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You have to be kidding me...vent PG/abortion mention

a&aw12707a&aw12707 member
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A friend of mine was telling me about how upset she was that her brother had gotten a girl pregnant and that they were "taking care" of it. WTF. This friend has had difficulty TTC, so it is hard for her. However, when I say I'd rather not talk about it because it hits a little too close, do NOT tell me, "Well imagine how I feel."

I had to TFMR two months ago. I can't imagine making that choice voluntarily. Not that I hold it against anyone, I really don't. But that is seriously not something I want to hear about.

Ok, sorry that got long. Thanks for reading though.
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Re: You have to be kidding me...vent PG/abortion mention

  • ILoveRedVinoILoveRedVino member

    An acquaintance was trying to be nice and sympathize with me and told me that she lost her baby at the same time I did.  The difference is that there was no medical reason - she was 18 and couldn't take care of a baby.

    I completely understand your frustration/irritation.

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  • Bayberry12Bayberry12 member

    Ugh...that sucks.  I'd like to have a sign over my head that says "don't talk to me about anything pregnancy related".  (unless it's another loss mom, then talk to me about all kinds of pregnancy stuff).  

    Some people just don't get it, I'm sorry you had to deal with her.  She really should have kept that info to herself. 

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  • a&aw12707a&aw12707 member
    Sorry, I added a warning in the title.
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  • weddedwifeweddedwife member

    That was really not a good topic to discuss with you! I'm way more sensitive about abortion than I was before my loss. The thought that people get rid of perfectly healthy babies because they don't want them while I wanted mine and he died is really upsetting.

    And her comment was totally inappropriate.

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  • Roxycc55Roxycc55 member
    imageILoveRedVino:

    An acquaintance was trying to be nice and sympathize with me and told me that she lost her baby at the same time I did.  The difference is that there was no medical reason - she was 18 and couldn't take care of a baby.

    I completely understand your frustration/irritation.

    I had two friends that did this to me. "I know how you feel." "You just need to grieve and get over it."

    I am not going to start an abortion debate, it's everyone's choice for their own reasons. But REALLY. Not only do I never want to hear about abortion, you're trying to COMPARE situations? No. You chose yours. Mine was taken.


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  • a&aw12707a&aw12707 member
    Roxy, you totally nailed how I felt about it. I was already feeling down, being at my 2 month Angelversary, and then to hear that. I wanted to throat punch her.
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