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happy fracking birthday to me

Marion&KitMarion&Kit member
in September 2011 Moms

DH is tasked for deployment again, leaving sometime in the spring. I'm not supposed to say where or when. We're going into base tomorrow (my birthday) for him to sign the acknowledgement paperwork. 

I feel so lost right now. I'm trying to be strong for him and I don't even know how. Thank God he's working tonight, I'm a disaster. We were apart for so long, and I've only just got him, and now he's leaving again. He missed the entire first year of A's life, and now he's going to be missing close to another year. 

And I will so entirely, pathetically be alone again. I have no friends here, no job, no family. I know, I know, I know - this is the life I signed up for. But it's so hard. I don't want to be a single mom again. I don't want to go through the PTSD issues again. I don't want to be lonely, and I don't want to be that scared again. 

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  • tartertots9725tartertots9725 member
    I'm so sorry you have to go through that again. I wish there was more I could say. I hope you're still able to have somewhat of a good bday. You're a strong woman and you'll get through this! huge hugs
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  • jen4nyjen4ny member
    I am so sorry Marion. I don't even know what to say. You will somehow find a way to get through it again, I know you are upset but I want to still say happy birthday. Hugs. 
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  • shelley1002shelley1002 member
    Does his unit have an FRG? I joined the one for DH's old unit during his last deployment. Made some great friends and it was nice to have support from people going through the same things I was.
    Sorry he is leaving again. That's the problem with the shorter deployments they go more often.
    My DH has been twice. Iraq for 15 months back in 2005 and 2006. And Kuwait for 12 months in 2009 and 2010. He just missed out on the current deployment but is the rear detachment and is super busy at work running things short staffed.
    If you need to talk, vent, cry you can PM me.

    ETA: hope you still have a great birthday.

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  • AmandaPaige6410AmandaPaige6410
    I'm sorry, I don't even know what else to say. I'm sure it's very difficult to be a wife to someone in the armed forces. Try and enjoy your birthday and the rest of the time you two do have together. We are all here for you!
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  • manda26manda26 member

    I can't imagine how hard it is, but if you can't stay strong for him, stay strong for your DD. Make sure she knows what he does is amazing and something to be so proud of. My dad is a vet, and is my hero and the bravest man in the world to me for all of his sacrifices.

    Happy Birthday! I didn't know you were a Sept baby like all of our LO's too!

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  • Ms5586Ms5586 member
    Oh sweetheart, I am so so sorry.  Big, huge, ((((hugs)))) to you.  I wish we were closer.  Remember that even though we're over the internet, we are still here for you. 
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  • carolyn6609carolyn6609 member

    imageshelley1002:
    Does his unit have an FRG? I joined the one for DH's old unit during his last deployment. Made some great friends and it was nice to have support from people going through the same things I was. Sorry he is leaving again. That's the problem with the shorter deployments they go more often. My DH has been twice. Iraq for 15 months back in 2005 and 2006. And Kuwait for 12 months in 2009 and 2010. He just missed out on the current deployment but is the rear detachment and is super busy at work running things short staffed. If you need to talk, vent, cry you can PM me. ETA: hope you still have a great birthday.

    This! My uncle is a "lifer" and has been deployed twice since 2005. I know my aunt has gotten lots of support from the FRG and has been able to help the younger wives who haven't been through it before. It might be scary at first, not knowing anyone, but I think you will form bonds quickly with others who are going through the same experience. Plus everyone loves a cute young mom with a cute young baby. :)

    I am so sorry that things are going this way for you. You will find strength in the struggle - you've already proven that is the type of woman you are.  


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  • missbrightside10missbrightside10 member
    :( I'm sorry! I hope you can try and enjoy your birthday anyways!
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  • MsCrispyMsCrispy member
    I am so sorry, I can't even imagine this. I hope you can still enjoy your birthday and your time together before he leaves.

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