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April 2013 Moms
farmerpinky
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I don't want your sympathy! I chose to get ku! (RANT)
farmerpinky
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I know I've ranted about this before, but tonight my social life jumped the shark.
I was at DD's gymnastics practice and another team mom that I've known for years came running up to me. To offer condolences! WTF!
She went on and on about how horrible it must be and how if she found herself pregnant again she'd "just lose her mind." She told about how if she was in such a "disastrous situation" she "wouldn't go through with it."
It took all of my self control not to rip her black heart right outta her chest.
I calmly told her repeatedly that we planned this pregnancy and we are thrilled. It just didn't get through her head.
Ugh!
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Re: I don't want your sympathy! I chose to get ku! (RANT)
// I love you too. //
This is my 4th. My current youngest will be 9.5yrs when this one is born. I'm getting static from many about the total # of kids and the age gap.
This one was beyond the pale though. I'm chippy because I catch alot of grief for having a large family, but this was surreal.
How stupid can some people be?! Being at DD's gymnastics might have been the only thing stopping me from telling her what a ***** she is!
Congrats to you!
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Ginny DX 21-Hydroxylase Deficiency Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia
Charlie DX Specific Antibody Deficiency & ASD
BFP #2, 12/12/11, m/c 12/25/11
BFP #3, 3/09/12, CP 3/10/12
BFP #4, 7/22/12, DD#2 born 4/2013
Yes I am. I cannot escape the rudeness. I have gotten it from strangers at stores, friends from church and gymnastics and even family.
I grew up in NY. When I moved south I kept hearing how much nicer southerners are. Apparently KY isn't south enough.
I knew I'd get some grief about #4 based on experience with #3, but I never dreamed I would be spoken to this way! I hate that people can't be happy for us. If you don't have something nice to say...stfu. It really is that easy.
Yes. I am the very same person. It explains why I'm so chippy. I'm also the one who was told (By Family) intelligent people don't breed like feral cats.
Yes, I did contact the store manager and explained the situation. He apologized and said he would talk to his whole staff about the insensitive remarks. He said if he were in my situation he'd want heads to roll. I wouldn't give the lady up for fear she'd get fired. I told the store manager I'd rather the store have a better environment for shoppers because I am sure insensitive comments come out of more than just this one clerk's mouth.
Maybe I'm overcompensating. I used to tell people off at the drop of a hat. I was mean. Now I try to let things slide. I hate drama. I guess I went from bridge burner to doormat.
Congrats on your bebe from me, though!
Just that I was almost "home free." She has a bad ex and isn't a happy person. She cant wait until her kids are out of the house. She just cant fathom why anyone would want more kids.
Wow - I don't mean to sound rude here, but you've got a heck of a lot of negative people/ju-ju going on all around you. God bless you for being so calm and strong through all of this . . . because I swear, my ever-growing hormonal self would probably not have reacted as graciously as you have through all of this.
Vent here any time you need to - you've got LOADS of support on the board!!!! And any time you want help plotting these rude idiots' mental demise, we're here for ya!
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I'm noticing a trend that people get flack for having 4+ kids. I never really thought of 4 as a "big family". It's above average but certainly not unreasonable. I don't think I'd call a family big until they hit at least 6 kids, maybe more.
I've known a fair number of families with 4 or more kids but not many with over 6. IDK. Just random musings.