Curiosity got the best of me

lindseywit · September 2012

Ok so I knew when I hit the play button I shouldn't do it. I just watched some follow up videos to "The Business of Being Born." Let me tell you that I have researched and researched RSC and VBAC and ended up deciding on a RCS. My husband is terrified of me trying for a VBAC and we had decided that an RCS is what was best for our family. But now because of my stupid curiosity I am wondering if this is truly the right decision. Please tell me what has brought you all to your RCS decision. I think I just need to hear it again. TIA

I hate being indecisive.

mben1119 · September 2012

If I could VBAC when it is time for LO #2, I would do it in a heartbeat. My recovery from DS was terrible, which is why I have to RCS, and I wish I didn't have to.

HotChocolate79 · September 2012

Not there yet, and I honestly don't know if I am a candidate for VBAC due to some "build" issues that lead to my CS in the first place, but I will absolutely have a RSC if we have another. I had a great experience and felt pretty much back to normal after a week where many of my friends who had v births took months to recover. It's a personal decision, really - had my CS not gone as well as it did I might have felt differently, but I wouldn't change a thing about the experience itself and the recovery.

Worcbride · September 2012

I loved my first CS--it was unplanned but it went great as did the recovery. I didnt even consider VBAC. It was a great experience the first time and it was so the second time. I dont regret the decision at all

tawillers · September 2012

I actually chose VBAC and it failed.

Tons of research and discussions went into our decision. It's what we felt was best for our family at the time.

Now we aren't sure we'll have the 4 children we always planned to have because more pregnancies would most likely mean more c/s.

I had great recovery experiences with both my c/s - they were actually a breeze - and do not mourn the loss of a vaginal delivery, but it has really impacted our family plan.

marivalentine09 · September 2012

I am electing to do a RCS without hesitation. Mainly b/c I don't want to take the chances with the VBAC and then have it fail -- leading to an even worse recovery. I have talked to friends who have been in labor prior to a c-section and they say that the recovery is 10x worse than just a planned c-section with no labor beforehand.

mkinMI · September 2012

This will be my third c-section. I had a choice with my second baby to have a RCS or try a VBAC. I know c-sections carry their own risks, but I just couldn't get past the risk of uterine rupture with a VBAC. I know the risk is small, but I just couldn't do it. That and the fact that like PP said, if it failed I'd have to have a c-section anyway. And my first c-section went pretty smooth, so I new what to expect. I'm glad I chose a RCS (especially because my second was born at 39w and weighed 9lbs!).

cjbelk · September 2012

I had a sceduled cs with ds (he was breech) and it was a great experience for me. I plan on having a RCS with this LO (having a tubal at the same time - killing 2 birds with one stone - HA).

Baby Bouchard · September 2012

We went with a repeat C for many of the reasons listed above. Even though the chance was slight I was scared of a rupture, the C is more controlled, esp having a toddler at home, it allowed us to plan, plan and plan. Also we had some other issues, blood pressure (although OB would stand behind a VBAC, he suggested a scheduled at 38w to avoid complications), clotting issues, etc to worry about so all in all my mind was at ease with the repeat vs. the unknown with a VBAC.

lovebug33 · September 2012

I know I am nowhere near even thinking of having another baby, but if I do, I will do a RCS. With what happened the last time, I want to be prepared. I have a feeling if we try a VBAC, I will end up with a c/s anyway and I would rather just have that to begin with than doing an induction again.

capulet · September 2012

If I had attempted a VBAC, it would have been out of a sense of obligation, and I didn't think a sense of obligation would get me through labor. I had an awful labor with DD and didn't want to go through that again with DS. I ended up going into labor before my scheduled RCS and it wasn't as bad as my induced labor the first time around, but I still had a great c/s experience with #2 and no regrets. The risks are minimal either way; for me, the final decision came down to what DH and I were comfortable with (he didn't want me to try for a VBAC either).

ladyheather76 · October 2012

My first delivery was scheduled to be natural...but baby turned and got stuck and I had an emergency C-Section. 2nd time around, I tried for a VBAC, but it was unsuccessful and ended in a RCS. It was frustrating to say the least, to be there in the hospital for 18+ hours and have NO progress beyond 2.5 cm. I was terrified of the 2nd surgery because of my experience with the 1st. But when it was all over, I was REALLY glad it was completely different. I was awake the whole time, in recovery in an hour and holding baby 30 min later. And this time around (unless God has other plans...) my RCS is scheduled and I am not even trying for a VBAC. I would rather know the risks and procedures and go in to it knowing if something goes wrong, they are already there to fix it than to risk a rupture, hemmorrage or other complication and have to be rushed off from family and baby with no notice.

If you have already had 1 RCS, it is a tough choice to go VBAC or RCS this time around. Just know VBAC may not work for you and if it does your risks are greater than a 1st time natural birth. I'm not trying to scare you, just inform you. Go with your gut and don't second guess your decision. Make a plan and stick to it. Your anxiety over the situation will be a lot lower that way and will help ensure that everything goes well and smooth. And who knows, God may have another plan for you and you may go in to labor all on your own before your RCS date arrives. If that happens...go with the flow and be grateful for the experience. If not, stick to your plan and be glad you had one!

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