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Big Moves--NBR
MandiNewMommy
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First off HELLO!!!!!!!! I feel like I haven't had time to breath let alone play on here and I miss it!
Now for my post. I have desided (okay not 100% sure yet) to sell my old wedding set from my late husband. We are low on funds (and work needs done on my car) and selling it would mean not taking money out of savings. I have a heart neckless and a neckles we had made with his finger print also have a few other rings he got me. I am kind of having a hard time with this...once it is gone it is gone. FI said it is 100% up to me and he is not telling me eaither way. I thought about giving the ring to his neice once she is older, but I am not even sure she would want it. I am just kind of at a loss. WWYD?
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You need to figure out what the jewelry means to you and whether it's worth holding on to, because like you said once it's gone, it's gone.
I'm a sentimental fool and would probably hold on to it forever. But that's me and doesn't really help you. You are the only one who can make the decision. Good luck!
Hello!
I would probably sell the less meaningful pieces - random rings and necklaces/charms - , but hold on to the wedding set and the finger print necklace. But that is just me, and this is one of those really personal decisions, ya know? And as others said, if you are not 100% on selling something, don't! You can't get it back once it is gone.
Honey, the thing I've learned through the years is to change my perspective on THINGS. These pieces of jewelry are not him, they will not bring him back, and they don't actually mean anything in regard to him. Sure, he gave them to you, but they're no different than the birthday cakes he gave you (that I'm sure you ate), the other gifts that he gave you, that you've worn out or otherwise gotten rid of.
As soon as you can dissociate him from THINGS, the easier the decision will be. If it frees up some cash for you and your new life... well, I'm sure he's not going to hold a grudge where ever he is. He's going to want you to be happy and cared for, not struggle to make ends meet and holding on to jewelry.
I think this is what I would do as well.
But like everyone else said, it's just such a personal decision - you need to figure out what you are com fortable doing, because once those things are gone, they're gone.
::hugs:: and good luck