing his xbox and LO started to cry. DH announced that LO is hungry instead of getting up and fixing a bottle and feeding him, so needless to say I still didn't get a nap. DH has also taken a swig of Jack several times this week in the evening, just enough to make him feel tipsy, so if I ask him to change LO or anything that involves picking him up he can respond with he can't cuz he drank some Jack.
And, the icing on the cake, four weeks pp and I am still breaking down in tears every few days from being overwhelmed with everything. DH and I got into it Sunday over me eating cereal for breakfast and not making him anything (he doesn't even eat cereal, or most breakfast foods for that matter and he was playing his xbox). I told him to stop playing his game get him something then which caused him to get peeved at me and storm off. Guess who ended up in tears, yep me with a baby that was hungry and screaming in his crib.
I'm still pregnant, due today. It shocker since my other two were preterm. People are starting to bug me about electively inducing - seriously?!? All I've ever wanted is a healthy full term baby and here she is and that's still not enough. Yes, we are all impatient, but she's healthy and happy in there. Drop it!!!
Also, the flu has invaded my house. First my DS1, then me, now my DH. I sucked it up and kept moving. DH is acting like he's dying and I have no empathy for him. I'm sorry you have the squirts. Welcome to the last 10 months of my life. He's just sitting a round sighing and groaning. I can't deal with it and am about to snap. When he does talk, it's to say things like "don't go into labor today." Ok...I will get right on that request.
Gosh I'm sorry
I hope it all starts to get better and you heal soon so you guys can get back to normal life!
My problem is that I am so behind in schoolwork for college and it just doesnt look hopeful for me this semester. I am so afraid I will fail my statistics class. And it is so hard to find the time to do homework while the kids are awake, and when they go to bed I feel like falling on my face. This is so hard. I cannot afford to fail this class.
Dexter 08/31/2012~Summer 07/25/2011~Jack 10/21/2008~Aaron 08/12/2007
Dexter 08/31/2012~Summer 07/25/2011~Jack 10/21/2008~Aaron 08/12/2007
i had this with DS,he would not latch for anything. I tried everything, including a nipple shield. Nothing worked. AJ was jaundiced at birth as well, so we had to supplement with formula anyway. I pumped for the first week and a half, but when DH went back to work I had to stop. I didn't have time to do anything between pumping and feeding. My 4 yr old SD was having to do too much on her own, I didn't have time to play with her. I was way too stressed out, and DS was getting more fussy because he could sense it. All I did was cry when I was on my own. So, now we formula feed, and I am drying out.
I know how you feel though. It was a tough decision. I felt like a bad mommy for giving up, ie: failing, and I felt linea bad mommy for being stressed. Lose-lose situation. Once the decision was made my stress level dropped, and I came to terms with the fact that I AM doing what is best for my baby, me, DH, and SD. Happy mommy, happy baby.
I could have written this. I am due on Sunday and that's about a week too late for my comfort level. I want this baby OUT. He's beating me up from inside, the contractions never go anywhere, and I feel like my uterus has no effing clue what it is doing. And I'm so over eggplant and pineapple. :-P
Love 06/2005 | Marriage 05/28/2011 | Baby! Peanut born on his due date, 9/30/12
Like a few other posters, I'm just frustrated to still be pregnant. I'm a FTM, so I know I should not be surprised LO hasn't arrived yet, but I am.
I had contractions for a few hours last night, going gradually from 12 minutes apart to 7 minutes apart, and then they just stopped. I knew I shouldn't have gotten excited, but I did. I want to see his face so badly!
Same as some others- frustrated to still be pregnant! I've had contraction every night for the last 3 nights, going from 7-12 minutes apart to stopping for 3 hours and then starting again.
I am only 10 days overdue but my OB did schedule a possible induction for tomorrrow depending on if there is room (right now there isn't). I do have a fetal assessment tomorrow to double-check that everything is ok.
I don't feel comfortable going too much overdue because of family history with late losses after due dates. So I'm ok with this decision. I don't think it has sunk in to DH yet, so that will be fun when it does!
Hoping you get that spot tomorrow girl!