Preparing DD1's room before the baby

Mrs.RockyM · September 2012

I want DD1's new room set up before the baby gets here because I'm really trying to minimize change for her as much as possible, and I want to make a big deal of DD1's new big girl furniture and have her adjust to it before the baby is here and we're all focused on her.

Obviously we could wait, becuase DD2 wont be in her room till she's 2 or so, so DD1 will be fine keeping that furniture for another month or so, but I don't want to be dealing with settling a 3 year old and a newborn and having both girls trying to adjust to their new rooms.

DH seems to think it doesn't matter and she'll adjust fine and is getting all pissy with me.

Am I crazy for rushing to get everything done before the baby comes? My RCS is scheduled for 10/8 and right now her new furniture will be here on 10/3, and I'm hoping to get the bed sometime early next week. My hormones and the fact that that DH is so high and mighty as to how easy it's going to be for her to transion, really makes me want to scream!

Mrs.G123 · September 2012

We transitioned DD1 to a twin bed in March. We have had her changing table still in her room for storage until we could move it into the nursery a few weeks ago. I would definitely try to get it done before the baby is born as it did upset her to have the changing table moved. Plus you are going to have a ton of other stuff going on later. Do it NOW!

badkitty2012 · September 2012

You are not crazy at all! DHs always seem to minimize the effect a new baby will have on the family until thy are in te thick of it. I moved DD into a toddler bed 4 months ago so her crib could be used for the baby.

So much will change for everyone once the baby comes so I think it is smart to make as many changes you can control now! Bottom line though is that you will have your hands full so if you feel that you want to do something now, what ever that is, DH can suck it up, put a sock in it and help you.

numberonemama · September 2012

I don't think so. Especially since at three they still don't entirely comprehend everything. DS is six and would be fine b/c he gets it but I still wanted to have most of his big boy room completed b/c I know once the baby comes it's going to be a big change for him no matter how much he understands. I've been making sure that I don't put off certain things for him just b/c I could...I don't want him to feel any extra resentment toward the new LO. (I think he'll be fine overall but he's expressed some concern about us not loving him anymore since the new baby is going to need it all...HEART BREAKING...I told him that each baby comes with their own special set of love so no one has to share that ever. Hopefully he believed me!!

266psyche · September 2012

It sounds like DH is having some transition issues as well. It looks like DD1 isn't the only one you have to attend to in this transition. I know really when you need them most they can drop at the waist side.

However I would simply gently explain to DH that it's really important that this be done before the CS since you will be busy with two little ones and recovery from the surgery.

lcole08 · September 2012

We just transitioned DD into her new room over the weekend. We had the room painted and the furniture set up the weekend before but DH hadn't secured all the furniture to the wall - like the bookshelf and I didn't want DD to sleep in there without it secured. We started by reading her bedtime stories and doing our night time routine in her new room and letting her fall asleep and then I would move her back to the nursery where she was contained in the crib. DH got everything secure and she has done fine this week sleeping in her new room. Our transition wasn't hard, but if it was I wouldn't want to be dealing with that and with a newborn. I would just explain to your DH that it is important to you. Sometimes they just don't understand.

alikat07 · September 2012

I'm completely with you on this. I have been focusing all my energy on updating DD1's room into a big girl room. We replaced most of her furniture and decorations. To be honest it is actually really fun because you get an immediate excited reaction from your little girl. I also think it makes her feel older and more like a big sister to have her new big girl room.

I have planned out the nursery but am still waiting for my uncle to paint it, so I've just bought prints and will use DD's old furniture... but nothing much has really been done.

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