Random, but it makes me wonder...

Re: Random, but it makes me wonder...

• sam19 member

  September 2012

  I think it's possible to still have a great bond. My mom annoys the ever loving sh$^ out of me but gets along really great with my brother. Me and my mom just have totally different personalities which makes it hard for us to bond.

  NATALIE - 9/13/09 HANNAH - 6/8/12

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• Sawyerplus1 member

  September 2012

  What's that saying about having a baby means wearing your heart outside your body, or something? 

  Anyway, I have no doubt that my kids will stomp on my heart many times while they're growing up. Hopefully not too often or not too intentionally, but it'll happen. People everywhere, of varying backgrounds and lifestyles have iffy relationships with parents.

  I have a great relationship with my mom, and hope and pray my kids maintain a close relationship with me too, but you just never know!  

  

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• MrsTheSecondSeven

  September 2012

  Don't worry about it too much. 

  I used to hate my mom but when I finally moved out our relationship was 500X better. Our personalities are exactly the same. Not a great combo for a couple of hot heads. 

  Teen years will always be rough but when our little ones are adults and if we have been awesome mothers everything should work out fine. 

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• RioG1978 member

  September 2012

  it's not random... I think about this all the time. Personally, I'm going to try really hard to maintain my own life and my own interests. so that when the time comes for my kids to need to push me away in preparation for their separation, it doesn't sting quite so much, and my kids won't feel conflicted, as if they're "abandoning" me. Essentially, I'm going to do things much differently than my own mother did.

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• thatoneredhead member

  September 2012

  (Besides personality conflict) I think alot of conflict happens when mom's dont grow with their children. My grandmonther to this day calls my mom good girl when she gets up for work on time. For real. It drives her nuts. I dont have a relationship with my grandmother at all. It's difficult. She cant relate to anyone above the age of 10.

    Something I think about all the time are these MIL posts and Im like- I will be hated one day too. 

  
  

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• jasminelorraine20 member

  September 2012

  MrsTheSecondSeven:

  Don't worry about it too much. 

  I used to hate my mom but when I finally moved out our relationship was 500X better. Our personalities are exactly the same. Not a great combo for a couple of hot heads. 

  Teen years will always be rough but when our little ones are adults and if we have been awesome mothers everything should work out fine. 

   

  This was exactly us as well!! We're like good girlfriends now that I have my own place and my own job lol.

  

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• jasminelorraine20 member

  September 2012

  Thank you ladies for your encouraging words. Glad I'm not the only one that thinks of these things.

  

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• RioG1978 member

  September 2012

  thatoneredhead:

  (Besides personality conflict) I think alot of conflict happens when mom's dont grow with their children. My grandmonther to this day calls my mom good girl when she gets up for work on time. For real. It drives her nuts. I dont have a relationship with my grandmother at all. It's difficult. She cant relate to anyone above the age of 10.

    Something I think about all the time are these MIL posts and Im like- I will be hated one day too. 

   nah, you won't be hated, because you are insightful enough to recognize things like parents not growing with their children to be detrimental.  So if you carry that insight with you over the years, you'll be self-aware enough to build a healthy in-law relationship.

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• amyrenee2008 member

  September 2012

  That sounds like my younger sister also...I have always had a great relationship with my mom, but she couldn't wait to graduate because she got so bothered by her. But now that she's out of the house their relationship is sooooo much better! Makes going home more enjoyable too. There's not a bratty 17 year old constantly complaining haha
  
  But I also agree with the personality thing too, if they're too different or too much alike it can cause problems.
  
  Your DS will always love you! Don't let these things worry you

  
  

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• thatoneredhead member

  September 2012

  RioG1978:

  thatoneredhead:

  (Besides personality conflict) I think alot of conflict happens when mom's dont grow with their children. My grandmonther to this day calls my mom good girl when she gets up for work on time. For real. It drives her nuts. I dont have a relationship with my grandmother at all. It's difficult. She cant relate to anyone above the age of 10.

    Something I think about all the time are these MIL posts and Im like- I will be hated one day too. 

   nah, you won't be hated, because you are insightful enough to recognize things like parents not growing with their children to be detrimental.  So if you carry that insight with you over the years, you'll be self-aware enough to build a healthy in-law relationship.

   it'll be alot more entertaining to fill my day with drama and tears whenever my son puts his wife above my emotional needs.

  (sarcasm aside- thanks ) 

  
  

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• egsulaiman

  September 2012

  My mom and I can only get along in small spurts... I live in NJ, and she lives in Florida. When we get together for a week or 2, its great, but anything longer, and I start to get so tired of her.... we never got along when I was a teenager.. and as childish as I know it is, I havnt forgiven her for how she treated me when I was younger... and she treats her step kids the same way.. it drives me nuts!!!! But that doesnt mean I dont love her. I couldnt imagine my life without her...
  

  

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