Family members pushing formula?

brooke&ryan&baby · September 2012

We are planning on EBF our LO who is due in Nov but my MIL keeps insisting hat we bottle feed. She has boughten us literally 50+ bottles and formula. How an I clearly get the message across?

Sept1799 · September 2012

Easy....yes her to death, take the stuff she brought and do what you want to do anyway!!

JuneBug86 · September 2012

She can buy all the formula she wants, but that doesn't mean you have to use it. Make it clear that you've chosen to BF, and that she can support you in that if she wants, but at the end of the day, it her your call not hers.

jlsimon56 · September 2012

It's not her business so just thank her and move on. There's no reason to discuss with her how you're going to feed your baby. Just watch her....my MIL fed my LO diet soda when she was 7 months old.

pepomntpat · September 2012

Tell her that the food pantry really appreciated her donation.

blush64 · September 2012

I would tell her again and again of your plans. If it gets to a point where you are quite annoyed just stop saying anything to her and go about your plans as you wish. She'll get the idea when you are breastfeeding instead of using her bottles. If you can donate them or the formula that would be nice.

BelleWithABlade · September 2012

pepomntpat:
Tell her that the food pantry really appreciated her donation.

Lol this is awesome, I agree that would be a great response.

kgauntt · September 2012

jlsimon56:
It's not her business so just thank her and move on. There's no reason to discuss with her how you're going to feed your baby. Just watch her....my MIL fed my LO diet soda when she was 7 months old.

Ugh! That is horrible, what is wrong with people??

kgauntt · September 2012

Honestly, you're just going to have to stand your ground and flat out tell her you are breastfeeding. Don't worry about hurting her feelings, it's none of her business. If it were me, I'd tell her it's not up for discussion and the fact that you have to defend your decision to BF is pathetic. I also would watch what you say around her when you do start BFing if you are having any problems because she'll be right there dangling a bottle of formula in front of your face.

BeesMomma00 · September 2012

brooke&ryan&baby:
We are planning on EBF our LO who is due in Nov but my MIL keeps insisting hat we bottle feed. She has boughten us literally 50+ bottles and formula. How an I clearly get the message across?

If it's your MIL... Tell your husband to talk to her. It will do 2 things, it will restate your position on breastfeeding AND show her that HER SON is behind you 100%. This is his battle. Not yours.

drubie · September 2012

pepomntpat:
Tell her that the food pantry really appreciated her donation.

This!

plutoisaplanet · September 2012

I would just ignore her for the time being. However, after your LO is here, I would be sure to keep a close eye on her. It seems like a huge red flag that she's already ignoring your wishes.

acbfreire · September 2012

pepomntpat:
Tell her that the food pantry really appreciated her donation.

this LOL

PhillyGal34 · September 2012

BelleWithABlade:
pepomntpat:
Tell her that the food pantry really appreciated her donation.

Lol this is awesome, I agree that would be a great response.

that's great! i was going to say return it and buy a breast pump (if you plan on pumping) or some nursing tanks and send a thank you for the BF supplies!

brighteyes2123 · September 2012

No idea why, but while washing a pan, I thought of something horrible and I hope doesn't happen. Reading another person's post about red flags... I got to thinking, your MIL better not give formual if she ever watches your LO. Especially if you gave BM! Good luck with everything!!