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Mother/mother-in-law visiting after baby

arennitasarennitas
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Hi -

  We are expecting our first baby in late February & both of our families live out of state. We have a 2 bedroom house, a huge dog & some very insistent grandmas! I was just wondering if anyone else in this situation had come up with a nice way of saying "thanks for your help, but I will go insane trying to take care of a new baby AND dealing with guests." I appreciate the help they are offering, but feel like this is the time for our small family to bond without people moving in for a month. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!!

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Re: Mother/mother-in-law visiting after baby

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    Find a way to blame it on your dr/midwife. "The dr really feels that it would be best if we had the first month or so to ourselves. After that we'd love to have you for a short stay." And find some local hotels to give them the numbers of.
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  • srd3srd3 member
    I think you just need to be straight forward. It took me a while to do it too. Its awkward! I told mine that I am fine with everyone coming but they have to get a hotel. I would love people to visit off and on during the day but I can't have the added stress of entertaining guest and finding them all places to sleep in the house. Ill leave it up to them if they chose to come right after shes born and get a hotel or wait it out a while. If your more comfortable try doing it in an email or something. Just add it in a conversation, that your feeling stressed about finding everyone a place to sleep..most people would get the hint and offer to stay in a hotel.
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  • silentwatersilentwater
    I agree with the hotel thing if they are really insistant. However, never underestimate the power of extra help. It might be nice to have someone help with chores and such while you are trying to get used to having baby there.
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  • hatchsarhatchsar

    imagesilentwater:
    I agree with the hotel thing if they are really insistant. However, never underestimate the power of extra help. It might be nice to have someone help with chores and such while you are trying to get used to having baby there.

    My in laws came 2 days after i delievered and stayed at a hotel and it didnt help pne bit. My MIL came and all she did was hold my son and went against everything I said. I told her not to use a flash camera  when he was sleeping she did. I told her not to pick him up and let him sleep she did and woke him. And the chores that she said she would help with was to give my son his first bath (I was not happy). And all the time she was visiting I cooked and cleaned.  

    My mother is waiting a few months to visit at first I was so mad now I'm so happy.  

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  • beforesunrisebeforesunrise member
    I'm due in the winter too (march 1st) and also have a 2br, with the second now being the nursery. I hope the cold weather and snow here will keep them away for a bit, as both will have to fly to get to us.
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