We got outed on FB

amcongdon · September 2012

To say I'm sad is really an understatement. All the joy of telling friends and extended family we were having a baby is completely gone. As soon as we found out we told our parents and my SIL. That's it. No one else knew. I posted something earlier in the day about being home sick (which I was with a nasty cold) and my DH's aunt responds with info on m/s and a congratulations. Then the flood started. Now my extended family is angry at me because they found out on FB rather than personally. Its a repeat of our engagement all over again. So much for my fun plans for announcing at Halloween.

aanchor · September 2012

Booo... that really sucks, I 'm sorry Sad

bhawk0527 · September 2012

I would be soooo pissed! I'm sorry!

jennyilyse · September 2012

I am so sorry. That's awful

jelero · September 2012

Wow, that's terrible! I'm so sorry that all the fun has been taken out of it for you. I know I'd be really upset in that situation!

DChunt09 · September 2012

I am so sorry. I know exactly how that feels and it's terrible.
I always thought it was rediculous when people would say if you aren't ready for everyone to know, then don't tell anyone. But I learned my lesson when I was pregnant with my Ds.
I told my mom and asked her to swear not to tell anyone. She called my in laws who we were going to call that night and she never ever talks to to tell them.

Anger doesn't cover it.
Again, so sorry!

Edit: sorry about format on iPhone.

corkietn · September 2012

I'm waiting for this to happen to me at any given moment. Pleeeeeease, people, have some cooth.

angnowamrs · September 2012

Oh, that sucks! I'm so sorry!

ZeeSunflowery1 · September 2012

That is so infuriating. I'm sorry you aunt in law couldn't keep her trap shut. :

mrsannie · September 2012

I would be livid and I'm so sorry that happened. This is exactly why with my last pg (and this time) I blocked everyone from being able to post on my wall until I was ready to announce it on FB. I know it can't help you now, but for everyone else!

jerseygirl81 · September 2012

Oh, that would piss me off! I can't believe the nerve of some people.

WhitWhit1011 · September 2012

I am sorry to hear that happened to you. It is the exact reason why I have not even told my mother, though. That woman cannot keep it from others, and I know it would not take long to spread.

drhibbard · September 2012

Ew. That sucks so bad. Sorry.

amoramoure · September 2012

That sucks. I'm sorry.

I hope you messaged her and told her how inappropriate that was. Also, I would let your in-laws know that telling anyone before you're ready is not cool.

Ugh. Jerks.

I Love my Dave · September 2012

That sucks! That is why I haven't told anyone except for my DH. People have big mouths.

andyyougoonie · September 2012

I'm so sorry! That's horribly unfair. Can you lock your FB wall for a couple of days so no one can post on it until it blows over and still do your Halloween announcement for the people that missed it?

I would be FURIOUS. The first thing my mom asked was "Can I share it on FB?" I said NO! I didn't even get to tell my sister when I was pg with my daughter. My mom called everyone. And anytime I would send her an u/s pic, she would immediately send it out to her entire address book. lol. Annoying, excited grandparents!

metzy144 · September 2012

That would piss me of sooo bad. I'm definitely going to disable my wall now there is a rumor floating around that I am pregnant. Ugh

sugarmamma · September 2012

To say I'd be annoyed is an understatement.

I just don't understand why people can't let the parents announce their own personal joy.

It sounds like the "outers" were being really selfish. It isn't their spotlight.

I'm sorry this happened.

NatNatD · September 2012

I'm worried this might happen with us also. We've already told family, but we're planning on telling personal friends at a Halloween party on Oct. 20 and then "announcing" it on FB on Halloween (I'm making a shirt - skeleton w/ the baby skeleton - I found it on Pinterest!). I just have a feeling that pictures will be up before then, so I'll just have to ask people not to tag me.

bananers · September 2012

NatNatD:
I'm worried this might happen with us also. We've already told family, but we're planning on telling personal friends at a Halloween party on Oct. 20 and then "announcing" it on FB on Halloween (I'm making a shirt - skeleton w/ the baby skeleton - I found it on Pinterest!). I just have a feeling that pictures will be up before then, so I'll just have to ask people not to tag me.

You can change your settings to require your approval before you can be tagged in anything.

Ridgebackmom · September 2012

I was reading this thinking, No No No....

Some people really suck!

Gem11 · September 2012

Yet another reason I hate Facebook. I just recently re-activated my account and if that happens with my family when I tell them I will be pissed.

Raquellyo · September 2012

There is a way to set your page up to disable posts on your wall! I can't check how right now because I'm at work and FB is blocked, but check it out (for future reference, or anyone who can still save themselves!).

We will be in the same position where some people will know (at the end of Oct) and there will be a gap of a week or so before we can get to everyone else. FB will be in lockdown mode for sure.

mndyhywrd · September 2012

Oh no! I'm so sorry this happened to you. How infuriating.

Thanks, PPs, for suggesting changing permissions on FB walls. I'm off to do that now!

FWIW - I almost outed myself on FB. Shortly after we found out, I was playing around on Pinterest and pinned a couple of baby items...totally forgot my Pinterest was linked to my FB. About 2 minutes later, a friend texts "You're pregnant?!" At first I was so confused, so I just texted back "Huh?" Then he explained what he saw on FB and said "Either you're expecting, or someone close to you is." Luckily, my BFF is expecting, so I was able to play it off. But, my Pinterest was promptly disconnected from my FB...

ETA: typo

AlishaPreggo2012 · September 2012

Aaawwww

I'm so sorry! This is just another reason why FB is evil.

AshasaurusRex · September 2012

I'm so sorry:! I think we're going to announce early because I'm sure that this exact thing will inevitably happen of we wait.

snowgirl427 · September 2012

That really stinks. I'm sorry they took this from you. We still haven't told anyone (including parents). We plan to after our first U/S. I'm hoping they keep their mouths shut as we aren't telling anyone else for a while!

April! · September 2012

That suuuuucks! I would be so ticked off if I were you! Who does that???

MrsRKJ · September 2012

Oh my God that sucks That's my worst nightmare. Every time I've told someone I'm like, PLEASE don't put anything on FB. We're hoping to announce it around Halloween too, so I'm hoping we don't get outed. If anyone writes anything I'm my wall it immediately goes to my phone, so hopefully I'd be able to nip it in the bud before anyone sees it.

So sorry