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December 2011 Moms
iluvmylab
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if you want 1+ children & aren't trying yet
iluvmylab
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Care to share your reasons? It seems like a lot of people have baby fever and I for one, DO NOT! I love my little man to death, but I cannot imagine having 2 right now. I seem to barely get through my week as it is with work, baby, and housework. Plus, I finally am back in awesome shape and am enjoying feeling great and being able to run. Also, DC in my area is not cheap. We do want another, but won't try until this one is at least 2.
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Re: if you want 1+ children & aren't trying yet
Also, I want to wait and TTC next year so that when 2 comes, I can hire a full time nanny/housekeeper so I can still take DD to classes and such. Financially I know we would be able to do all these things by then.
Before we even got pregnant with DD, we agreed that we wanted about 3 years between children (TTC starting when DD is around 2yo). For one thing, it just seems like an ideal age gap to us. For another, we don't make a lot of money and I don't really see that changing any time soon. So, financially it makes sense to wait.
Also, I know this probably sounds stupid, but now that we have DD, I can't even imagine having another child right now. I just love her so much that I feel like there isn't enough room in my heart for another child. I'm sure that will change eventually, but for now, that's how I feel...
Lastly, DD was 4 weeks early. Not that it's all that early, she didn't have to go to the NICU or anything like that. But the first few weeks were very difficult because she was so small. She had a hard time nursing and we were seeing a lactation consultant at least 3 times a week. I'm just afraid of the next one being even earlier and actually having problems that require treatment. I'm afraid that she was born early because I'm overweight. I want to lose a good 20 lbs before we start TTC again.
LCT - 5.15.14 ~ 9lbs, 22.5 inches
BFP #2 - MC Aug 2012 - D&C w/ complications
I can't imagine having two so close together. We are finally just getting LO's sleep figured out and I cannot imagine going through sleepless nights again so soon. On top of that, I do not miss the morning sickness or being just plain tired.
We want them to be about 3 years apart so we will start trying a bit after LO turns 2.
We will most likely start trying next spring or summer. I don't want 2u2, so I'd like E to be a little more independent before bringing a newborn into the mix. I also have a few selfish reasons, like starting classes for my MBA and professionally speaking, taking another 12 weeks off for maternity leave in the next year would not be in my best interest. Also, depending on how my half goes, I think I will ant to do another one next year before baby #2.
I fail - I didn't really talk about our reasons for waiting!
- Daycare is freaking expensive and adding a second will have the monthly payments rivaling our mortgage (I actually think the daycare bill would win). If I could at least have DD in the older Toddler room and almost in the preschool room, it would help.
- I want DD to be a bit more independent.
- I want to really feel like I was able to enjoy DD and the first couple of years - I'll never get this time back with her and I'm not ready to split my focus.
LCT - 5.15.14 ~ 9lbs, 22.5 inches
Fastest year of my life.
Every once in a while, I get a little twinge of baby fever, I guess, but the discussion isn't even on the table right now. There are a few reasons we are waiting to figure out if we will even have a second at all. I feel like I have barely figured out this parenting thing, and have no idea how I would manage a new baby in the midst of figuring all this out; financially, we couldn't really swing it right now; and while I would happily have a second (barring the other issues), my husband isn't really sold on the idea. He hasn't said flat out no, but he isn't ready to talk about it. Because of these reasons, I suggested we take the discussion off the table until next summer. That way the baby will be a bit older and things will have maybe settled down a bit. And hopefully we'll be in a better spot financially.
I have baby fever right now a bit, especially looking at all of Sloane's old photos.
But I know we can't do that right now. I go back to work at the end of the year and I'd like to work a bit first so I can get another year off paid. And if I finish my probation this time they will top up my maternity pay which is pretty sweet.
Also, my husband now works out of town 10 days on 4 days off and he will be doing this until Oct 2013. My BC runs out next summer so I'll just not renew it though my husband doesn't want to start trying until he's done being out of town as he doesn't want to miss anything. He feels bad missing so much, but I figure since he's out of town the chance of me getting pregnant on the rare occasion that he is here is little.
My #1 reason - MONEY! Or should I say, the lack of money. We'd love another LO but we really need to be in a better place financially first. First rule of parenting (I've quickley learned) is learning to prioritize things.
Yes! It might seem selfish to some, but I am really enjoying where I'm at right now too. I'm in the best shape of my life and want to enjoy the glory longer, lol!
Yeah, I'm enjoying my whiskey and my workouts again! Besides, if I pop them out one after another it's going to take me forever to get into the shape that *I* want to be in. I busted my butt to lose a lot of weight and unfortunately gained it all back and more while pregnant. Now I have to bust my butt twice as hard to get to where I was. I want awhile at maintenance too, just to enjoy my weight loss and to further improve my strength.