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DS Has NO Seperation Anxiety??

patchen30patchen30 member
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I keep waiting for DS to get seperation anxiety, stranger danger, etc., but he just shows no signs!  He's 11 months old.

We've had the same nanny since he was 4 1/2 months old, and she comes over about a half hour before I leave in the AM (I work 3 days a week).  He doesn't get upset when I go.  When I come home he sometimes greets me with a huge smile, but sometimes he's not in a great mood and doesn't really react much at all. 

He's not afraid of strangers at all, smiles at everyone and will climb on other mothers in play groups, etc.  People always comment on how friendly he is. 

This may sound great, but I'm concerned that he's not attached to me, and that I could be substituted for any stranger.  I just want to know that this is normal since I keep hearing that seperation anxiety/stranger danger is what's normal. 

I keep beating myself up, wondering if it's b/c I didn't BF, or let him CIO, etc.  Anyone have any experience?

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Re: DS Has NO Seperation Anxiety??

  • jenb_99jenb_99 member

    We're talking about babies here; sometimes it seems like there is no "normal."

    He probably will develop some separation anxiety at some point, but who knows when? It doesn't *have* to happen at any certain time. For some kids it doesn't happen till preschool.

    In the meantime, be thankful that you have a well-adjusted, happy baby.


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  • diana.filipidiana.filipi member

    My daughter didn't have issues with separation anxiety.  She is independent and curious.  She will travel a good ways away from me while playing and that has only increased with age.  She's very securely attached to me.

    DS is already showing some signs of separation anxiety although he will usually let someone else watch him. 

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  • KaeldrasmommyKaeldrasmommy member
    No separation anxiety doesn't mean a lack of attachment. As long as he gets lots of your attention and love and snuggles I wouldn't worry about it. Just the fact that it worries you tells me that he is very likely just very secure.
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  • livinirie84livinirie84 member
    My son has zero stranger danger or separation anxiety and sometimes when I pick him up from DC, he wants my sister to pick him up instead of me. And he's only there 4 hrs. It hurts a little but then there are days like now, when he's sick and I am all he wants so I just take advantage when I can.
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  • StrikeGirlStrikeGirl member
    Don't worry and don't make it about yourself. He ADORES you. My son was the same way and didn't get seperation angst until 13 months. Soooo, it could be coming. But if you get through without it, even better! Again remember, you have a CHILL kid and that's a good thing!
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  • MrsKM82MrsKM82 member
    My son not have any separation anxiety at all so far and we have a great bond and attachment. He is just a confident and curious baby. He may develop it later but right now I am enjoying guilt free trips to the gym, date nights, etc. Smile
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