Anyone NOT want to be a SAHM?

AMT1107 · September 2012

I'm 100% sure I want to go back to work. I can't imagine not working, I have held a full time job since I was 16 and can't imagine not working. A lot of people have said this will change when the baby is born but I just can't imagine not working, DH and I love to travel and I wouldn't want the lower income to change that.

Daycare for us is my mom and dad and I am 100% comfortable leaving baby with them for the first 2 years after that we would like to put LO in daycare or some sort of daycare type program.

lady dixneuf · September 2012

it's not something I'd want to do long term. I'd take a year or two off.

I actually just applied for a fellowship that starts in Jan!

I value being a mother but it's but one of many life goals of mine. I'd have a really hard time just being a mom. This is before I even consider the financial issues.

My career is equally important to me as being a mom.

brekaye · September 2012

ME! I have been lucky enough to be off of work this entire pregnancy, and I have been so freaking bored. Not to mention the lack of financial security we had when I was working. To me it's not worth it to stay home unless MH was making mega bucks.

I want to be able to travel and basically do what we want when we want to instead of living like we have since January. IF I can get a job making close to what I was making before, paying for daycare and getting ahead financially won't be an issue. I'm ready to get back to work!

Starry Again · September 2012

I would love to SAH about one year, like they have in Canada, but no desire beyond that. The 12 weeks is a major bummer to me but we'll make it work. I worked hard to get my career where it is now, I earn almost as much as my husband, and we enjoy a lifestyle that would be very different with the loss of an income.

jessicaskyy · September 2012

I tried with my yds and it just wasn't for me. The lack of adult interaction and troubles bf really got to me. I'm hoping that this time around I'll be able to sah but, I am already missing work. We shall see how things go.

MrsACT1 · September 2012

Yep, me.....I was so ready to go back to work when I was on maternity leave with DS. I love my children very much, but I am not made to stay at home with them. I am a better mother because I work. DS loves his daycare and has so many little friends, I can't imagine him not being there.

sprieh01 · September 2012

I work full time and I think I would like to work part-time. However, I do like my full time paycheck better and DH doesn't make enough for me to consider that. I like to be able to buy things and go places when I want.

Winning the lottery would be my best bet haha

rakle99 · September 2012

I am already worried about staying home with the baby on maternity leave. I feel depressed when I don't have intellectual interaction and interaction with others outside the home. I also think staying at home is much harder than being in the workforce. My ideal situation though would be to work only part time so I'm not missing so much time with my kids.

Mrs_Lady · September 2012

I also put a lot of effort to get to the level I am at in my career.

could certainly entertain staying home for a year or working part time for a few years but not sure there are roles out there like that without stepping back and losing income besides I want my LO to go to daycare and not be homeschooled

InTheRobinsonWay · September 2012

I never did. Being home now on bed rest is turning me into a lazy bum...

My mother was a SAHM who raised me to be career oriented. I love my career (most days..LoL). I would love to go PART-TIME though, but right now with paying school loans back...it's not feasible. Doable...not feasible.

I should be able to go PT in about ~6 years or less. That means this little one will just be starting/in Elementary school and my subsequent children will still be very young. I look forward to that extra time with my pumpkin and future bambinos )

PixelPosy · September 2012

Ideally I'd be a work from home mom with a flexible schedule. I've always made my own money, and it would be hard to imagine not doing so. The staying at home part though, would love that. Half my office work today is conference calls. Face to face meetings are the rarity.

beckymonster · September 2012

I would do it if my husband were super rich. Otherwise, I wouldn't consider it.

crushinit · September 2012

I do not want to be a SAHM. Long weekends start to drive me a little bonkers. I love spending time with my DD but it makes me a better mom to be at work during the week. I have more motivation to play and color with DD as well as take her fun places.

I will say that I am very lucky to have found a wonderful daycare provider who loves my child and helps teach her things I would have never thought of if I stayed home. I don't think that I could leave DD and go to work without having a good daycare situation.

hboo2011 · September 2012

Hmmm.. At this point, no. None of my friends are SAHM. I enjoy the idea of having things to talk about with them, work related, it makes me feel 'grown up'. DH and I are very comfortable with the lifestyle we lead now. Plus, I'd get bored as $hit home every day, all day.

In the future, could I see myself working part time, absolutely. That would actually be ideal for me, and what DH and I are looking forward to in the future.

MrsFobeyFobes · September 2012

I wouldn't mind working part time or working closer to home. I don't like that I'll have a 45min to hour commute to get to see my LO. I don't think I could completely SAH though.

nycgirl88 · September 2012

Maybe it'll change after baby comes but, for now, I'm excited to have the year off and then go back to work. I've been in my career for 10 years and I absolutely LOVE it! If financially possible, I would maybe consider cutting back to 3-4 days a week but that's it.

MCookie816 · September 2012

Well, I am just going to go sob into my pillow now because I am a lazy bum who sits around the house, have no one to talk to and make no money.

TwiggyPlusOne · September 2012

In a perfect world I'd be a famous writer who only works outside the home to make appearances to speak or sign my novels. In reality, considering I'm the bread winner of our family, momma's gotta work! Hopefully I'll be the next Stephen King one day but until then looks like I'll be working outside the home full time. Keep in mind that I'd still be working, just at home. I love making $ on my own and will always generate some kind of income, even if I was to become rich.

rnbeth477 · September 2012

I guess I'm technically a SAHM, but I work too. I'm an ER nurse and I work about 4 shifts a month just to keep my foot in the door and for adult interaction. I needed to keep some sort of intellectual challenges in my life other than taking care of DS.

When I first quit my fulltime job, I has a really hard time. I was working in a nursing leadership role away from the bedside. It was really difficult for me to see DH going to work and meetings, etc. However after 6 months or so, it got better.

I've found ways to keep myself busy. I'm part of a mom group. I've made other mom friends in my neighborhood and we have play dates. Also, I'm on an advisory board for a local girls youth group, and on the party planning commitee for our subdivision.

irish city girl · September 2012

I have been doing the SAHM thing since December and I am really looking forward to working part time in the near future. I don't think I would have known that I needed to work (I thought I did until I had DS, then I felt guilty and wanted to stay home) if I hadn't stayed home with DS for a while. I'm glad I did it and know for sure that working part time is what's best for me.

LSUnoelle1220 · September 2012

I have never, ever, wanted to be a SAHM. I applaud the women who can do it, I'm just not one of them.

I love my job, I love working and being out of the house. I do hate the idea of my baby being in day care all day. But, he will be 2 minutes away if I'm dying for some baby time. Even if he wasn't so darn close, I would still be eager to go back.

People as me all the time how long I plan on going on leave. And why don't I plan on taking the full 12 weeks FMLA. Part of it is money, and part of it is that I'm pretty sure I will get bored hanging around the house for 3 months with just the baby.

I love adult conversation. And when I don't get it (like when I was unemployed for 6 months and only had the dog to talk to), I get really unhappy and depressed feeling.

Misheyld · September 2012

I can't imagine being a SAHM. I'm only taking about 7 weeks for maternity leave unless I medically need to take more. I've worked hard to build my career and I don't want to give it up, besides I would really miss the people. I'm lucky where my DH works from home and my MIL has a day care out of her home less than 3 miles away.

But even if I wanted to be a SAHM, I'm the one who makes the money and the carries the insurance. So it's not even an option if I wanted it to be.

mrsmklynch · September 2012

I always say I could definitely NEVER be a SAHM . . . that is, until it's time to leave LO and go back to work. It's really hard. Like cry all day because I just want my baby hard. Still, I know I wouldn't feel fulfilled at home and I hate the idea of depending on DH for everything. I like having my own money

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