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Do you ever get the feeling..

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that others just come on this board to read about our diffiulties? lol I admit I have gone on other boards to see what they're about but I stick to my few boards that I comment on...for some reason this one seems to get hundreds of views per topic but maybe 1, 2, or 3 people reply? Not that everyone is obligated to but there's definitely a stigma attatched to us single mommies. Maybe I'm just so used to being judged, I expect it? Idk..
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  • chefnicole22chefnicole22 member
    I've wondered about that too, just because of all the views with very few replies, but even if that is the case I doubt anyone would be judging. They may just be considering becoming single parents, are single but don't feel they have anything to say, or are just really busy. I know I read the ones about custody and courts and stuff just because it's interesting to see the process if I ever need it, but I have nothing to contribute so I don't post on those.
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  • PrincessFiona9PrincessFiona9 member
    There's always been a lot of lurkers on here. I think it's a combination of things...people not having time to answer, or any valuable input, or people who are contemplating becoming a SP, or those who just like to read our drama just so they can feel better about their own lives. I myself rarely come to this board anymore because I'm in the FB group so we can talk without lurkers and answers are usually more immediate.
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  • socloudy99socloudy99 member

    Lurker here

    I lurk because my step kids mom is a single mom. It helps me to see what she may feel about situations from her point of view. It isn't to judge or not be helpful. This board has been very helpful for me to understand some of the challenges she faces being a single parent but I have nothing to contribute.

    She is a wonderful mom but her and my H were not a wonderful couple. Anyone that would come to judge or feel better about themselves has problems.

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  • dmndsr4evadmndsr4eva member
    Also when I first came onto this board I would respond a lot but then the same question gets asked over and over and honestly I got tired of giving the same response.  I was thinking of saving some of my responses so I can copy and paste.  LOL.
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  • Mrs.McLovinMrs.McLovin member
    I'm in the process of a divorce, so I will be an offical single mom hopefully sooner rather than later. I don't have much to add now.
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  • jnjmommy0609jnjmommy0609

    Unlurking for a sec. I don't judge..I just have been there. I am married now but I was a single mom for a few. And while I didn't have it as hard as some single moms do I certainly don't think I am better then any of you just because I am married. You don't have to be married to be a great mom.

     

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  • sweetie0228sweetie0228 member

    I lurk and only post when I think I can truely be helpful.  I was a single mom w/ a DB ex h from 2002-2010.  I got married in 2010.  I'm mainly expert in CS rights and domestic violence situations.  Since that's what I lived through.  I get tired of posting the same things a lot and dislike responding to beebees that will just DD anyway when I honestly tell them the best idea is for them to give up their child for adoption.

    Also this board is the trainwreck board and it's lurked pretty heavily for C&P onto other boards to discuss.

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  • kayladaykayladay member
    I have lurked on here and posted, and if people get their "jollies" by reading other peoples struggles and difficulties karma will be after them. I honestly don't care what lurkers think about my struggles, I don't know them, and I don't think I ever will. So whatever floats their boat. lol
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  • Snow__White__QueenSnow__White__Queen member
    I don't feel judged on this board, but since I am very young (20) I feel extremely judged when I go to the mall or see someone I know from high school. Granted, I graduated high school and went to college for a while and plan on going back in a few months, but I feel stereotypical. I was always the honor student and "good one" so I'm almost ashamed when I go out in public with LO. Don't get me wrong though, I wouldn't trade her for the world! I've never loved someone the way I love her. 
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