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S/O best friends

becasmecabecasmeca member
in September 2011 Moms
For those that have a best friend or have had a best friend do you find it difficult to balance your SO and your best friend(s)? It is funny how things work out...I had the most sister-like bff in the entire world. we were so close for 9 years!! When I was pregnant with Bo I felt so sick and needed space, and well, she and I no longer speak. I do miss the good parts of her, but I found it difficult to be her bff AND be the wife I wanted to be for my husband. Hind sight says I am better to have had her in my life through college, my mom's death, break-ups, and her "milestones" of early adulthood than now. There is no way I could keep up the type of friendship I had with her (a mothering type) and be the mother and wife I am today. Hmmmm just thinking out loud.. ya know, like some of you do on FB (gag me: smiley face)!!!
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Re: S/O best friends

  • manda26manda26 member
    No I don't. Buuuut my BF's and I all got married and become mothers within 2 or so years from each other. So we really understand how busy things are and that it is not just being available at the drop of a hat for drinks or something anymore. We make a conscience effort to make plans (and sometimes we need to do this weeks to a month or so in advance so we are all available). Mostly the plans include play dates with the little ones, but every few months it is the girls going out with no hubbys or babies!
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  • Marion&KitMarion&Kit member

    With the amount of time and effort I had to devote to DH and I when we were long distance, the vast majority of my friends went by the wayside. I just couldn't keep up those relationships when I was working, going to school, taking care of A, taking care of the apartment, and trying to keep things up with DH (SO then). 

    It's a real, huge, enormous shame.... But I think it's worth it. Something had to give, and we're just at such different parts in life. My close friends are in the college scene, and just don't understand my life right now. (Not trying to sound all, "U DONT UNDERSTAND MY LYFE" but it's true, haha.) 


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  • JKGymnastJKGymnast member
    Sometimes. DH loves my sister, so that is an easy relationship. He does not like my BF from high school. And he does like my friend from gym... So she is an easy relationship to have.

    PS: Becca you LOVE FB and u know it!!!
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  • linzicalinzica member
    it happened with alot of my other friendships but the three of us all got married in a span of three years. It was a little different when they were having kids, their older boys are 2 1/2 years older than Q, but not so much. At that point we really only got together when we all needed to get out.
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