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Adoption Advice for Military Family?

akmercereauakmercereau
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HI!

 We're newly married and not quite ready to have a kid, but we decided a few years ago that adoption is the way to go for us. He is Army and I'm in vet school and we're both pretty young... Although we aren't ready right now, I've heard that the adoption process is rough and depending on what you're waiting for, there can be a waiting list a mile and a half long.

 We decided this weekend that we'd better start our research now as to who we would go with, what's required and, of course, the cost. 

 We don't have any preferences on ethnicity, really... As silly as it sounds, I kind of think it would be better to have a kid who is more likely to grow up to our size (we're both around 6'), thought I know you can't really predict that. I would just feel bad if we had someone who never grew over 5ft! I know it's silly, but I'm just a silly kinda girl.

 If anyone has any advise on what agencies are best, local or otherwise, please let me know! And, any experience advice would be good!

 Thanks, guys!

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Re: Adoption Advice for Military Family?

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    Start with the FAQs at the top of the board.

    It's really hard to gauge how long your wait can be. The less specific you are, the shorter your wait, typically. It can also depend on what agency/method you use, and a host of other factors. For everyone who waits years, there are people who wait weeks or months. Our entire process start to finish was 10 months, and our wait once we were "active" was 3 months.

    I think it's going to be really hard to find a child who's going to be tall. That's an almost impossible thing to gauge, and if you have a short kid, I think you'll manage.

    Agencies aren't the only way to go. You can potentially use a facilitator (if they're legal in your state), an adoption attorney, or do it all yourself. Or you can go the foster care route.

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