Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Christiana Hospital 1st Baby
hello and congratulations!!
I don't have any children but my SIL just had her first baby and the room she was in had two beds, one for her and one for BIL and both beds had their own tv's attached to them. I think my neice was born on a Friday afternoon and my SIL was home on Sunday morning.
I know several of the other girls on here have delivered at Christiana so hopefully they can give you more feedback. for what its worth I've only heard good things about Christiana.
Please come back and tell us how it all went! Do you know if you're having a boy or a girl?
The Rowdy Roberts
Christiana was great! You have a really nice private birthing room where you can labor and deliver and have your husband and a couple family members (if you want) in there with you. It has a bathroom and shower and stuff in there as well.
I started off in there, then went in for a c-section -- the operating rooms were really close. And once we were done in there, we went to our recovery room -- baby was with me the whole time. Even with the c section, she never left the room, they did all the cleaning up and weighing her, etc right there. Once I was stiched up, I was able to hold her as they took me to the recovery room.
I had a private room that had 2 beds, one for me and husband and the baby was between us. We had the option of putting her in the nursery at night if needed (I didn't think I would use it, but tried it one night and it was SO helpful! I got a decent few hours of sleep, and they just brought her in for feedings. Take advantage of it!
The nurses and staff were really great. Food was decent for hospital food. We went in on a Monday and left on a Thursday (due to the c section). I almost left on Wednesday but the baby had a little jaundice. So as long as you're feeling good, they won't keep you for a certain amount of time, it's up to you. As long as you and the baby are doing well. I think it's usually like 48 hours for vaginal deliveries?
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Well, my birthday is the 22nd so I hope you go then. :-)
There was another post about Christiana that I responded to. I'd cut and paste, but I'm on my phone. Its at the bottom of the page of posts. I was induced and it went very well. Everyone was so nice. Do you have any specific questions about it.
Welcome and congrats!! I had both my boys at Christiana and it was a great experience both times.
My first I went into labor on my own, had a vaginal delivery. I went in on Sat and got discharged on Monday. My second I was induced. I got induced on Monday and had a vaginal delivery and got discharged on Wed.
There is a chair and a bench in the delivery rooms, not super comfortable, but it is something. They had sheets if your DH wants to make a little bed out of the bench, that's what my husband did when I had to go in to get induced. When you get into the actual room, its nice. It's private there is a bed for your DH and the baby gets to be in the room with you the entire time.
As far as the induction goes mine went really well. I had to go in at 1 am Monday morning to start antibiotics because I was positive for strep. Once I got in and got into my room they started my antibiotics around 2:15-2:30am, then I tried to sleep. I finished my antibiotics around 6:00am and then they started me on pitocin. My Dr came in around 7:30am checked me, I was 3cm and broke my water and told me I could get my epi whenever I wanted. I finally asked for my epi around 8:15 and got it around 9:30am. I progressed pretty fast, one nurse check me around 11am and said I was fully dialated, the doctor came in and I started to push only to find out that I was only about 8cm, so then I waited a little longer. around 12:15 I started to feel some pressure and felt like me epi was wearing off, so I told the nurse, she checked and said I was 10cm. She called the doctor and around 12:45 I was ready to go! I pushed for 13 mins and had my DS at 1pm.
Overall the experience was great both times! Each one was different though, my first DS had some medical issues and had to go to the NICU, right away and was in there for a week, so he was never in the room with us. DS2 had no medical issues and was with us the entire time in the room.
I delivered my first baby at Christiana hosp in August 2012. I was induced on a Tuesday, delivered via unplanned c-section on Wed. At 3:52am & discharged on sat. The staff was very friendly. There are a lot of different nurses that will be in/ out of room during your stay. You are allowed 4 support people in delivery room. If you end up needing a c-section you are only allowed 1 person in Operating room. Once you are in recovery room - you are allowed as many visitors as you would like. There is a bed for your significant other in recovery room. In the delivery room there is a chAir & a window seat/bed thing. You'll have meals 3x a day. They take your order. A snack lady comes around too. Food isnt bad. My husband didnt get meals. Only the mother. I am catholic & I was offered communion while there & my baby was blessed. the induction wasn't bad. My water was broken. I was given pitocin (sp?) & I wante an epidural. It was given in timely manner & really helped me. I had them up it a couple times. It was a good experience for me & I ended up with a beautiful healthy child. Enjoy every moment of your experience & sleep when you can!
Awesome!! Congrats on your DD! Glad to hear you had a good experience! Both my boys were both low too, everyone always commented on how they could feel their heads when they checked me. Guess that helped the process go quick! Congrats again!!