Baby shower etiquette ?

scarlette+noir · September 2012

I just received an invite for my step-sister-in-law's baby shower today. The shower is next Sunday, the 7th.

Here is my question: I still have an inside baby, but the latest I am going before an induction is going to be Oct 5th. So, in the preferable scenario of my giving birth this week, am I expected to attend this shower when I'm taking care of a baby that is at most about a week or two old?

DH thinks his family will feel slighted if I skip, but I'm thinking it would be best for me and Niko. Thoughts?

MrsI · September 2012

I say see how you feel day of and people will understand either way. Just RSVP that you will need to play it by ear. I went to a first birthday for a friend 5 days pp and was fine. Plus it was nice to get out and see people. But they would have understood if I didn't show up too...

butterfly62682 · September 2012

I wouldn't think you should be expected to go. Not with a baby that small. DH's family should understand that. Also.with cold and flu season almost on us, I wouldn't want a bunch of different people passing my newborn around.

mrs mosby · September 2012

I would not go. I wouldn't want LO exposed to all those germs and who knows how you will be feeling. They should understand.

cvl105 · September 2012

I would not expect you to go, nor would I go myself. Guys don't get it....the women will understand.

JuneBugsMommy · September 2012

I'm pretty positive that I wouldn't be going. Even if you feel up to it you'll either have to leave your brand new baby at home or take him with you.. I know I wouldn't want to be away from him and I definitely wouldn't want him to be around all those people yet. Whatever decision you make I'm sure your husband will be supportive, at least he better!

tulipblossom · September 2012

I don't think anyone would honestly be expecting you to go. I had a baby shower to go to about 2 months after O was born and everyone was very excited I even decided to come. It was my cousins wife's shower hosted by my aunt and cousins so they only invited me so I didn't feel left out. They would have completely understood of I didn't attend and I am sure people will understand if you don't attend this shower.

chuicafina · September 2012

Spooko:
Giving birth is probably the most legitimate excuse I can think of. I wouldn't be even a little surprised about you deciding not to go. Try not to worry about it. If they get upset about this, they're nuts anyways so you aren't missing out.

Yes, this. I would definitely not plan on going. You can't know beforehand how you'll feel after this delivery, and how you'll do adjusting to 2.

Magenta728 · September 2012

A) Girl, where have you been???? How are you?

I would not go, and would never expect someone to go. It's totally understandable. I was invited to a baby shower that was scheduled the week of my due date. I declined and the host completely understood. I ended up delivering the day before the shower.

amberpro · September 2012

I wouldn't go and anyone that expects you to go isn't thinking straight.

scarlette+noir · September 2012

Magenta728:
A) Girl, where have you been???? How are you?
I would not go, and would never expect someone to go. It's totally understandable. I was invited to a baby shower that was scheduled the week of my due date. I declined and the host completely understood. I ended up delivering the day before the shower.

I got laid off from my job back in April and became a SAHM 6 months earlier than I expected. Adjusting to this has been... difficult. I used to do all of my bumping at work, so now I just don't have much time for it

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