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shower for 2nd baby?
I was just wondering can you have a baby shower with second baby? My mother keeps telling me that only with your first but I kinda feel like the second baby will be left out and especially when I fill out the baby book he/she won't have anythign :[
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Re: shower for 2nd baby?
This is my thought.
Have you not lurked on this board? Cause if you had, you would know the answer...
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I had 3 showers with my first baby so there are lots of pictures in her baby book (covers 3-4 pages). I had "meet the baby" parties for my 2nd and 3rd babies and their are lots of pictures in their baby books (covers 3-4 pages). It is still a celebration. When they are older and look their baby books (when they are having kids of their own most likely) they will see that there was a party when they were tiny and it will basically be all the same to them.
BTW...your mom is right. A shower is to celebrate a first time mom, not to celebrate the actual baby.
Weird... My family always has a shower for each baby that comes into the world. I'm not sure if it has to do with the fact that my grandma had a SIDS baby or what.
But what if you're having the opposite sex baby, you likely won't have anything for them and not everyone can afford all the expenses that come with a brand new baby. Just my opinion I guess! (:
1) Babies don't care if they lay on pink or blue blankets. I received a bunch of hand me downs from my BFF that were from her 1st child, a girl. Both her second (a boy) and my son puked on pink burp cloths, slept on pink crib sheets and laid on a flowered boppy and survived. Additionally, things like bottles, nipples, diaper genies, pacis, etc have no gender assignment.
2) If you didn't plan ahead to the fact that you may likely have more than one child and got gender-specific items (pink car seat, anyone?) it's your own damn fault. It shouldn't be your friends/families responsibility to buy you a blue car seat because you had had *had* to have a pink butterfly one.
3) If you can't afford the baby, what are you doing having one? If you are really that bad off, there are resources available to you.
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In some circles second showers are acceptable, if your mom says it is not appropriate, then it is not.
In my family we do showers for new mothers only. Being the second born, my mom did not have a shower for me...I did not miss out on anything.
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I'm sure your baby will cope just fine. You on the other hand will have to buy what he or she needs on your own. Sorry
Also, I think you have more to worry about if you raise a child who feels left out because there was no baby shower for them.
If you are that concerned then write down the flowers or balloons or outfits someone buys for the baby when he/she is born
Wow...I am shocked at how cruel some people can be to total strangers on here! Some of the comments and replys are just downright rude. Personally I think that any birth deserves a shower. If there is a family member or friend that wants to throw one then thats awesome! I had a shower with my son 6 years ago and my MIL is throwing a shower for my daughter next month. And everyone that has been invited is thrilled! Why in the world would you put down a stranger for simply asking a question!?
There are MILLIONS...nay....BILLIONS of people who have went on to have normal and successful lives without having a) baby showers in their honor and b)completely filled out baby books.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
My child doesn't even have a baby book. I hope she can go on to have a normal and successful life.
Neither does Luke. It's ok. They'll be unloved together.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Oh wah, go cry to your BMB about the mean ladies on the BSB...Oh wait, you did that already...
i completely agree! most of these are snarky, rude comments to a really simple, innocent question.
The question was (basically) "Can I still do what I want despite the fact that my own mother says it's rude and inappropriate? Here are the reasons why I've rationalized why she's wrong and I'm right.."
The fact that people are agreeing with her mother doesn't make them rude, it makes her wrong.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
I thought I asked a really simple and innocent question that I would actually really like the answer to. Yet, for some reason, I've never gotten it. I'll take a snarky answer over being ignored... Anyone, Bueller?
Yes, because it's your friend's and family's problem that you decided to get rid of all of your baby stuff because you "weren't going to have another." So they should totally have to go to another shower for you and buy you yet another gift to replace the ones you chose to get rid of.
Trust me, your second won't know how much "stuff" they have as a newborn compared to their older sibling...It sounds like you just want an excuse to have another shower.
I keep typing a response and erasing because I just can't, so I'll just say...
Says the woman complaining because people won't buy her as much stuff this time. Me me me effing me. Grow up and buy your own baby stuff. You are grown up enough to reproduce, you are grown up to provide for your own child.
Seriously, I bet over half the stuff you are whining about a second kid not getting, they don't even need.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.