Opinions Please - ASD?

jimbean1 · September 2012

I am new here...

I in the past have had anxiety issues so I dont know if thats ust my new outlet or not...

Please give opinions about my DD... bc everyone thinks its justme... I know you probably get people on here all the time asking stuff and i dont mean to ofdfend anyone i just really am at my wits end...

My DD is 2 and a half...

She speaks very well ... She says 3-5 word sentences like (I dont want to go to school today mommy!) She is very verbal... tells me what she wants (i want yogurt!) and can tell me pretty much what everyone and everything is....

She knows her abcs can site some letters... knows her shapes, colors and sings many songs....

she can draw a line and a circle...

She shows me her artwork that she makes (its just scribbles)

She dresses up and pretends to be princesses...or ballerinas... she thinks anytime she wears a dress she is a princess or ballerina... she tells me she lives in a tower with a prince... she likes to wear crowns and use wands to make "magic" she feeds her baby and sometimes pushes them in a stroller...

She goes to dancing school and does well... she only whines for me every once in a while there but continues to dance... she also loves to watch herself during class in the mirror...

she walks up and down stairs holding on but not wonderful... she sometimes gets scared but she recently fell down the steps...

she jumps with 2 feet off the ground... and she has walked since 1 years old... she crawled at 10 months. She can stand on one foot not holding on for like 1 second or so.. i have tested this playing simon says...

she makes decent eye contact and she responds to her name... i mean sometimes she ignores me when watching tv but nothing crazy

So some things that concern me... I dont know if shes just shy or what...

she plays along other kids at school the dcp tells me... but she doesnt seem excited to play with them... but she loves to play with her cousins... they are 4 and 7... she also at a friends 2 yr olds party played a little with a 2 year old but liked to play with the 4 yr old... i dont know if this is because she is so verbal and the 2 yrold doesnt speak as well to her... she likes to play with all of his toys though...Shell go to our friends house who has a son her age and she just wants to play with his toys not him only on occasion shes playing with him.

she tells me things from on tv like this morning shes like i dont want to go to school.. and then she started telling me that i need pixy dust to fly.. .another day she said i have a something in my nest im like you dont have a nest she goes no big bird had something in his nest...

she can be very shy when out or sometimes we will be in a store and she will talk to anyone...

she is very affectionate with me... shes not afraid of other kids or anything and if i tell her to go say goodbye she will and give hugs and kisses...

i think shes afraid heights... at the park yesterday she was going up and down the jungle gym but then we went on one she was never on which was prob taller and she was scared... but she loves swings and slides and climbing up things that are too big for her... she whines a lot

she lately has been putting her fingers in her mouth.. i dont know if her teeth are shifting or what... but if i tell her to stop she does...

lately her diet has become more limited... she normally would eat anything last year... mind you we were on vacation at the beach for most of the summer so she wants eating great quality foods...

things she will never turn down to eat : pizza, chicken tenders, grilled cheese, peanut butter and jelly, meatballs, meatloaf, burgers, any type of fruit,

things she will sometimes eat now... pork, fish, all veggies

I dont know if its normal toddler pickyness or what

so at school yesterday when we got there a little boy walks up to her and says hi she said hi but then he asked her a question 9are you my girlfriend?) and she just walked away... i stopped her and said so and so asked you a question and i repeated the question and then she answerred him...

sometimes she ignores other people when they ask her stuff...

she is going thorugh potty training she is completely potty trained at dc but sometimes has accidents at home...

if you ask her a question she will answer like what did you do at school today...? who are your friends? where is the baby? etc...

the only things shes ever done at some points were she picked her lip a lot last year but she got over that and it wasnt to the poiint of bleeding or anything it started after she had a chapped lip... and she used to cross her fingers and now i havent aseen her do that in forever... but i dont know if it was my anxiety that was causing this anyway... i had post partum anxiety

she points, claps, waves etc but i have never seen her nod... she shakes her head no though... but shes been able to say yes since she was like 1 yr old...

tell me if im being crazy and its my anxiety taking over or what...

st.augbride · September 2012

Not a single thing you list seems out of the ordinary to me for a 2.5 year old. Maybe b/c she's so verbal, you forget that she's also only 2.5 and have higher expectations. But honestly, I have no idea where you got even slightly concerned about ASD from...

jimbean1 · September 2012

I guess my concern is from her social aspect... she plays well with her cousins and other older kids but isnt as interested in kids her own age... but i also dont see her at daycare..

bumpuser511563 · September 2012

Your DD sounds pretty normal to me. I don't see anything wrong with her.

It would not hurt to get her evaluated to calm your anxieties.

st.augbride · September 2012

I would assume it's normal for kids to have social preferences in terms of who they play with or interact with as they get older. Ds loves some kids, and others he just ignores. He is very social though, so it's just not really a concern. My dh's cousin's daughter just turned 3 and when they were visiting she had NO interest in playing with ds, but only the adults. But that's totally normal. The last time we saw her (when she turned 3), she wouldn't leave ds alone. Kids go through phases. She might have some anxiety in certain situations, or just plain personality preferences. But based on all the things you list I don't see a single concern about ASD, or anything really. Even your dd's diet would be a dream for us.

malcivar · September 2012

You've hit all the points and areas that would normally be a concern - the checklist of questions so many of us detest because the answer is no, no, no, no, no, no. Your little girl seem pretty typical. This is the age when suddenly she'll be afraid of the slide when 2 weeks ago she loved it. Will hate hamburger meat even though she was eating one yesterday. Will only eat a sandwich if you cut it up into 4 pieces, not 6, just 4. KWIM?

She seems pretty typical to me honestly. If you're really concerned, ask your pediatrician though honestly, everything you wrote seems super typical for her age. Like someone else posted, maybe the fact that she's so verbal has you maybe expecting a little too much from her. She is after all only 2 1/2.

Good luck.

Assembly_Reqd · September 2012

Take a deep breath.

She sounds "typically" wonderful to me.

An ASD diagnosis is more than one little behavioral quirk. I think you need to re-read your post and count how many great things she does that you listed and how many you listed that are worrying you. The first count is going to be much, much higher.

macchiatto · September 2012

She sounds very normal to me, too. I agree it wouldn't hurt to talk to your pedi about any concerns but it sounds like she's growing and developing on track. Also, kids mostly do parallel play until age 3. Before then they are more likely to do interactive play with older kids than with peers since the older kids usually have better developed social skills and are better at figuring out how to invite the younger kid into play.

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