Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: If you had a succesful VBAC...
My vbac was quick and uncomplicated, two hours from first contraction to birth. Baby was eight pounds.
2. 7lbs 13.5 oz but he came at 38w. His older sister was 8lbs 5.5oz.
I had an emergency section after delivering twin #1 vaginally. Twin #2 didn't want to come out. His heart rate dropped so they needed to get him out quick.
I had a sucessful VBAC 12 years later. My VBAC baby was 9lbs 2 ozs.
DD#1 - I couldn't push her out. I was too tired after a very long induction. She was 9lbs 1oz
DD#2 - I only pushed for 45 minutes and she came out pretty easily. She was 8lbs 1oz.
It's really hard to judge what you can and can't push out based on other's experiences. It's also hard to judge based on the size of #1. Because positioning has so much to do with it. And second babies can be smaller.
1. Why did you have to have a C/S?
My 3rd baby was breech.
2. How big was your VBAC baby?
7lbs 5.5oz (she was about 70% at 28wks)
1. C-section baby was OP and would not drop while pushing. Her heart rate also kept dropping. She was 7lbs 4oz.
2. VBAC baby was also OP, but she tolerated pushing much better. She was 9lbs 1oz.
BFP #2 7/13/2011 ~ EDD 3/16/2012 ~Aubree Olivia (9lbs 1oz, 21 inches) 3/15/2012 VBAC (39w6d)
BFP #3 5/15/2014 ~ EDD 1/16/2015~Addison Isabelle (9lbs, 0oz, 21 inches) 1/25/2015 2VBAC (41w2d)
BFP #4 7/20/2016 ~ EDD 3/25/2017 ~ Malachi Mathew (10lbs 0oz, 22 inches) 4/4/2017 emergency csection (41w3d)
I had a c/s for failure to progress - I pushed 4+ hours with DS1, and he wasn't coming out. He was OP, and was a bit over 8 lbs.
My VBAC baby was 10 lb, 10 oz, 23.5". He was usually LOA before labor (spinning babies terms), and we had no idea he was that large (he was also a good 10+ days past due when he was born).
I dunno, it seems really odd that they're predicting a big baby at 20 weeks, and also if you're having a girl this time, chances are she'll be smaller than her brother. hth
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)
1. I had a c/s because DD1 wasn't descending after 40 hours of labor. She was 6 lbs, 1 oz.
2. DD2 was 7 lbs and I had no problem delivering her. My first was 8 lbs, 1 oz and I was able to have him vaginally.
My c-section was for a failed induction. Baby never descended/was stuck. DD was 9 lbs 15 oz.
VBAC was a textbook labor, pushed for 15 min. DS was 10 lbs 5 oz
For every mama, each pregnancy & birth is totally different. It's ridiculous to predict size based on a 20 wk US for one thing. And even if this baby is 10 lbs for you, there is every reason that you should be able to birth vaginally anyway.
Thanks for all of the responses. This is very helpful!
1. Why did you have to have a C/S? He was breech, so I scheduled a c/s. I never labored with him
2. How big was your VBAC baby? 9 lbs 5 ounces (small 1 degree tear)
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1. My c/s was because after 2 hours of pushing and 14 hours of labor my daughter wasn't descending.
2. My VBAC baby was 7 lbs 10 oz and 19" long
My VBAC was not easy. I pushed for 3 hours and needed forceps but it was well worth it and I hope to successfully VBAC again in February. I was also induced both times due to pre-eclampsia/rising blood pressure. I was fairly dilated when I went in for my VBAC induction, which is why it was possible.
1.) My c/s was because he was breech (I tried an ECV but failed)
2.) 8lb 13 oz
3.) 8lb 6oz
DS - 7.2006 - C-Section b/c Breech
DS2 - 4.2008 - Successful Vbac
DD - 5.2012 - Successful Vbac
1. Failed induction. I stalled out at 6cm and -1 (I think it was -1) and my DD was having decels with each contraction.
2. He was 8 lbs. 6 oz. 2 ounces heavier than my daughter's birth weight) but a smidge shorter, IIRC. She was just over 21" and he was just under.
Sarah - 12/23/2008
Alex - 9/30/2011
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