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January 2013 Moms
Husbands/SO Work Schedule?
Just wondering what everyone else's husband's/so work schedule is like? My husband works a ton of hours and commutes 1 hour each way to work. Most days it's a miracle if I see him before 8:00 at night and he leaves between 6 and 7 each morning. Some weeks are worse than others. He's trying to figure out how to adjust his schedule so he can be home by 6:30/7 at least a couple of nights a week...I'm just so afraid he's going to miss out on bonding time with baby. Thankfully, he has awesome vacation time (8 weeks a year) so he'll be taking 3 weeks off after baby is born but the day to day time away sucks!
Anyone else deal with a husband's/SO crazy work schedule?
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Re: Husbands/SO Work Schedule?
DH works nights - he leaves here between 12 - 2pm (depending on what he needs to do) and gets off anywhere between 7pm - 2am (most nights its 10:30pm). He works Mon-Thurs and a weekend a month where he works Fridays (5am - 4pm) and Saturdays (5am - 10am).
We are pretty lucky and his schedule works well with our personalities. There are weeks where he works late all week long and I never see him, and then there are weeks where he is home by 730 practically all week. He was just made shop supervisor so I'm anticipating the early days are long gone.
ETA - DH is military so his hours have always been a tad wacky, he always works nights - which I like. He'll get 10 days paternity leave and will be taking an additional 3-5 days of leave on top of that. I'm really thinking his schedule is going to help out big time with these boys.
I hope your husband gets his to where he wants it ! And bonding time with baby! Sounds like he works a TON.
4 days a week he works 8-5, and one day a week he works 11 am - 8 am. Once we move, his commute will be under 15 minutes. He takes care of all of the daycare pick up and drop offs, except of his late day. He also has to work every fourth Saturday, and gets a day off the following week.
He has loads of saved up sick leave, so taking sometime off the first three weeks is easy. He will probably take two full weeks off and then work pt the third week.
When DS starts elementary school, DS will spend after school hours at DH's work. We will have a sitter with DS, but it's a small town public library, so DH can see DS and talk with him if he's not too busy.
When DH wants to attend a daycare or school function, it's easy for him to take a few hours to do that. He definitely has a family friendly job.
My husband's schedule is horrible like OPs. So much so, coupled with the fact that his CEO is a paranoid delusional, that he actually decided to leave his job over the next few months. He is ramping down currently and will be done by 10/31. He's already been interviewing and has turned down two offers because the work schedule expectation is crazy for having a newborn.
Needless to say, I am freaking out a little bit although I know he'll have a job soon. I'm happy he'll actually have time to bond with the baby when he has a new job but also scared about losing those extra six figures =(
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Good luck! Hopefully he can adjust his schedule a bit. Can he bring anything home and work after LO goes to sleep?
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DH used to have a job that he worked 60-80 hours a week and traveled every other week. It was brutal. I'm so glad he has switched.
Now he works three twelve hour shifts per week. He's on nights, but is hopefully switching to days next year. He's usually gone from the house for about 14 hours, but it's worth it to have four days off a week!
I'm working on helping him prioritize his life. While his job is very demanding, it doesn't help that he's a workaholic. Honestly, the hours he's working now are better than what they had been even 6 months ago, so he is making progress.
He does bring stuff home 2-3 times a month. I think this may be more frequent once LO arrives... However, if he leaves between 3:00-6:00 he hits rush hour traffic and it will take 1 1/2-2 hours to get home instead of just 1... So it's a trade off...
My husband works pretty long hours and has a pretty long commute, it can be an hour and a half or even two hours on a bad day. Sometimes he is home at 8:00. I do worry about it, but I also think things will change when the baby comes. He might not stay as late or get lost in a report, and I have noticed in offices, including my own, that when people have kids they have more flexibility. It's not really fair to the people without kids, but seems to be how it is.
I've actually worried more about it in the future than when our kids are babies--like DH missing school things or soccer games or concerts etc.
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My H is a pharmacist so he works a regular but rotating retail schedule (same day off/1st/2nd shift each week and every other weekend... and many holidays
). The way pharmacists are compensated is salary up to 40 hrs and OT hourly over that. So he doesnt work over 40 a week hardly ever. But he has 2 closing shifts a week, and an hour commute. Once I am close to my due date he will have a few other pharmacists on call and his DM will be aware as well so he will have coverage if he has to leave during his shift or call out last minute. It worked out with my son that I went into labor overnight anyhow on a day he didnt have to work early. If he needs to leave during work hopefully someone can get over there quick since it is an hour to the hospital. Granted I dont anticipate things going that fast but you never know!
He will take 2 weeks off like he did for henry.
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My hubby works in IT. His job actually does have pretty crazy and sometimes unpredictable hours and he is on call 24/7/365. He works usually a minimum of 50 hrs a week but often more like 60-70.
He's currently looking for another job and has some interviews coming up *fingers crossed* because the company he currently works for doesn't treat him very well. Besides our 4 day honeymoon (which doesn't really count because he worked remotely one day) he hasn't had a vacation in three years. That's one of the smaller issues...
Now that I think about it...he actually worked on our wedding day. :P
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He works 9:00 - 5:30 (sometimes a bit later) and we commute together so I see him pretty much the whole time we aren't actually at our offices.
Once LO gets here he is going to be working 6am - 5:30 most days to get the overtime pay so I won't see him as much as I do now but every evening will be the same.
DH usually leaves around 7.30, comes home for lunch (if he's working in town) around 12.15; leaves again around 1 - 1.30 and comes homes anytime between 4.30 and 6 (usually around 5.30)
However he works on his own (small drywalling company) so he can arrange his schedulle or take days off if necessary; but this also implies a lot of paperwork to do at home in the evenings
I understand! And I lost a lot of friends during our IF struggle (they just didn't understand so some were cut by me not following up and others just stopped calling me) so I'm pretty much on my own. I do have 2 great friends who I can count on but both live 45-60 minutes away and have busy schedules themselves, so I don't see them often but we do talk every day/every other day... I'm actually looking forward to LO's arrival so I have someone to keep me company in the evenings. And yes, I'm fully aware it won't all be sunshine and roses--I am a daycare provider!
I work 8-5 M-F. I can flex the hours however I want so I can come early or stay late if I want. I can also sub hours in anywhere if I want to work half days and make em up whenever. I can also work from home if I need to. I just remote in and do my work work from the couch.
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He's currently job searching, but in his current position, he works M-F 8-4:30. His work is about 10 miles from our house which ends up being about 30 mins in the morning and 40 mins in the evening, so he's usually gone 7:30-5. As of right now, he's on drop off/pick up duty! If I get the flex hours I want, he'll drop off and I'll pick up.
ETA: He works in retail, so Oct-early February he will work more like 50-55 hours per week, with later nights, earlier mornings and weekends.
My hubby is a pilot for a privet company and he on average works 10 days a month , but its the slow season so he's home ALOT! hhahah... He has worked one weekend and then one full day so far this month. and there isnt anything on his schedule for a while. He usualy gets busy around the holidays ( which sucks cause this is our first baby and i really want him to be around. im so excited for the holidays).
I do feel lucky thou for after the baby arrives because he will be home alot with the baby and we can switch working when one of us is off. So if he doesnt have work, ill be at work, and if he does have to go to work , then i will be at home. Its sad to say , but he will be home with the baby more than i will. I want it to be the other way around. but we cant afford for me to not work .
Mh works from home and usually starts work before 6am our time since we are on Pacific time so he pretty much starts at the same times as those on the East coast for his company. But than his co-workers on the west coast also expect him to work as late as them even tho many of them don't start work until 9 or later.
There also aren't nearly enough people working at his company in what he does (IT work) so he is usually so busy he doesn't often even get to take a chance to eat which usually ends up with my bringing him a plate straight to his desk. So basically he works from around 5:30am to 4-5pm without usually even being able to take a lunch break, often even taking his head set to go to the bathroom because he can't get away from his phone and he's also on call 24/7 because they still haven't found an adequate replacement for the guy he used to split on call time with who quite over a year ago!
He get's a fair amount of vacation time every year but since there isn't anyone else to really be on call for him it's kind of a joke, when he takes vacation days it pretty much just means he wont have scheduled meetings that day but he still has to take calls if something happens. When lo is born I told him he will not have his work phone at the hospital, I fully understand that when we get home and he takes some "time off" he will still be working a fair amount on things they need him for but there is no reason for him to be checking his work emails and taking calls while I am in labor. Not brining his phone will only work to a certain extent since his boss is a family friend so he knows his personal cell number, but I know him well enough to feel comfortable telling him off if he calls while I am in labor.
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Your husband's work sounds a lot like ours. We went on a cruise for our honeymoon and his work actually paid for him to have cell service through the cruise line in case of an emergency.
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Well, he's a policeman so he works kinda long hours and right now he's on third shift, working from 8 or 9pm to 6 or 7am. I'm not a huge fan of his schedule because it really throws him off when he has a few days off and 'converts' to a normal schedule. He works a lot of part time jobs as well, saving money for the baby, so it's like I never know where he is right now ha... However, he's switching over to the fire department in March and the hours are much better. 24 hrs on 48 off
My husband works downtown too, so he doesn't have a long commute. He also works 9-5 with little travel. He IS looking for a new job which is making me nervous. He works for the state now, but would like work in private business. The jobs he wants would involve a lot of travel and more hours.
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