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s/o Wedding Advice

dandlelyondandlelyon
in June 2011 Moms

I am normally a lurker on this board and Dec '12.  The wedding post got me thinking about a situation that I have coming up in March. 

DH and I have been asked to be in my brothers wedding March 2013.  At that time our twins will be 21 months old and our newest LO will hopefully be around 3 months old. The wedding is out of town and away from DH and my immediate families.  My parents are ovbiously going to be tied up being parents of the groom (hosting the rehersal dinner, picuters, etc) and won't be able to help out a lot (some yes, but not all day).  I would really like the girls to be at the wedding because they are my brothres only neices (his FI is an only child).  We have some relatives around an hour away from where the wedding is going to be held.  We also have younger (early 20s) cousin that lives 15 min away from the wedding, but the girls have not really been around her at all. 

I am just looking for advice and input as to how we can pull this off.

Perhap we could pay the 20 something cousin to be a "Nanny" for the day?  3u2 is a lot ot put on anyone, so I am not sure that any one person could handle it without some practice.  Maybe see if she and a friend would do it?  The relatives 1 hour away are DH's brother and sister in law that have girls just a bit older than ours.  So that is a more comfortable option, but also challenging as it is an hour away. We have cousins 2 hours from the wedding volunteer to help out as well.  Perhaps we could pay them and thier hotel room and have them Nanny the girls (the girls have been around them a lot)?

For the record, my brother's fiance has had some pretty rediculous requests that we have already delicately talked to them about (kids attending the kid-free reception, not participating on the party bus for the entire 4+ hours between the wedding and the recption).

Sorry this is so long...

And thanks for any advice.

 

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  • Telly21182Telly21182 member
    What is your relationship like with your ILs?  Could you maybe ask them to go to where the wedding is for the weekend to watch the LOs, and pay for their hotel room?
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    imageTelly21182:
    What is your relationship like with your ILs?  Could you maybe ask them to go to where the wedding is for the weekend to watch the LOs, and pay for their hotel room?

    This was my thought as well.

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    imageTelly21182:
    What is your relationship like with your ILs?  Could you maybe ask them to go to where the wedding is for the weekend to watch the LOs, and pay for their hotel room?

    This was my thought as well.

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  • dandlelyondandlelyon

    imageTelly21182:
    What is your relationship like with your ILs?  Could you maybe ask them to go to where the wedding is for the weekend to watch the LOs, and pay for their hotel room?

    This is technically an option.  HOWEVER, they have in the past backed out of baby duty commitments for DH's Brother and SIL.  I am nervous they would do something like this to us at the last minute.  However, it is something to consider.

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    imagedandlelyon:

    Perhap we could pay the 20 something cousin to be a "Nanny" for the day?

    If you did this you could tell her I know 3u2 can be difficult so you are welcome to bring a friend.  I will pay you x amount of $'s and you can give your friend her cut based on what help she gave you or not.  A lady I babysat for always did this for me and if my friend helped a ton she got half.  If she sat on her tush and I did everything I wouldn't give much.  I always just asked the friend to come keep me company and then paid them on what help I needed or they gave.  You should also give them money to order a pizza or something for dinner.

      The relatives 1 hour away are DH's brother and sister in law that have girls just a bit older than ours. 

    This would put them with 5 children then?  I would think that would be more difficult plus would kind of put them out since they would have to be traveling with their two?  But is an option if it makes you more comfortable.

    I think you have 2 great options here it really is just your comfort level at this point as to what you are most comfortable with.

     

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  • magnoliablossom00magnoliablossom00 member

    First of all, I always notice you on the Dec 12 board b/c our girls are all the same age. Yes Plus, we will have 5 girls between the 2 of us, which is pretty fun!

    Anyway, I would ask your ILs or hire someone to bring along as a nanny. I wouldn't rely on family that is already going to be there because they will be too distracted, they might not understand that you're "hiring" them, etc. I'd keep it simple and use ILs or a nanny b/c then their entire focus would be on the girls (who will be needing a lot of supervision). GL!

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  • dandlelyondandlelyon
    imagemagnoliablossom00:

    we will have 5 girls between the 2 of us, which is pretty fun!

    When you put it that way, we are some very busy ladies!!

    And thanks for the advice.

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