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my kid is hitting at school

smithpaintsmithpaint member
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My 5yo son started kindergarten a few weeks ago.  He seems to be enjoying it.  He has lots to tell me every day.  But I guess he hasn't been telling me everything.  His teacher called me today to let me know that he got on yellow today for "slapping" a girl in the library.  His teacher said it wasn't the first time.  She said he has hit/pushed a kid approx once a week.  She asks him too apologize each time.  She said one time he got very angry with her, didn't want to apologize.  She had to take him in the hall and have him sit on the wall.

 Great.  He was in preschool last year, and his teachers never said a thing.  I talked to him about it today.  I told him he could not hit anymore and that he needed to keep his hands to himself.  I told him he had disappointed his teacher and me.  He says he's not going to, but only time will tell.  Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

 

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Re: my kid is hitting at school

  • AndrewsgalAndrewsgal member
    Honestly if my kindergarten er got in trouble for hitting, there would be hell to pay. My 2 year old fine, but a 5 year old knows better and there is NO excuse for this type of behavior. 
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  • smithpaintsmithpaint member

    imageAndrewsgal:
    Honestly if my kindergarten er got in trouble for hitting, there would be hell to pay. My 2 year old fine, but a 5 year old knows better and there is NO excuse for this type of behavior. 

    I totally agree.  His behavior is very surprising to me.  I know he can get rowdy at home, but we had no problems when he was in preschool.  He is overall a really good kid.  This is totally surprising to me.  I have tried getting more out of him about why he would do such a thing.  Not fun at all. 

     

     

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  • neverblushedneverblushed member

    Take it seriously and talk to him about your expectations, but don't freak out.  Preschool is as structured as kindergarten, but in a different way, and this can be tough for kids to handle, especially if they are young five year olds.  In preschool, there's lots of free play time, but it's closely supervised.  Adults are there to intervene before kids get to the point where they're frustrated enough to get physical.

    Kindergarten, comparatively, has very little "down time" but an expectation that kids should be managing their own interactions with little intervention from the teacher.  So the structure is applied to the kids' use of time and their activities.

    You mentioned that he can be "rowdy" at home.  If you've kind of written off this "rowdy" behavior in the past by saying "well, he's little" or "boys will be boys" now might be the time to begin holding him to a higher standard at home so that there are consistent expectations for him in both school and home.  

     

    High School English teacher and mom of 2 kids:

    DD, born 9/06/00 -- 12th grade
    DS, born 8/25/04 -- 7th grade
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  • ridesbuttonsridesbuttons member

    ^^^^

    What she said.

     

    promised myself I'd retire when I turned gold, and yet here I am
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